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1 00:00:01,669 00:00:03,202 [background ambulance sirens] [background ambulance sirens]
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3 00:00:03,237 00:00:07,773 [music] [music]
4 00:00:07,808 00:00:10,175 [song] "Caught in a down-draft [song] "Caught in a down-draft
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6 00:00:10,211 00:00:12,411 I'm swimming from a life-raft I'm swimming from a life-raft
7 00:00:12,446 00:00:14,780 I'm stuck in an avalanche I'm stuck in an avalanche
8 00:00:14,815 00:00:17,282 I'm swinging from a tree branch I'm swinging from a tree branch
9 00:00:17,318 00:00:19,184 I swear on my momma's I swear on my momma's
10 00:00:19,220 00:00:21,620 good grave life's strange, good grave life's strange,
11 00:00:21,655 00:00:24,523 'Cause only the good die young 'Cause only the good die young
12 00:00:24,558 00:00:27,026 The rest of us just change The rest of us just change
13 00:00:27,061 00:00:28,761 'Cause now it's time to fly 'Cause now it's time to fly
14 00:00:28,796 00:00:30,029 time to rise time to rise
15 00:00:30,064 00:00:31,230 time to glide time to glide
16 00:00:31,265 00:00:32,364 In the air In the air
17 00:00:32,400 00:00:33,599 away up here away up here
18 00:00:33,634 00:00:36,535 In the clear blue atmosphere. In the clear blue atmosphere.
19 00:00:36,570 00:00:38,370 Now it's time to fly Now it's time to fly
20 00:00:38,406 00:00:39,638 time to glide time to glide
21 00:00:39,673 00:00:41,006 time to rise time to rise
22 00:00:41,042 00:00:43,709 Here outside in the esophere Here outside in the esophere
23 00:00:43,744 00:00:46,111 Way up here in the atmosphere." Way up here in the atmosphere."
24 00:00:46,147 00:00:52,251 [music] [music]
25 00:00:52,286 00:00:54,953 John [voice over] >> I remember hearing when I was real little, John [voice over] >> I remember hearing when I was real little,
26 00:00:54,989 00:00:57,489 "things happen for a reason". So when things happened that "things happen for a reason". So when things happened that
27 00:00:57,525 00:01:01,693 made no sense, I would try to find a reason. made no sense, I would try to find a reason.
28 00:01:01,729 00:01:03,862 It's strange because some things actually don't make It's strange because some things actually don't make
29 00:01:03,898 00:01:07,599 sense, until you make sense of them...later. sense, until you make sense of them...later.
30 00:01:07,635 00:01:10,269 after the fact. after the fact.
31 00:01:10,304 00:01:26,418 [music] [music]
32 00:01:28,622 00:01:30,689 Hi. Hi.
33 00:01:30,758 00:01:33,559 Thank you. Thank you.
34 00:01:33,594 00:01:36,361 [music] [music]
35 00:01:36,397 00:01:40,466 I'm John... Sharon, hi. I'm John... Sharon, hi.
36 00:01:40,501 00:01:42,167 What? Nothing... What? Nothing...
37 00:01:42,203 00:01:44,136 You pulled my chair out for me. You pulled my chair out for me.
38 00:01:44,171 00:01:46,638 Yeah? Somebody raised you right, Yeah? Somebody raised you right,
39 00:01:46,674 00:01:48,607 or you have older sisters. or you have older sisters.
40 00:01:48,642 00:01:50,843 Two. One older, one younger... Two. One older, one younger...
41 00:01:50,878 00:01:53,312 Well, one sister really. Well, one sister really.
42 00:01:53,347 00:01:57,449 I guess it's two sisters. You "guess"? I guess it's two sisters. You "guess"?
43 00:01:57,485 00:01:59,251 It's complicated... It's complicated...
44 00:01:59,286 00:02:01,320 I hope not for your mother. I hope not for your mother.
45 00:02:01,355 00:02:03,322 It might have killed her. It might have killed her.
46 00:02:03,357 00:02:06,492 Sharon >> Oh, come on. Sharon >> Oh, come on.
47 00:02:06,527 00:02:08,360 Actually... Actually...
48 00:02:08,395 00:02:12,998 She died of cancer. She died of cancer.
49 00:02:13,033 00:02:16,602 I'm...so sorry. I'm...so sorry.
50 00:02:16,637 00:02:20,572 What about your mom? What about your mom?
51 00:02:20,608 00:02:22,541 Um... Um...
52 00:02:22,576 00:02:27,246 sometimes, I just wish she were dead. sometimes, I just wish she were dead.
53 00:02:27,281 00:02:30,349 [music, voices fade...] [music, voices fade...]
54 00:02:30,384 00:02:32,217 [music] [music]
55 00:02:32,253 00:02:34,686 Susie >> I don't understand... John >> I didn't at first Susie >> I don't understand... John >> I didn't at first
56 00:02:34,722 00:02:36,421 either, but then it dawned on me either, but then it dawned on me
57 00:02:36,457 00:02:38,524 You have two more years here. So? You have two more years here. So?
58 00:02:38,559 00:02:40,425 Later today, when I get the diploma, I can't see Later today, when I get the diploma, I can't see
59 00:02:40,461 00:02:42,861 myself setting foot on camp myself setting foot on camp
60 00:02:42,897 00:02:45,430 This part's over for me. Did you know Ring Lardner This part's over for me. Did you know Ring Lardner
61 00:02:45,466 00:02:48,100 was a reporter in Chicago when he was nineteen. was a reporter in Chicago when he was nineteen.
62 00:02:48,135 00:02:51,737 So theoretically, I'm behind. I haven't seen the world. So theoretically, I'm behind. I haven't seen the world.
63 00:02:51,772 00:02:53,672 Don't you want to see the world in two years? Don't you want to see the world in two years?
64 00:02:53,707 00:02:56,375 I thought we'd see the world together. I thought we'd see the world together.
65 00:02:56,410 00:03:00,812 I gotta go get my cap and gown. I gotta go get my cap and gown.
66 00:03:00,848 00:03:02,848 [footsteps] [footsteps]
67 00:03:02,883 00:03:04,583 Wasn't it something? Wasn't it something?
68 00:03:04,618 00:03:08,320 Four years, in the blink of an eye, huh? Four years, in the blink of an eye, huh?
69 00:03:08,355 00:03:15,427 [footsteps] [footsteps]
70 00:03:15,462 00:03:17,462 John >> Dad, I'd like you to meet Frank. John >> Dad, I'd like you to meet Frank.
71 00:03:17,498 00:03:19,364 He's been my roommate the last few semesters. He's been my roommate the last few semesters.
72 00:03:19,400 00:03:21,733 What happened to David? Anne >> He transferred, dear. What happened to David? Anne >> He transferred, dear.
73 00:03:21,769 00:03:23,235 Mary >> Like, two years ago, Dad. Mary >> Like, two years ago, Dad.
74 00:03:23,270 00:03:25,103 Anne >> Ohh... thank you. Anne >> Ohh... thank you.
75 00:03:25,139 00:03:27,773 Nice meeting you. Bill >> Nice meeting you. Nice meeting you. Bill >> Nice meeting you.
76 00:03:27,808 00:03:30,776 John >> And this is my mom. Frank >> Pleasure to meet you. John >> And this is my mom. Frank >> Pleasure to meet you.
77 00:03:30,811 00:03:32,477 Anne >> Congratulations. Thanks very much. Anne >> Congratulations. Thanks very much.
78 00:03:32,513 00:03:34,046 Are your parents here? I'd love to meet them. Are your parents here? I'd love to meet them.
79 00:03:34,081 00:03:36,381 I think they found themselves a spot in the shade. I think they found themselves a spot in the shade.
80 00:03:36,417 00:03:38,150 Lucky. I'll let them know Lucky. I'll let them know
81 00:03:38,185 00:03:39,985 you asked after them. You remember Mary? you asked after them. You remember Mary?
82 00:03:40,020 00:03:42,020 Sure. How're you doin'? Good. Sure. How're you doin'? Good.
83 00:03:42,056 00:03:44,323 John >> And this is Caryl. Hi. John >> And this is Caryl. Hi.
84 00:03:44,358 00:03:47,426 Surprised you made it, Caryl. Nice to meet you. Surprised you made it, Caryl. Nice to meet you.
85 00:03:47,461 00:03:52,264 Nice to meet you, too. Anne >> Caryl. Nice to meet you, too. Anne >> Caryl.
86 00:03:52,299 00:03:56,768 We're gonna go get ready. Okay, comb your hair! We're gonna go get ready. Okay, comb your hair!
87 00:03:56,804 00:03:59,438 You never said you had an older sister. You never said you had an older sister.
88 00:03:59,473 00:04:02,908 I don't. Then who's Caryl? I don't. Then who's Caryl?
89 00:04:02,943 00:04:18,991 [footsteps] [footsteps]
90 00:04:27,835 00:04:31,803 I thought you went to the restroom. I thought you went to the restroom.
91 00:04:31,839 00:04:38,076 I don't want to do this around your mom. I don't want to do this around your mom.
92 00:04:38,112 00:04:40,612 You should go back inside. You should go back inside.
93 00:04:40,648 00:04:42,414 I'll be done in a minute. I'll be done in a minute.
94 00:04:42,449 00:04:45,851 [footsteps] [footsteps]
95 00:04:45,886 00:04:48,854 Gotta love that... Gotta love that...
96 00:04:54,395 00:04:57,062 It's a good thing we could all do this for you. It's a good thing we could all do this for you.
97 00:05:00,534 00:05:02,501 [footsteps] [footsteps]
98 00:05:02,536 00:05:05,070 [ding, ding] Anne >> There we go. [ding, ding] Anne >> There we go.
99 00:05:05,105 00:05:08,173 I would like to say something. I would like to say something.
100 00:05:08,208 00:05:13,011 John... Mom... John... Mom...
101 00:05:13,047 00:05:16,181 I am...well, we all are feeling a great deal of I am...well, we all are feeling a great deal of
102 00:05:16,216 00:05:19,451 joy seeing you finish. Not to mention joy seeing you finish. Not to mention
103 00:05:19,486 00:05:21,853 financial relief. Mary >> And surprise! financial relief. Mary >> And surprise!
104 00:05:21,889 00:05:25,123 Anne >> Not true, not true. I think we should all raise Anne >> Not true, not true. I think we should all raise
105 00:05:25,159 00:05:28,760 our glasses in honour of a job well done... our glasses in honour of a job well done...
106 00:05:28,796 00:05:30,529 Dad, fill her glass. It's bad luck to toast Dad, fill her glass. It's bad luck to toast
107 00:05:30,564 00:05:32,531 with water. Oh, nonsense, no. with water. Oh, nonsense, no.
108 00:05:32,566 00:05:37,235 I'll have some wine, Dad. [laughter] I'll have some wine, Dad. [laughter]
109 00:05:37,271 00:05:40,939 Anne >> Okay. Honey, we're all so proud Anne >> Okay. Honey, we're all so proud
110 00:05:40,974 00:05:43,842 of all the work you've done here. of all the work you've done here.
111 00:05:43,877 00:05:48,280 And I love you. And I love you.
112 00:05:48,315 00:05:51,216 Cheers. All >> Congratulations. Cheers. All >> Congratulations.
113 00:05:51,251 00:05:53,418 Thank you. Thank you.
114 00:05:53,454 00:05:58,223 [background music] [background music]
115 00:05:58,258 00:06:02,060 Anne >> Um...One more thing I'd like to share, and Anne >> Um...One more thing I'd like to share, and
116 00:06:02,096 00:06:04,796 I know you're going to say I really pick my moments - I know you're going to say I really pick my moments -
117 00:06:04,832 00:06:07,666 but I think if I say it here, on this happy day, but I think if I say it here, on this happy day,
118 00:06:07,701 00:06:12,304 that you will all understand that I can handle it, that you will all understand that I can handle it,
119 00:06:12,339 00:06:18,377 and right now it's just part of our landscape, that's all. and right now it's just part of our landscape, that's all.
120 00:06:18,412 00:06:22,681 Recently I found a lump in my breast. Recently I found a lump in my breast.
121 00:06:22,716 00:06:26,985 And it's cancerous and it has to come out. And it's cancerous and it has to come out.
122 00:06:27,020 00:06:32,224 And so it will. And so it will.
123 00:06:32,259 00:06:35,193 Simple. Simple.
124 00:06:35,229 00:06:42,901 [background music] [background music]
125 00:06:42,936 00:06:45,871 Mary >> Mom, when did you find it? Mary >> Mom, when did you find it?
126 00:06:45,906 00:06:48,874 Anne >> Hey, I, uh... Anne >> Hey, I, uh...
127 00:06:48,909 00:06:51,376 I'd like some dessert. I don't know about you. I'd like some dessert. I don't know about you.
128 00:06:51,412 00:06:54,012 Who's going to join me? Who's going to join me?
129 00:06:54,047 00:06:57,215 Cheesecake, they have a mean cheesecake here. Cheesecake, they have a mean cheesecake here.
130 00:06:57,251 00:07:13,298 [music] [music]
131 00:07:23,143 00:07:25,143 Anne >> Oh, I think we're out of light-bulbs. Anne >> Oh, I think we're out of light-bulbs.
132 00:07:25,179 00:07:27,212 I didn't know you were here. Caryl >> Oh, I just had I didn't know you were here. Caryl >> Oh, I just had
133 00:07:27,247 00:07:29,314 a few things to wash. I hope you don't mind. a few things to wash. I hope you don't mind.
134 00:07:29,349 00:07:31,082 You don't have to be doing my laundry. You don't have to be doing my laundry.
135 00:07:31,118 00:07:32,617 Oh. These are yours. Oh. These are yours.
136 00:07:32,653 00:07:34,653 I hope that's okay... Well, of course it is. I hope that's okay... Well, of course it is.
137 00:07:34,688 00:07:37,422 You don't need to ask. Is this all you have? You don't need to ask. Is this all you have?
138 00:07:37,458 00:07:39,024 Well, I fell asleep on the couch a couple of times Well, I fell asleep on the couch a couple of times
139 00:07:39,059 00:07:41,793 and I haven't had a chance to go home. and I haven't had a chance to go home.
140 00:07:41,829 00:07:47,532 Don't you know how welcome you are by now, Caryl? Don't you know how welcome you are by now, Caryl?
141 00:07:47,568 00:07:50,469 I wanted to ask you something. I wanted to ask you something.
142 00:07:50,504 00:07:52,571 I, um... I, um...
143 00:07:52,606 00:07:54,906 I have to leave my apartment, I have to leave my apartment,
144 00:07:54,942 00:07:58,477 and I can't go home. and I can't go home.
145 00:07:58,512 00:08:02,013 And I was kind of hoping... And I was kind of hoping...
146 00:08:02,049 00:08:03,482 that... that...
147 00:08:03,517 00:08:07,619 maybe you'd want me to stay. maybe you'd want me to stay.
148 00:08:07,654 00:08:10,856 More than you know. More than you know.
149 00:08:12,726 00:08:18,530 [footsteps] [footsteps]
150 00:08:18,565 00:08:21,366 John [voice over] >> I'd never seen mom in a way, before. John [voice over] >> I'd never seen mom in a way, before.
151 00:08:21,401 00:08:23,134 I didn't think anyone was home. I didn't think anyone was home.
152 00:08:23,170 00:08:25,070 Hi, stranger! Hi, stranger!
153 00:08:25,105 00:08:27,172 I didn't hear your car. Hey, Mom. I didn't hear your car. Hey, Mom.
154 00:08:27,207 00:08:31,743 Hey... Hey...
155 00:08:31,812 00:08:33,678 Hi. Hi.
156 00:08:33,714 00:08:41,586 [music] [music]
157 00:08:41,622 00:08:46,124 Mickey >> How fast are you? Fast, sir? Mickey >> How fast are you? Fast, sir?
158 00:08:46,159 00:08:49,127 You really need to cut out the "sir" business. You really need to cut out the "sir" business.
159 00:08:49,162 00:08:50,762 In fact, the whole "aw, shucks, look at the big buildings" In fact, the whole "aw, shucks, look at the big buildings"
160 00:08:50,797 00:08:52,797 bit went out with Menudo. bit went out with Menudo.
161 00:08:52,833 00:08:54,432 Can you type fast? Can you type fast?
162 00:08:54,468 00:08:56,801 When there is something to write. When there is something to write.
163 00:08:56,837 00:09:04,476 [rustle of papers] [rustle of papers]
164 00:09:04,511 00:09:06,545 Cat statistics... Cat statistics...
165 00:09:06,580 00:09:08,847 More people own cats in the Village than in any More people own cats in the Village than in any
166 00:09:08,882 00:09:10,815 other part of the city. other part of the city.
167 00:09:10,851 00:09:13,285 That's got to be worth 1,500 words, right? That's got to be worth 1,500 words, right?
168 00:09:13,320 00:09:16,755 Type fast, I'll read, and we'll talk about more. Type fast, I'll read, and we'll talk about more.
169 00:09:22,863 00:09:26,231 [door clicks open and closed] [door clicks open and closed]
170 00:09:26,266 00:09:39,377 [footsteps] [footsteps]
171 00:09:39,413 00:09:42,147 [whispers] >> Mom...? [whispers] >> Mom...?
172 00:09:42,182 00:09:46,685 Hmmm? Hmmm?
173 00:09:46,720 00:09:50,722 I wasn't waiting up, I swear. I wasn't waiting up, I swear.
174 00:09:50,757 00:09:52,991 I couldn't sleep. I couldn't sleep.
175 00:09:53,026 00:09:55,794 You know, I get so tired, and then my mind starts racing You know, I get so tired, and then my mind starts racing
176 00:09:55,829 00:09:59,831 and I... Look. and I... Look.
177 00:09:59,866 00:10:04,703 She looks so sweet like that. Even with her taste in clothes. She looks so sweet like that. Even with her taste in clothes.
178 00:10:04,738 00:10:08,940 She came right home after her night classes to sit with me. She came right home after her night classes to sit with me.
179 00:10:08,976 00:10:12,043 How was your evening? How was your evening?
180 00:10:12,079 00:10:13,845 Can we talk a sec? Can we talk a sec?
181 00:10:13,880 00:10:15,380 Is everything okay? Is everything okay?
182 00:10:15,415 00:10:17,549 Yeah, yeah. I just... Yeah, yeah. I just...
183 00:10:17,584 00:10:19,951 We haven't had a chance to talk the past few weeks. We haven't had a chance to talk the past few weeks.
184 00:10:19,987 00:10:22,487 and I wanted to... and I wanted to...
185 00:10:22,522 00:10:24,656 wanted to... I dunno... wanted to... I dunno...
186 00:10:24,691 00:10:28,159 I wanted to ask you something. I wanted to ask you something.
187 00:10:28,195 00:10:30,629 Caryl >> Oh, hi, John. Hey. Caryl >> Oh, hi, John. Hey.
188 00:10:30,664 00:10:32,564 I must have dozed off. I must have dozed off.
189 00:10:32,599 00:10:35,400 Why don't you go upstairs, and get some sleep, honey. Why don't you go upstairs, and get some sleep, honey.
190 00:10:35,435 00:10:37,035 Can I help you with anything? Can I help you with anything?
191 00:10:37,070 00:10:40,939 Oh, I'm fine, thanks. Oh, I'm fine, thanks.
192 00:10:40,974 00:10:44,476 I'll take that. I'll take that.
193 00:10:44,511 00:10:47,579 Good night. Good night. Good night. Good night.
194 00:10:47,614 00:10:52,017 Ahem. Ahem.
195 00:10:52,052 00:10:55,654 She is such a blessing. She is such a blessing.
196 00:10:55,689 00:11:00,425 What did you want to talk about, honey? What did you want to talk about, honey?
197 00:11:00,460 00:11:02,127 I still have a little bit of money saved up from I still have a little bit of money saved up from
198 00:11:02,162 00:11:05,830 working last summer. working last summer.
199 00:11:05,866 00:11:08,833 Um... Um...
200 00:11:08,869 00:11:11,002 I know my timing's bad... I know my timing's bad...
201 00:11:11,038 00:11:14,873 but with Caryl here, and Mary... but with Caryl here, and Mary...
202 00:11:14,908 00:11:17,475 Yeah...? Yeah...?
203 00:11:17,511 00:11:20,979 I think it's time I found a place of my own. I think it's time I found a place of my own.
204 00:11:21,014 00:11:23,114 Except for college, I've been here in this house Except for college, I've been here in this house
205 00:11:23,150 00:11:26,584 my whole life. I wanna live on my own. my whole life. I wanna live on my own.
206 00:11:26,620 00:11:29,054 Pay my own bills, cook my own dinner... Pay my own bills, cook my own dinner...
207 00:11:29,089 00:11:32,924 Let's not get excessive. Let's not get excessive.
208 00:11:32,959 00:11:34,893 Seriously, Mom. Seriously, Mom.
209 00:11:34,928 00:11:37,629 Don't you think it's time? Don't you think it's time?
210 00:11:37,664 00:11:38,463 What? What?
211 00:11:38,498 00:11:40,031 What? I was thinking about What? I was thinking about
212 00:11:40,067 00:11:45,470 something I read this morning. Something about "change", something I read this morning. Something about "change",
213 00:11:45,505 00:11:50,408 about being open to change. about being open to change.
214 00:11:50,444 00:11:52,210 I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
215 00:11:52,245 00:11:55,647 Oh, no, honey. I knew you were going to ask me. Oh, no, honey. I knew you were going to ask me.
216 00:11:55,682 00:11:58,650 I just can't say I was looking forward to it. I just can't say I was looking forward to it.
217 00:11:58,685 00:12:04,956 [music] [music]
218 00:12:04,991 00:12:09,360 John, some kids never leave the space John, some kids never leave the space
219 00:12:09,396 00:12:11,830 they grew up in. they grew up in.
220 00:12:11,865 00:12:14,766 But that's not you. But that's not you.
221 00:12:14,801 00:12:30,849 [music] [music]
222 00:12:47,634 00:13:03,114 [footsteps] [footsteps]
223 00:13:04,451 00:13:06,985 Is someone there? Is someone there?
224 00:13:07,020 00:13:23,034 [music] [music]
225 00:13:43,523 00:13:46,791 John [voice-over] >> I dated. A lot John [voice-over] >> I dated. A lot
226 00:13:46,827 00:13:49,627 [laughter] [laughter]
227 00:13:49,663 00:13:52,997 For some reason, I used to tell them that I was alone, For some reason, I used to tell them that I was alone,
228 00:13:53,033 00:13:56,601 with no family, no baggage, no obligations. with no family, no baggage, no obligations.
229 00:13:56,636 00:14:03,074 [music] [music]
230 00:14:03,109 00:14:06,077 Then I met this girl I really liked. Gwen. Then I met this girl I really liked. Gwen.
231 00:14:06,112 00:14:11,382 She was a reporter like me, except she grew up in the city. She was a reporter like me, except she grew up in the city.
232 00:14:11,418 00:14:16,554 [phone rings] [phone rings]
233 00:14:16,590 00:14:18,556 Hello. Hello.
234 00:14:18,592 00:14:20,491 Mary >> ...Well, it hasn't gone to her lymph nodes, Mary >> ...Well, it hasn't gone to her lymph nodes,
235 00:14:20,527 00:14:22,694 thank goodness, so, she's 'stage one'. thank goodness, so, she's 'stage one'.
236 00:14:22,729 00:14:24,462 It's not like Mom's... It's not like Mom's...
237 00:14:24,497 00:14:26,664 Let me call you back... Let me call you back...
238 00:14:26,700 00:14:28,600 Yeah, let me... I understand. Yeah, let me... I understand.
239 00:14:28,635 00:14:31,502 John, it's just that it was first Mom, and now it's Caryl. John, it's just that it was first Mom, and now it's Caryl.
240 00:14:31,538 00:14:35,740 You should be here. You should be here.
241 00:14:35,775 00:14:39,377 Tell Mom... Yeah, tell her I will. Tell Mom... Yeah, tell her I will.
242 00:14:39,412 00:14:46,918 I'm going to have to call you back. I'm going to have to call you back.
243 00:14:46,953 00:14:50,021 So, what do you think? So, what do you think?
244 00:14:50,056 00:14:57,896 [music] [music]
245 00:14:57,931 00:14:59,797 Gwen >> Well, the article's fine. Gwen >> Well, the article's fine.
246 00:14:59,833 00:15:03,434 But, did you ever think you could But, did you ever think you could
247 00:15:03,470 00:15:05,570 You know, more? You know, more?
248 00:15:05,605 00:15:13,244 [music] [music]
249 00:15:13,280 00:15:20,485 [phone rings] [phone rings]
250 00:15:20,520 00:15:24,322 [recording] >> Hey, [recording] >> Hey,
251 00:15:24,357 00:15:26,557 Mary [on phone] >> Caryl's going for her biopsy tomorrow. Mary [on phone] >> Caryl's going for her biopsy tomorrow.
252 00:15:26,593 00:15:30,528 I need to talk to you. [beep] I need to talk to you. [beep]
253 00:15:30,563 00:15:32,263 John [voice over] >> I couldn't bring myself John [voice over] >> I couldn't bring myself
254 00:15:32,299 00:15:36,734 to pick up the phone. to pick up the phone.
255 00:15:41,808 00:15:44,575 Take a look at this... Take a look at this...
256 00:15:44,611 00:15:46,577 In and out of foster homes. In and out of foster homes.
257 00:15:46,613 00:15:49,547 the last eight years or so. the last eight years or so.
258 00:15:49,582 00:15:51,482 Where is she now? You tell me. Where is she now? You tell me.
259 00:15:51,518 00:15:53,584 Her name is Johanna Wilson. Her mother died of AIDS Her name is Johanna Wilson. Her mother died of AIDS
260 00:15:53,620 00:15:57,288 two years ago. She never knew her father. two years ago. She never knew her father.
261 00:15:57,324 00:16:00,191 The last story I wrote was about street musicians. The last story I wrote was about street musicians.
262 00:16:00,226 00:16:01,926 I write character pieces. I write character pieces.
263 00:16:01,962 00:16:04,228 I don't know anything about foster care. I don't know anything about foster care.
264 00:16:04,264 00:16:09,934 You should. You should.
265 00:16:09,970 00:16:12,904 Eight years? Eight years?
266 00:16:12,939 00:16:21,879 Of hell. Of hell.
267 00:16:21,915 00:16:25,016 You don't need me to insist. You don't need me to insist.
268 00:16:31,191 00:16:38,229 [music] [music]
269 00:16:38,264 00:16:43,801 Anne >> I just wanted it to be a surprise for her. Anne >> I just wanted it to be a surprise for her.
270 00:16:43,837 00:16:46,504 What happened to all my stuff? What happened to all my stuff?
271 00:16:46,539 00:16:49,207 Oh, it's mostly in the garage, except for those Oh, it's mostly in the garage, except for those
272 00:16:49,242 00:16:53,745 magazines I threw out, for obvious reasons. magazines I threw out, for obvious reasons.
273 00:16:53,780 00:16:56,748 I wanted her to have a nice place to do her homework. I wanted her to have a nice place to do her homework.
274 00:16:56,783 00:16:59,350 She comes here most of the time after her night classes now. She comes here most of the time after her night classes now.
275 00:16:59,386 00:17:02,620 She likes quiet for studying. I mean, who doesn't? She likes quiet for studying. I mean, who doesn't?
276 00:17:02,655 00:17:05,423 [Anne hums] [Anne hums]
277 00:17:05,458 00:17:07,358 Okay, so what do you think? Okay, so what do you think?
278 00:17:07,394 00:17:10,061 [Anne hums a tune] [Anne hums a tune]
279 00:17:10,096 00:17:12,597 What is that you're humming? What is that you're humming?
280 00:17:12,632 00:17:16,000 [sings] "Are you going to Scarborough Fair?" [sings] "Are you going to Scarborough Fair?"
281 00:17:16,036 00:17:17,802 Do you remember that? Do you remember that?
282 00:17:17,837 00:17:20,872 I think it's a little before my time. I think it's a little before my time.
283 00:17:20,907 00:17:23,808 I used to sing. I used to sing a lot more. I used to sing. I used to sing a lot more.
284 00:17:23,843 00:17:27,879 Kinda makes all the hard work easier. Kinda makes all the hard work easier.
285 00:17:27,914 00:17:31,983 [Anne hums] [Anne hums]
286 00:17:32,018 00:17:35,920 Hey, is Caryl...? She's okay? Hey, is Caryl...? She's okay?
287 00:17:35,955 00:17:39,991 With the chemo? With the chemo?
288 00:17:40,026 00:17:45,496 Well, she's tired a lot, but she knows the drill, so... Well, she's tired a lot, but she knows the drill, so...
289 00:17:45,532 00:17:50,134 [hums] [hums]
290 00:17:50,170 00:17:57,642 So I'm working on this piece for the paper, and... So I'm working on this piece for the paper, and...
291 00:17:57,677 00:18:04,549 Your generosity amazes me. Your generosity amazes me.
292 00:18:04,584 00:18:09,887 [sings] "Remember me to the one who lives there... [sings] "Remember me to the one who lives there...
293 00:18:09,923 00:18:10,655 She on She on
294 00:18:10,690 00:18:17,695 She once was a true love of mine." She once was a true love of mine."
295 00:18:26,973 00:18:29,907 Doggone it. Doggone it.
296 00:18:29,943 00:18:45,957 [music] [music]
297 00:18:45,992 00:18:48,159 Mrs. Montain? Who's asking? Mrs. Montain? Who's asking?
298 00:18:48,194 00:18:49,894 John Stevenson, West Village Weekly. John Stevenson, West Village Weekly.
299 00:18:49,929 00:18:51,596 I was wondering if I could get a few moments of your time. I was wondering if I could get a few moments of your time.
300 00:18:51,631 00:18:54,732 This about Johanna? Yes, it is. This about Johanna? Yes, it is.
301 00:18:54,767 00:18:56,267 So you're going to, what? So you're going to, what?
302 00:18:56,302 00:18:57,835 Ask me a few questions about my sister, and then write Ask me a few questions about my sister, and then write
303 00:18:57,871 00:18:59,370 whatever you want? whatever you want?
304 00:18:59,439 00:19:01,372 Make her sound like a monster and such. Make her sound like a monster and such.
305 00:19:01,407 00:19:03,708 I wanted to hear your thoughts...to be fair. I wanted to hear your thoughts...to be fair.
306 00:19:03,743 00:19:06,944 You wanted to be "fair"? What do you know about fair? You wanted to be "fair"? What do you know about fair?
307 00:19:06,980 00:19:09,046 The paper prides itself... The "paper"? The paper prides itself... The "paper"?
308 00:19:09,082 00:19:11,482 What about you? Where are you from? What about you? Where are you from?
309 00:19:11,518 00:19:14,018 New Canaan. New Canaan? New Canaan. New Canaan?
310 00:19:14,053 00:19:15,686 Sounds biblical. Where's it at? Sounds biblical. Where's it at?
311 00:19:15,722 00:19:17,989 Connecticut. Connecticut.
312 00:19:18,024 00:19:19,824 Do you have any children, Mr. Stevenson? Do you have any children, Mr. Stevenson?
313 00:19:19,893 00:19:22,860 No. But do you have family? No. But do you have family?
314 00:19:22,896 00:19:25,096 Of course. I have four of my own, but Of course. I have four of my own, but
315 00:19:25,131 00:19:28,199 I was going to take Johanna in. My sister's baby, right? I was going to take Johanna in. My sister's baby, right?
316 00:19:28,234 00:19:31,936 But the city wouldn't allow me... But the city wouldn't allow me...
317 00:19:31,971 00:19:37,141 There are certain things I won't talk about to a stranger. There are certain things I won't talk about to a stranger.
318 00:19:41,681 00:19:48,186 My sister knew she had a problem, a disease. My sister knew she had a problem, a disease.
319 00:19:48,221 00:19:54,625 From living the life you live, sometimes it's unavoidable. From living the life you live, sometimes it's unavoidable.
320 00:19:54,661 00:19:57,328 But that little girl, But that little girl,
321 00:19:57,363 00:20:02,466 she never gave up... she never gave up...
322 00:20:02,502 00:20:04,101 house to house, house to house,
323 00:20:04,137 00:20:10,041 pig to pig... pig to pig...
324 00:20:10,076 00:20:14,412 Haven't you ever been faced with something Haven't you ever been faced with something
325 00:20:14,447 00:20:17,748 that's bigger than your own needs? that's bigger than your own needs?
326 00:20:17,784 00:20:33,664 [music] [music]
327 00:20:51,117 00:20:54,151 You okay? You okay?
328 00:20:54,187 00:20:57,521 John? Yeah. John? Yeah.
329 00:20:57,557 00:21:01,058 You haven't been sleeping much lately. You haven't been sleeping much lately.
330 00:21:01,094 00:21:03,494 How old do you think she is? How old do you think she is?
331 00:21:03,529 00:21:05,830 I thought you said she was twelve there. I thought you said she was twelve there.
332 00:21:05,865 00:21:11,769 If you were judging from her eyes, you would say she was 50. If you were judging from her eyes, you would say she was 50.
333 00:21:11,804 00:21:15,206 So she's keeping you awake? So she's keeping you awake?
334 00:21:15,241 00:21:16,907 I don't know. Because I thought I don't know. Because I thought
335 00:21:16,943 00:21:19,410 it had something to do with the answering machine. it had something to do with the answering machine.
336 00:21:19,445 00:21:22,546 Just before, when you went out for coffee. Just before, when you went out for coffee.
337 00:21:22,582 00:21:27,118 Who's Mary? Who's Mary?
338 00:21:27,153 00:21:32,156 Just by the sounds of it I'm guessing she's your sister. Just by the sounds of it I'm guessing she's your sister.
339 00:21:32,191 00:21:36,260 Hey look, this story that you're writing is designed Hey look, this story that you're writing is designed
340 00:21:36,296 00:21:38,296 to make you feel guilty, to make the reader feel guilty. to make you feel guilty, to make the reader feel guilty.
341 00:21:38,331 00:21:40,931 But I think that you're the one who feels guilty But I think that you're the one who feels guilty
342 00:21:40,967 00:21:43,601 about something else. about something else.
343 00:21:43,636 00:21:45,403 You're going to tell me how I'm feeling now, Gwen? You're going to tell me how I'm feeling now, Gwen?
344 00:21:45,438 00:21:47,305 Is that it? Is that it?
345 00:21:47,340 00:21:50,074 No. No.
346 00:21:50,109 00:21:53,377 Besides how can I do something you won't even do for yourself? Besides how can I do something you won't even do for yourself?
347 00:21:53,413 00:21:56,881 This is, what? This is, what?
348 00:21:56,916 00:21:59,317 Yeah. Yeah.
349 00:21:59,352 00:22:01,152 I'm leaving. Because every time we talk I'm leaving. Because every time we talk
350 00:22:01,187 00:22:06,257 about your background, you just end up shutting off. about your background, you just end up shutting off.
351 00:22:06,292 00:22:08,793 I wish you'd tell me what you're so afraid of. I wish you'd tell me what you're so afraid of.
352 00:22:08,828 00:22:12,963 [footsteps] [footsteps]
353 00:22:12,999 00:22:16,033 Your other sister, Caryl, she's obviously very sick. Your other sister, Caryl, she's obviously very sick.
354 00:22:16,069 00:22:17,968 And your family needs you... And your family needs you...
355 00:22:18,004 00:22:19,737 and your time. Okay? and your time. Okay?
356 00:22:19,772 00:22:21,806 What's the harm in telling you that? What's the harm in telling you that?
357 00:22:21,874 00:22:23,774 She's not my sister. She's not my sister.
358 00:22:23,810 00:22:25,710 Ohh... don't... Ohh... don't...
359 00:22:25,745 00:22:29,013 I have been with liars before. I am not doing it again. I have been with liars before. I am not doing it again.
360 00:22:29,048 00:22:30,614 She's not my sister. You don't know what She's not my sister. You don't know what
361 00:22:30,650 00:22:34,151 you're talking about. you're talking about.
362 00:22:34,187 00:22:37,355 Don't leave! Don't leave!
363 00:22:37,390 00:22:38,956 [slam] [slam]
364 00:22:38,991 00:22:41,659 Fine. Okay. Fine. Okay.
365 00:22:41,694 00:22:43,361 But do me a favour, do us both a favour, But do me a favour, do us both a favour,
366 00:22:43,429 00:22:46,297 and just tell me the truth. and just tell me the truth.
367 00:22:52,472 00:22:54,805 Okay... damn it. Okay... damn it.
368 00:22:54,841 00:22:57,908 [footsteps] [footsteps]
369 00:22:57,944 00:22:59,577 [slam] [slam]
370 00:23:04,250 00:23:14,258 [footsteps] [footsteps]
371 00:23:14,293 00:23:16,193 [beep] [beep]
372 00:23:16,229 00:23:17,928 Mary's voice >> John... Mary's voice >> John...
373 00:23:17,964 00:23:19,997 are you screening? are you screening?
374 00:23:20,032 00:23:21,932 You know, you should really call... You know, you should really call...
375 00:23:21,968 00:23:24,235 for Mom's sake. for Mom's sake.
376 00:23:24,270 00:23:26,137 Honestly, for mine, too, Honestly, for mine, too,
377 00:23:26,172 00:23:28,239 and Caryl. and Caryl.
378 00:23:28,274 00:23:31,075 Okay, bye. [beep] Okay, bye. [beep]
379 00:23:31,110 00:23:40,885 [music] [music]
380 00:23:40,920 00:23:42,653 [honk, honk, honk] [honk, honk, honk]
381 00:23:42,688 00:23:45,055 John >> HEY! CARYL! John >> HEY! CARYL!
382 00:23:45,091 00:23:47,091 Caryl >> Hey! Caryl >> Hey!
383 00:23:47,126 00:24:02,973 [music] [music]
384 00:24:03,009 00:24:05,309 Well, this is a nice surprise. Well, this is a nice surprise.
385 00:24:05,344 00:24:07,044 What's with the lift? What's with the lift?
386 00:24:07,079 00:24:08,512 I know you come into the city for night school, I know you come into the city for night school,
387 00:24:08,548 00:24:10,848 so I just... I don't know. so I just... I don't know.
388 00:24:10,883 00:24:14,318 I hadn't seen you in a while. I hadn't seen you in a while.
389 00:24:14,353 00:24:18,355 I'm okay, John. I'm okay, John.
390 00:24:18,391 00:24:20,758 Hey, thanks for your room, by the way. Hey, thanks for your room, by the way.
391 00:24:20,793 00:24:23,828 Mom's idea, actually. Yeah, but it's still Mom's idea, actually. Yeah, but it's still
392 00:24:23,863 00:24:26,831 your room. Good point. your room. Good point.
393 00:24:26,866 00:24:29,066 Hey, I'd offer you a piece, but it's nicotine gum. Hey, I'd offer you a piece, but it's nicotine gum.
394 00:24:29,101 00:24:31,502 The higher powers have given me the message - The higher powers have given me the message -
395 00:24:31,537 00:24:34,438 it's time to quit. it's time to quit.
396 00:24:37,677 00:24:40,778 I wanted to thank you... I wanted to thank you...
397 00:24:40,813 00:24:43,781 What for? Mom. What for? Mom.
398 00:24:43,816 00:24:45,616 Helping with Mom. Helping with Mom.
399 00:24:45,651 00:24:47,885 You don't have to. She gives as good as You don't have to. She gives as good as
400 00:24:47,920 00:24:50,354 she gets, your mother. she gets, your mother.
401 00:24:50,389 00:24:52,389 Still... Still...
402 00:24:52,425 00:24:52,957 Wel Wel
403 00:24:52,992 00:24:54,358 Well, you're welcome. Well, you're welcome.
404 00:24:59,932 00:25:02,867 It's this one. It's this one.
405 00:25:02,902 00:25:04,335 I'm sorry... I'm sorry...
406 00:25:04,370 00:25:06,170 No, don't be. You think you're No, don't be. You think you're
407 00:25:06,205 00:25:08,572 the only one that looks? the only one that looks?
408 00:25:08,608 00:25:12,510 I just wish people would ask. I just wish people would ask.
409 00:25:12,545 00:25:15,112 I would've done the same for you, you know? I would've done the same for you, you know?
410 00:25:15,147 00:25:17,615 If anything, heaven forbid, ever happened. If anything, heaven forbid, ever happened.
411 00:25:17,650 00:25:19,183 Whatever. That's the way it works Whatever. That's the way it works
412 00:25:19,218 00:25:21,886 with family. with family.
413 00:25:21,921 00:25:24,255 Love is not debt, John. Love is not debt, John.
414 00:25:24,290 00:25:26,590 Your mom taught me that. Your mom taught me that.
415 00:25:26,626 00:25:31,462 [music] [music]
416 00:25:34,967 00:25:39,570 [splashes of water] [splashes of water]
417 00:25:39,605 00:25:47,978 [clinking of dishes] [clinking of dishes]
418 00:25:48,014 00:25:50,214 Bill >> John? Bill >> John?
419 00:25:50,249 00:25:54,084 [footsteps] [footsteps]
420 00:25:54,120 00:25:56,520 So how long are you staying this time? So how long are you staying this time?
421 00:25:56,556 00:25:59,223 I just drove Caryl home. Hm. I just drove Caryl home. Hm.
422 00:25:59,258 00:26:03,994 [clatter of dishes] [clatter of dishes]
423 00:26:04,030 00:26:07,798 Bill >> You know, there's a nice little Italian place Bill >> You know, there's a nice little Italian place
424 00:26:07,833 00:26:10,701 just opened up on Rivington. just opened up on Rivington.
425 00:26:10,736 00:26:13,137 Certain nights I tell your mom, "go ahead, order in." Certain nights I tell your mom, "go ahead, order in."
426 00:26:13,172 00:26:17,308 But, uh... Well, you know your mom. But, uh... Well, you know your mom.
427 00:26:17,343 00:26:18,909 Why are you so late? Why are you so late?
428 00:26:18,945 00:26:21,612 Aw, there was a disagreement with the electrician, so Aw, there was a disagreement with the electrician, so
429 00:26:21,647 00:26:25,883 a couple of the blueprints had to be changed. a couple of the blueprints had to be changed.
430 00:26:25,918 00:26:29,954 Mom said 10:00, 10:15 is your usual time now. Mom said 10:00, 10:15 is your usual time now.
431 00:26:29,989 00:26:32,923 Says she's usually asleep when you get in. Says she's usually asleep when you get in.
432 00:26:32,959 00:26:35,392 She exaggerates... She exaggerates...
433 00:26:35,428 00:26:37,328 Does she? Does she?
434 00:26:37,363 00:26:40,764 Yeah. It's because she's angry. Yeah. It's because she's angry.
435 00:26:40,800 00:26:43,801 It's a normal response. It's a normal response.
436 00:26:43,836 00:26:47,571 Thank heavens she's r Thank heavens she's r
437 00:26:47,607 00:26:49,807 In remission. In remission.
438 00:26:49,842 00:26:53,444 If she wants to be angry at me, I'll take one for the team. If she wants to be angry at me, I'll take one for the team.
439 00:26:53,479 00:27:01,585 That's big of you. That's big of you.
440 00:27:01,621 00:27:05,889 Maybe you're angry, too. Maybe you're angry, too.
441 00:27:05,925 00:27:07,658 We have two women in this house right now that might We have two women in this house right now that might
442 00:27:07,693 00:27:11,228 need a little extra... Hey! I was home earlier. need a little extra... Hey! I was home earlier.
443 00:27:11,263 00:27:13,897 And there was no one else here. And there was no one else here.
444 00:27:13,933 00:27:16,000 Your mother goes with Caryl to the hospital. Your mother goes with Caryl to the hospital.
445 00:27:16,035 00:27:18,135 And sometimes they just go on a walk. And sometimes they just go on a walk.
446 00:27:18,170 00:27:21,905 "Medicinal walk", that's how your mother puts it. "Medicinal walk", that's how your mother puts it.
447 00:27:21,941 00:27:25,075 And I think, "okay, a good deed." And I think, "okay, a good deed."
448 00:27:25,111 00:27:28,879 But even a good deed has a beginning and an end. But even a good deed has a beginning and an end.
449 00:27:28,914 00:27:30,748 [loud clatter of dish] And where do you go? [loud clatter of dish] And where do you go?
450 00:27:30,783 00:27:32,783 WHERE DO I GO? I GO BACK TO WORK! WHERE DO I GO? I GO BACK TO WORK!
451 00:27:32,818 00:27:34,852 Don't you think we owe them? Don't you think we owe them?
452 00:27:34,887 00:27:36,887 Owe who? Caryl, for one. Owe who? Caryl, for one.
453 00:27:36,956 00:27:38,589 Months she took care of Mom. Months she took care of Mom.
454 00:27:38,624 00:27:41,692 Said nothing about it, and asked for nothing in return. Said nothing about it, and asked for nothing in return.
455 00:27:41,727 00:27:43,761 We gave Caryl a roof over her head when all We gave Caryl a roof over her head when all
456 00:27:43,796 00:27:46,163 those problems with her mother began, those problems with her mother began,
457 00:27:46,198 00:27:48,132 food, shelter...just like she was part of the family. food, shelter...just like she was part of the family.
458 00:27:48,167 00:27:49,900 Was? Is. Was? Is.
459 00:27:49,935 00:27:53,704 Maybe now's not the right time for you to... Maybe now's not the right time for you to...
460 00:27:53,773 00:27:58,976 Do what? Do what?
461 00:27:59,011 00:28:00,611 [chair scrapes] [chair scrapes]
462 00:28:00,680 00:28:02,680 For me to what? For me to what?
463 00:28:02,715 00:28:04,548 It sounds like you're daring me. It sounds like you're daring me.
464 00:28:04,583 00:28:05,849 I'm not daring you. I'm not daring you.
465 00:28:05,885 00:28:08,519 I'm just curious. I'm just curious.
466 00:28:08,554 00:28:11,021 Maybe now's not the time for me to what? Maybe now's not the time for me to what?
467 00:28:11,057 00:28:15,526 To do one of your disappearing acts. To do one of your disappearing acts.
468 00:28:15,561 00:28:20,097 [Bill chuckles] This is funny? [Bill chuckles] This is funny?
469 00:28:20,132 00:28:21,999 I was just wondering if you're meaning to lecture I was just wondering if you're meaning to lecture
470 00:28:22,034 00:28:24,768 me or yourself? me or yourself?
471 00:28:24,804 00:28:28,772 You couldn't possibly know what these women are going through. You couldn't possibly know what these women are going through.
472 00:28:28,808 00:28:30,841 It's about them, It's about them,
473 00:28:30,876 00:28:33,310 about their bodies. about their bodies.
474 00:28:33,345 00:28:34,645 Not you. Not you.
475 00:28:34,680 00:28:36,780 [dish clatters into water] [dish clatters into water]
476 00:28:36,816 00:28:41,752 [footsteps] [footsteps]
477 00:28:41,787 00:28:43,721 Mickey >> No. I'm just saying, "no", okay? Mickey >> No. I'm just saying, "no", okay?
478 00:28:43,756 00:28:45,856 No retraction. No retraction.
479 00:28:45,891 00:28:51,128 I'll put you through to Legal if you want. I'll put you through to Legal if you want.
480 00:28:51,163 00:28:53,263 Yeah, I don't know why they put you through to me either, Yeah, I don't know why they put you through to me either,
481 00:28:53,299 00:28:54,898 but if that's what you want... but if that's what you want...
482 00:28:54,967 00:28:58,635 [footsteps] [footsteps]
483 00:28:58,704 00:29:00,804 I know... yeah... I know... yeah...
484 00:29:00,840 00:29:02,906 I want off the payroll. I want off the payroll.
485 00:29:02,942 00:29:05,843 What? I want to work freelance. What? I want to work freelance.
486 00:29:06,278 00:29:07,745 Freelance? Freelance?
487 00:29:07,780 00:29:09,446 There's no stability in that. When you came here, you told me There's no stability in that. When you came here, you told me
488 00:29:09,482 00:29:12,015 you wanted stability, a column maybe... you wanted stability, a column maybe...
489 00:29:12,051 00:29:14,985 Right now I want the time, Right now I want the time,
490 00:29:15,020 00:29:17,788 and I want to choose where I spend it. and I want to choose where I spend it.
491 00:29:21,060 00:29:25,462 Look, I'm sorry about your mother. Look, I'm sorry about your mother.
492 00:29:25,498 00:29:27,464 I'll still bring you the ideas first. I'll still bring you the ideas first.
493 00:29:27,500 00:29:29,600 You'll still get articles. You'll still get articles.
494 00:29:29,635 00:29:31,301 John... John...
495 00:29:31,337 00:29:34,638 But nine to five is over for me right now, Mickey. But nine to five is over for me right now, Mickey.
496 00:29:34,673 00:29:37,474 You should take your call. You should take your call.
497 00:29:37,510 00:29:45,249 [footsteps] [footsteps]
498 00:29:45,284 00:29:48,085 Well, Mary has decided on Duke. Well, Mary has decided on Duke.
499 00:29:48,120 00:29:50,754 That's a good school. That's a good school.
500 00:29:50,790 00:29:52,556 You could've gone there, too. You could've gone there, too.
501 00:29:52,591 00:29:54,658 I know. I know.
502 00:29:54,693 00:29:56,994 That bother you? That bother you?
503 00:29:57,029 00:29:59,163 Maybe once, a little. Maybe once, a little.
504 00:29:59,198 00:30:01,799 Perspective's easy to come by now. Perspective's easy to come by now.
505 00:30:01,834 00:30:06,603 I'm good with what I got. I'm good with what I got.
506 00:30:06,639 00:30:08,939 You feeling tired? You feeling tired?
507 00:30:08,974 00:30:10,941 Mmmm... Mmmm...
508 00:30:10,976 00:30:13,744 It's going to make a liar out of me. It's going to make a liar out of me.
509 00:30:13,779 00:30:16,947 What is? Duke. What is? Duke.
510 00:30:16,982 00:30:19,983 I don't think I understand. I don't think I understand.
511 00:30:20,019 00:30:22,452 Oh, I made Mary a promise. Oh, I made Mary a promise.
512 00:30:22,488 00:30:26,824 I told her I'd be at her graduation. I told her I'd be at her graduation.
513 00:30:26,859 00:30:30,127 And you'll keep that promise. And you'll keep that promise.
514 00:30:30,162 00:30:32,229 Hey... Hey...
515 00:30:32,264 00:30:34,932 Look at me. Look at me.
516 00:30:34,967 00:30:38,602 We will. We will.
517 00:30:38,637 00:30:43,340 They found another lump this morning when I went in. They found another lump this morning when I went in.
518 00:30:43,375 00:30:47,010 Ohhh.... Ohhh....
519 00:30:47,046 00:30:50,514 Why didn't you say anything? Why didn't you say anything?
520 00:30:50,549 00:30:53,550 I just wanted to be alone with it for a while, I guess. I just wanted to be alone with it for a while, I guess.
521 00:30:53,586 00:30:58,555 [sigh] [sigh]
522 00:30:58,591 00:31:02,359 Does it bother you when I talk about Mary? Does it bother you when I talk about Mary?
523 00:31:02,394 00:31:04,862 I was thinking about you. I was thinking about you.
524 00:31:04,897 00:31:06,663 Well, maybe it's time you start thinking about yourself Well, maybe it's time you start thinking about yourself
525 00:31:06,699 00:31:09,199 a little more, young lady. a little more, young lady.
526 00:31:09,235 00:31:11,235 Sure. Sure.
527 00:31:11,270 00:31:14,538 A good nature is hard to come by. A good nature is hard to come by.
528 00:31:14,573 00:31:18,075 Don't underestimate that. Don't underestimate that.
529 00:31:18,110 00:31:25,415 [music] [music]
530 00:31:25,451 00:31:27,885 Anne >> So what time? Anne >> So what time?
531 00:31:27,920 00:31:29,319 Mary >> Midnight, at the latest. Mary >> Midnight, at the latest.
532 00:31:29,355 00:31:30,821 And you'll call when you're on your w And you'll call when you're on your w
533 00:31:30,856 00:31:32,656 Cross my heart. All right. Cross my heart. All right.
534 00:31:32,691 00:31:34,291 John >> It used to be eleven for me. John >> It used to be eleven for me.
535 00:31:34,326 00:31:38,028 Well, kids are smarter now. Well, kids are smarter now.
536 00:31:38,063 00:31:39,997 I'm so glad you've been coming around. I'm so glad you've been coming around.
537 00:31:40,032 00:31:41,899 Do you want help with anything else? Do you want help with anything else?
538 00:31:41,934 00:31:43,867 No, it's okay, I'm going to wait for Caryl, honey, thanks. No, it's okay, I'm going to wait for Caryl, honey, thanks.
539 00:31:43,903 00:31:52,676 [footsteps] [footsteps]
540 00:31:52,711 00:32:01,752 [clicking of computer keys] [clicking of computer keys]
541 00:32:01,787 00:32:04,521 [knock, knock] Hey. Did you have fun? [knock, knock] Hey. Did you have fun?
542 00:32:04,556 00:32:08,725 Yeah. The movie was okay. Yeah. The movie was okay.
543 00:32:08,761 00:32:10,560 I so rarely come in here now. I so rarely come in here now.
544 00:32:10,596 00:32:12,529 It doesn't seem the same. It doesn't seem the same.
545 00:32:12,564 00:32:14,364 Mom told me about Duke. Mom told me about Duke.
546 00:32:14,400 00:32:18,068 Yeah, well, I figure one year off is enough, you know? Yeah, well, I figure one year off is enough, you know?
547 00:32:18,103 00:32:20,037 Unless I'm looking to be a bum. Unless I'm looking to be a bum.
548 00:32:20,072 00:32:22,306 Dad says, one year's for learning, two years, Dad says, one year's for learning, two years,
549 00:32:22,341 00:32:24,408 you're a bum. you're a bum.
550 00:32:24,443 00:32:26,476 One of his old sayings that he made up. One of his old sayings that he made up.
551 00:32:26,512 00:32:29,413 Do you regret it? The year? Do you regret it? The year?
552 00:32:29,448 00:32:33,850 No, I wasn't ready to go when I graduated, and... No, I wasn't ready to go when I graduated, and...
553 00:32:33,886 00:32:36,420 I figured I'd better stick around, you know? I figured I'd better stick around, you know?
554 00:32:36,455 00:32:39,589 Now, I just feel guilty. About staying home? Now, I just feel guilty. About staying home?
555 00:32:39,625 00:32:42,259 About wanting so bad to go. About wanting so bad to go.
556 00:32:42,294 00:32:43,460 You shouldn't. You shouldn't.
557 00:32:43,495 00:32:45,395 I'm around now. I'm around now.
558 00:32:45,431 00:32:47,831 I know. I know.
559 00:32:47,866 00:32:49,166 You know, John, I just think Mom and Dad were so You know, John, I just think Mom and Dad were so
560 00:32:49,201 00:32:51,335 happy that you had a job. happy that you had a job.
561 00:32:51,370 00:32:52,869 You have no idea how often I've heard the term You have no idea how often I've heard the term
562 00:32:52,905 00:32:55,672 'gainful employment'. 'gainful employment'.
563 00:32:55,708 00:32:57,708 I don't even know what that means. I don't even know what that means.
564 00:33:01,447 00:33:04,281 The way Mom looks... The way Mom looks...
565 00:33:04,316 00:33:09,019 I think the chemo added ten years. I think the chemo added ten years.
566 00:33:09,054 00:33:11,621 I'd come home and the way she looked, it didn't make sense. I'd come home and the way she looked, it didn't make sense.
567 00:33:11,690 00:33:14,224 Like I was missing something. Like I was missing something.
568 00:33:14,259 00:33:19,296 I want her to know that I wasn't trying to miss anything. I want her to know that I wasn't trying to miss anything.
569 00:33:19,331 00:33:21,298 That I cared. That I cared.
570 00:33:21,333 00:33:23,667 She knows. She knows.
571 00:33:23,702 00:33:29,840 Yeah, maybe, but I'll tell you, it does nothing for guilt. Yeah, maybe, but I'll tell you, it does nothing for guilt.
572 00:33:29,875 00:33:33,477 Well, that's a family trait, I suppose. Well, that's a family trait, I suppose.
573 00:33:36,382 00:33:38,682 I remember once you told me you wanted to be I remember once you told me you wanted to be
574 00:33:38,717 00:33:42,586 a war correstpondent. You were 15. a war correstpondent. You were 15.
575 00:33:42,621 00:33:44,855 I laughed at you. I laughed at you.
576 00:33:44,890 00:33:47,824 Those guys were untouchable in my eyes. Those guys were untouchable in my eyes.
577 00:33:47,860 00:33:50,761 The middle of anything, battlefield, it didn't matter. The middle of anything, battlefield, it didn't matter.
578 00:33:50,796 00:33:52,429 They just did their job. They just did their job.
579 00:33:52,464 00:33:55,866 Yeah. Yeah.
580 00:33:55,901 00:33:59,269 There's a battlefield here, too. There's a battlefield here, too.
581 00:33:59,304 00:34:02,539 Cancer. Cancer.
582 00:34:02,574 00:34:04,808 Except we're not untouchable. Except we're not untouchable.
583 00:34:04,843 00:34:15,719 [music] [music]
584 00:34:15,754 00:34:17,721 What? What?
585 00:34:17,756 00:34:21,324 For a moment there you looked just like Mom. For a moment there you looked just like Mom.
586 00:34:21,360 00:34:24,795 Except for the hug. That was you. Except for the hug. That was you.
587 00:34:24,830 00:34:26,763 John [voice over] >> I wanted Mary to go now, just as I had. John [voice over] >> I wanted Mary to go now, just as I had.
588 00:34:27,833 00:34:30,467 I wanted her to find her place out of this house. I wanted her to find her place out of this house.
589 00:34:30,502 00:34:32,602 I wanted, somehow, to do for her what she and Caryl I wanted, somehow, to do for her what she and Caryl
590 00:34:32,638 00:34:35,105 had done for me. had done for me.
591 00:34:38,777 00:34:40,544 [click of car door closing] [click of car door closing]
592 00:34:40,579 00:34:46,550 [footsteps] [footsteps]
593 00:34:46,585 00:34:49,152 [door clicks open and closed] [door clicks open and closed]
594 00:34:49,188 00:34:52,823 [footsteps] [footsteps]
595 00:34:52,858 00:34:54,858 Hey. Hey. Hey. Hey.
596 00:34:54,893 00:34:57,828 Where's Mom? Asleep. Where's Mom? Asleep.
597 00:34:57,863 00:35:00,464 She said she'll eat later. She said she'll eat later.
598 00:35:00,499 00:35:03,133 More and more, she needs to sleep. More and more, she needs to sleep.
599 00:35:03,168 00:35:05,669 What does that mean? What does that mean?
600 00:35:05,704 00:35:09,272 I'm the opposite, more and more, I want to be awake. I'm the opposite, more and more, I want to be awake.
601 00:35:09,308 00:35:10,841 Oh...are those from Magnolia? Oh...are those from Magnolia?
602 00:35:10,876 00:35:13,610 Yeah. Those are my favourite. Yeah. Those are my favourite.
603 00:35:13,645 00:35:17,681 [footsteps] [footsteps]
604 00:35:17,716 00:35:33,697 [music] [music]
605 00:35:51,884 00:35:54,551 Hi, buddy. Hi, buddy.
606 00:35:54,586 00:35:56,453 Hey. Hey.
607 00:35:56,488 00:36:00,824 Anne >> Hey, you know what? [Anne clear her throat] Anne >> Hey, you know what? [Anne clear her throat]
608 00:36:00,859 00:36:02,692 There's a nurse that works here. There's a nurse that works here.
609 00:36:02,728 00:36:06,196 She's very officious. "Officious", is that right? She's very officious. "Officious", is that right?
610 00:36:06,231 00:36:08,198 Yes. Remember that? Yes. Remember that?
611 00:36:08,233 00:36:13,069 S.A.T. word. S.A.T. word.
612 00:36:13,105 00:36:16,773 Anyway, she's got a lot of style. Anyway, she's got a lot of style.
613 00:36:16,808 00:36:18,408 And she's really pretty. And she's really pretty.
614 00:36:18,443 00:36:20,210 I'm giving her your phone number. I'm giving her your phone number.
615 00:36:20,245 00:36:23,647 You just said she was officious. You just said she was officious.
616 00:36:23,682 00:36:27,984 Oh, yeah...Well, you don't have to marry her. Oh, yeah...Well, you don't have to marry her.
617 00:36:28,020 00:36:32,923 Still trying to take care of me. Still trying to take care of me.
618 00:36:32,958 00:36:40,697 [music] [music]
619 00:36:40,732 00:36:47,003 Do you think I'm going to die like they said I am? Do you think I'm going to die like they said I am?
620 00:36:47,039 00:36:51,474 I'm not ready to. I'm not ready to.
621 00:36:51,510 00:36:55,545 So don't. So don't.
622 00:36:55,581 00:36:58,582 All right, I won't. All right, I won't.
623 00:36:58,617 00:37:03,286 What do you want for Christmas dinner? What do you want for Christmas dinner?
624 00:37:03,322 00:37:06,089 How about a baked ham. How about a baked ham.
625 00:37:06,124 00:37:08,124 You've got a knack for that one. You've got a knack for that one.
626 00:37:08,160 00:37:10,060 I do. I do.
627 00:37:10,095 00:37:14,397 You really do. You really do.
628 00:37:14,433 00:37:17,500 Well, baked ham it is... Well, baked ham it is...
629 00:37:17,536 00:37:33,617 [music] [music]
630 00:37:50,569 00:37:53,770 Mmmmm...hmmm... Mmmmm...hmmm...
631 00:37:53,805 00:37:56,373 How are you feeling? How are you feeling?
632 00:37:56,408 00:37:58,742 Never better. [she chuckles] Never better. [she chuckles]
633 00:37:58,777 00:38:01,344 [then clears her throat] [then clears her throat]
634 00:38:01,380 00:38:03,613 Listen... Listen...
635 00:38:03,649 00:38:05,682 During the biopsy, During the biopsy,
636 00:38:05,717 00:38:10,086 during the procedure, they found a tumor. during the procedure, they found a tumor.
637 00:38:10,122 00:38:13,189 It was a little more than they expected. It was a little more than they expected.
638 00:38:13,225 00:38:18,695 [music] [music]
639 00:38:18,730 00:38:22,032 Oh, God... Oh, God...
640 00:38:22,067 00:38:24,167 They said they told you, They said they told you,
641 00:38:24,202 00:38:26,369 that they explained the 'one step'... that they explained the 'one step'...
642 00:38:26,405 00:38:28,305 Oh...! Oh...!
643 00:38:28,340 00:38:33,310 It was a radical mastectomy. It was a radical mastectomy.
644 00:38:33,345 00:38:35,779 They told me... They... They told me... They...
645 00:38:35,814 00:38:41,918 I didn't think it... I didn't think it...
646 00:38:41,953 00:38:46,189 It's my body. It's my body.
647 00:38:46,224 00:38:48,358 It's my body! [sobs] It's my body! [sobs]
648 00:38:48,393 00:38:52,028 [music] [music]
649 00:38:52,064 00:38:55,398 My body! My body!
650 00:38:55,434 00:39:03,073 [sobs] [sobs]
651 00:39:03,108 00:39:06,376 [music] [music]
652 00:39:06,411 00:39:10,647 [laughter] [laughter]
653 00:39:10,682 00:39:13,483 John >> All right, I want everyone to raise your glasses. John >> All right, I want everyone to raise your glasses.
654 00:39:13,518 00:39:16,820 Go ahead, go for it, Mary. Go ahead, go for it, Mary.
655 00:39:16,855 00:39:19,222 Anne >> Ahem. Anne >> Ahem.
656 00:39:19,257 00:39:22,058 To my mother... To my mother...
657 00:39:22,094 00:39:24,127 And Caryl? I was going to say, And Caryl? I was going to say,
658 00:39:24,162 00:39:26,496 and to Caryl. Thank you. and to Caryl. Thank you.
659 00:39:26,531 00:39:28,898 Two women who... Two women who...
660 00:39:28,934 00:39:32,535 [background carol] [background carol]
661 00:39:32,571 00:39:34,471 Two extraordinary women. Two extraordinary women.
662 00:39:34,506 00:39:37,707 Here, here. Here, here.
663 00:39:37,743 00:39:41,378 Mom, who keeps beating the odds, Mom, who keeps beating the odds,
664 00:39:41,413 00:39:43,580 who cooked us a good meal, who cooked us a good meal,
665 00:39:43,615 00:39:45,515 no, a great meal, no, a great meal,
666 00:39:45,550 00:39:48,752 and who's going to make a great Grandmother one day. and who's going to make a great Grandmother one day.
667 00:39:48,787 00:39:52,455 [background carol] [background carol]
668 00:39:52,491 00:39:54,457 Cheers. Cheers.
669 00:39:54,493 00:39:57,494 [clinking of glasses] All >> Merry Christmas. [clinking of glasses] All >> Merry Christmas.
670 00:39:57,529 00:40:00,563 [background music] [background music]
671 00:40:00,599 00:40:02,298 Anne >> What is that? Anne >> What is that?
672 00:40:02,334 00:40:04,901 Bill >> Let me help you with that. Bill >> Let me help you with that.
673 00:40:04,936 00:40:06,836 [clatter of spoon] [clatter of spoon]
674 00:40:06,872 00:40:08,471 Anne >> Honey... Anne >> Honey...
675 00:40:08,507 00:40:11,474 Oh, my gosh. Oh, my gosh.
676 00:40:11,510 00:40:14,844 It's beautiful. It's beautiful.
677 00:40:14,880 00:40:16,646 Ohhh.... Ohhh....
678 00:40:16,681 00:40:19,082 Look at that. Look at that.
679 00:40:19,117 00:40:20,750 [exclamations] John >> Nice, Dad. [exclamations] John >> Nice, Dad.
680 00:40:20,786 00:40:23,987 Caryl >> Oh, that is beautiful. Caryl >> Oh, that is beautiful.
681 00:40:24,022 00:40:27,023 Mary >> Dad, that's so sweet. Mary >> Dad, that's so sweet.
682 00:40:27,058 00:40:29,359 Anne >> Thank you. Anne >> Thank you.
683 00:40:29,394 00:40:32,195 Merry Christmas. Merry Christmas. Merry Christmas. Merry Christmas.
684 00:40:32,230 00:40:35,965 [kisses] [kisses]
685 00:40:36,001 00:40:39,068 [background music] [background music]
686 00:40:39,104 00:40:42,305 And many more to come. And many more to come.
687 00:40:42,340 00:40:46,843 [music] [music]
688 00:40:46,878 00:40:48,978 Mary >> Do you feel like you have to do that? Mary >> Do you feel like you have to do that?
689 00:40:49,014 00:40:51,781 Do what? You don't have to clean up. Do what? You don't have to clean up.
690 00:40:51,817 00:40:54,117 I mean, I can do it, I can do it with John in the morning. I mean, I can do it, I can do it with John in the morning.
691 00:40:54,152 00:40:58,154 Oh, sometimes it helps if I keep busy. Oh, sometimes it helps if I keep busy.
692 00:40:58,190 00:41:01,491 You just look... What? You just look... What?
693 00:41:01,526 00:41:03,593 You can say it. You can say it.
694 00:41:03,628 00:41:06,763 You look tired. You look tired.
695 00:41:06,798 00:41:08,932 Here, why don't you sit down. I'll make you a cup of tea. Here, why don't you sit down. I'll make you a cup of tea.
696 00:41:08,967 00:41:16,506 [footsteps] [footsteps]
697 00:41:16,541 00:41:18,641 [sigh] [sigh]
698 00:41:18,677 00:41:21,077 At home, I used to clean up. At home, I used to clean up.
699 00:41:21,112 00:41:22,946 When I was growing up. When I was growing up.
700 00:41:22,981 00:41:24,647 It was a way of being there, and not really being there It was a way of being there, and not really being there
701 00:41:24,683 00:41:26,983 at the same time. at the same time.
702 00:41:27,018 00:41:29,752 You know what I mean? Yeah. You know what I mean? Yeah.
703 00:41:29,788 00:41:31,654 Like, if it was uncomfortable in the house, Like, if it was uncomfortable in the house,
704 00:41:31,690 00:41:33,656 or there was an argument I would just start cooking or there was an argument I would just start cooking
705 00:41:33,692 00:41:37,760 and cleaning and what-have-you, you know? and cleaning and what-have-you, you know?
706 00:41:37,796 00:41:41,264 It's different here. It's different here.
707 00:41:41,299 00:41:44,868 I feel this overwhelming need to...participate. I feel this overwhelming need to...participate.
708 00:41:44,903 00:41:46,769 I don't even know if that's the right word. I don't even know if that's the right word.
709 00:41:46,805 00:41:49,706 I just... I just...
710 00:41:49,741 00:41:53,810 I just really want to be a part of this. I just really want to be a part of this.
711 00:41:53,845 00:41:56,613 Why don't we clean up together? Why don't we clean up together?
712 00:41:56,648 00:41:59,015 Okay. Okay.
713 00:41:59,050 00:42:01,885 You clean. I'll watch. [laughter] You clean. I'll watch. [laughter]
714 00:42:01,920 00:42:04,821 Oh...funny. Oh...funny.
715 00:42:09,261 00:42:11,895 You remember my father's Fairlane? You remember my father's Fairlane?
716 00:42:11,930 00:42:13,596 Hmmm? Hmmm?
717 00:42:13,632 00:42:17,166 Picking you up in my father's Fairlane. Picking you up in my father's Fairlane.
718 00:42:17,202 00:42:19,068 How long ago was that? How long ago was that?
719 00:42:19,104 00:42:22,772 I don't know. I don't know.
720 00:42:22,807 00:42:26,809 I was just thinking of all this time we've been I was just thinking of all this time we've been
721 00:42:26,845 00:42:35,685 together...sometimes it comes back to me as one day. together...sometimes it comes back to me as one day.
722 00:42:35,720 00:42:38,621 [sigh] [sigh]
723 00:42:38,657 00:42:42,825 One day? One day?
724 00:42:42,861 00:42:46,529 One perfect day. One perfect day.
725 00:42:46,565 00:42:53,937 [music] [music]
726 00:42:53,972 00:42:56,306 We met in the morning, you remember? We met in the morning, you remember?
727 00:42:56,341 00:42:58,241 Um-hum. Um-hum.
728 00:42:58,276 00:43:03,179 In line at the White Street Grill. In line at the White Street Grill.
729 00:43:03,214 00:43:06,149 I came back every day at the same time I came back every day at the same time
730 00:43:06,184 00:43:09,085 for two weeks, for two weeks,
731 00:43:09,120 00:43:11,888 hoping to find you again. hoping to find you again.
732 00:43:13,825 00:43:16,526 To see those eyes of yours, again. To see those eyes of yours, again.
733 00:43:24,069 00:43:26,703 And then our day began. And then our day began.
734 00:43:26,738 00:43:30,006 Picking you up in my father's Fairlane. Picking you up in my father's Fairlane.
735 00:43:30,041 00:43:32,775 [chuckles] [chuckles]
736 00:43:32,811 00:43:35,445 We were married before lunch, We were married before lunch,
737 00:43:35,480 00:43:38,047 so I guess dessert was the kids. so I guess dessert was the kids.
738 00:43:38,083 00:43:41,551 Sometimes sweet, sometimes not so... Sometimes sweet, sometimes not so...
739 00:43:41,586 00:43:48,758 The afternoon was Little League, braces, broken bones, and The afternoon was Little League, braces, broken bones, and
740 00:43:48,793 00:43:51,961 broken hearts. broken hearts.
741 00:43:51,997 00:43:54,964 Watching them blossom, Watching them blossom,
742 00:43:55,000 00:44:00,837 and then watching them leave. and then watching them leave.
743 00:44:00,872 00:44:09,746 And knowing that for you and me it was still early yet. And knowing that for you and me it was still early yet.
744 00:44:09,781 00:44:13,016 It's too early. It's too early.
745 00:44:13,051 00:44:20,323 [music] [music]
746 00:44:20,358 00:44:23,960 Well, it's... Well, it's...
747 00:44:23,995 00:44:27,030 It's been a beautiful day. It's been a beautiful day.
748 00:44:27,065 00:44:43,112 [music] [music]
749 00:44:49,421 00:44:59,529 [quiet sounds of movement] [quiet sounds of movement]
750 00:44:59,564 00:45:01,664 [footsteps] [footsteps]
751 00:45:01,700 00:45:17,714 [music] [music]
752 00:45:39,904 00:45:42,305 Phfoo.... Phfoo....
753 00:45:42,340 00:45:43,906 [music] [music]
754 00:45:43,942 00:45:46,142 Mary >> I'll call you when I get there. Mary >> I'll call you when I get there.
755 00:45:46,177 00:45:48,578 Morning's okay, honey. Okay. Morning's okay, honey. Okay.
756 00:45:48,613 00:45:51,447 Well, I'll see you Sunday. Sunday...okay. Well, I'll see you Sunday. Sunday...okay.
757 00:45:51,483 00:45:56,119 Yeah, Sunday, okay? Yeah, Sunday, okay?
758 00:45:56,154 00:45:58,888 Bye. Bye.
759 00:45:58,923 00:46:05,228 [receding footsteps] [receding footsteps]
760 00:46:05,263 00:46:07,263 You okay, Mom? You okay, Mom?
761 00:46:13,705 00:46:16,873 It's Tuesday out there. It's Tuesday out there.
762 00:46:16,908 00:46:20,309 So many things to do on Tuesday. So many things to do on Tuesday.
763 00:46:21,346 00:46:24,614 A hundred things. [chuckle] A hundred things. [chuckle]
764 00:46:32,023 00:46:48,137 [music] [music]
765 00:46:52,010 00:46:53,943 You can go in now, Dad. You can go in now, Dad.
766 00:46:53,978 00:46:57,280 They're just... whatever they do. They're just... whatever they do.
767 00:46:57,315 00:47:02,084 [music] [music]
768 00:47:02,120 00:47:05,555 I don't know how to be alone. I don't know how to be alone.
769 00:47:05,590 00:47:21,637 [music] [music]
770 00:47:26,044 00:47:28,077 [knock, knock, knock] [knock, knock, knock]
771 00:47:28,146 00:47:44,193 [music] [music]
772 00:48:39,651 00:48:42,618 You don't need to do that, Caryl. You don't need to do that, Caryl.
773 00:48:42,654 00:48:45,288 You're not a greeter today. I don't mind. You're not a greeter today. I don't mind.
774 00:48:45,323 00:48:46,923 I do. I do.
775 00:48:46,958 00:48:52,061 You should be with the rest of us. You should be with the rest of us.
776 00:48:52,096 00:49:08,177 [footsteps] [footsteps]
777 00:49:11,582 00:49:13,950 Hey, I was looking for you. Hey, I was looking for you.
778 00:49:13,985 00:49:19,355 [music] [music]
779 00:49:19,390 00:49:23,526 So let me know if you want anything. So let me know if you want anything.
780 00:49:23,561 00:49:31,267 She used to feed you here. She used to feed you here.
781 00:49:31,302 00:49:38,908 She'd disappear for about 45 minutes or so. She'd disappear for about 45 minutes or so.
782 00:49:38,943 00:49:45,481 I'd hear this chair going back and forth, back and forth. I'd hear this chair going back and forth, back and forth.
783 00:49:45,516 00:49:49,585 I was five years old. I was five years old.
784 00:49:49,620 00:49:53,622 I think this is the first time I ever sat in this chair. I think this is the first time I ever sat in this chair.
785 00:49:53,658 00:49:57,660 Not bad. Not bad.
786 00:49:57,695 00:50:03,799 Boy, I hated you, getting all that attention. Boy, I hated you, getting all that attention.
787 00:50:03,835 00:50:06,435 Sorry. Sorry.
788 00:50:06,471 00:50:15,511 You should be. You should be.
789 00:50:15,546 00:50:19,348 Well, let me know if you need anything. Well, let me know if you need anything.
790 00:50:19,384 00:50:33,929 [music] [music]
791 00:50:33,965 00:50:38,200 John, there are just so many people that I don't recognize... John, there are just so many people that I don't recognize...
792 00:50:38,236 00:50:54,116 [music] [music]
793 00:51:21,479 00:51:26,582 Caryl. Caryl.
794 00:51:26,617 00:51:28,751 You'll have to forgive me. You'll have to forgive me.
795 00:51:28,786 00:51:33,856 I'm not a man who enjoys making speeches. I'm not a man who enjoys making speeches.
796 00:51:33,891 00:51:36,892 I'm not sure I've properly acknowledged all that you've I'm not sure I've properly acknowledged all that you've
797 00:51:36,928 00:51:39,361 done for this family. done for this family.
798 00:51:39,397 00:51:42,331 For all of us. For all of us.
799 00:51:42,366 00:51:45,868 And I just hope that in some way, And I just hope that in some way,
800 00:51:45,903 00:51:49,438 that this may begin to tell you that this may begin to tell you
801 00:51:49,474 00:51:52,708 just how grateful we all are. just how grateful we all are.
802 00:51:56,981 00:51:59,515 Ohh...! Ohh...!
803 00:51:59,550 00:52:03,185 You know, without Anne here, You know, without Anne here,
804 00:52:03,221 00:52:06,021 I don't know what I am in this house... I don't know what I am in this house...
805 00:52:06,057 00:52:09,024 You're part of it... You're part of it...
806 00:52:09,060 00:52:11,994 with the good... with the good...
807 00:52:12,029 00:52:15,164 and the bad. and the bad.
808 00:52:19,003 00:52:21,237 Thank you. Thank you.
809 00:52:21,272 00:52:37,887 [music] [music]
810 00:52:37,922 00:52:40,456 Karen >> But I already told her about you. Karen >> But I already told her about you.
811 00:52:40,491 00:52:42,091 Good stuff, too. John >> Karen... Good stuff, too. John >> Karen...
812 00:52:42,126 00:52:43,659 Believe me, I have a great imagination when the Believe me, I have a great imagination when the
813 00:52:43,694 00:52:46,128 pressure's on. She's totally interested. pressure's on. She's totally interested.
814 00:52:46,164 00:52:47,963 Thanks...but I'm just not interested in Thanks...but I'm just not interested in
815 00:52:47,999 00:52:51,066 the whole dating thing. the whole dating thing.
816 00:52:51,102 00:52:53,035 Okay, no offence, John, because I don't want to Okay, no offence, John, because I don't want to
817 00:52:53,070 00:52:57,206 minimize what you're feeling, but being happy is not a sin. minimize what you're feeling, but being happy is not a sin.
818 00:52:57,241 00:52:59,508 And death and everything else And death and everything else
819 00:52:59,544 00:53:04,046 it doesn't change that, okay? it doesn't change that, okay?
820 00:53:04,081 00:53:09,051 [music] [music]
821 00:53:09,086 00:53:11,287 John [voice over] >> I had a friend in high school John [voice over] >> I had a friend in high school
822 00:53:11,322 00:53:14,056 who asked me to set him up with Caryl. who asked me to set him up with Caryl.
823 00:53:14,091 00:53:16,091 When I asked Caryl if it would be all right, she said, When I asked Caryl if it would be all right, she said,
824 00:53:16,127 00:53:19,161 "Blind dates are like used cars. "Blind dates are like used cars.
825 00:53:19,197 00:53:21,230 They're rarely attractive and they never go They're rarely attractive and they never go
826 00:53:21,265 00:53:22,998 as fast as you like." as fast as you like."
827 00:53:23,034 00:53:24,200 So naturally I was surprised when she advised So naturally I was surprised when she advised
828 00:53:24,769 00:53:28,137 I go out on this one. I go out on this one.
829 00:53:28,172 00:53:40,349 [music] [music]
830 00:53:40,384 00:53:41,016 Sharon Sharon
831 00:53:41,052 00:53:44,954 Sharon >> So what's next? Sharon >> So what's next?
832 00:53:44,989 00:53:47,723 Want to take a ride on my yacht? Want to take a ride on my yacht?
833 00:53:47,758 00:53:51,894 [music] [music]
834 00:53:51,929 00:53:54,363 It should be here in five, ten minutes. It should be here in five, ten minutes.
835 00:53:54,398 00:53:56,232 Yeah, I don't mind waiting... Yeah, I don't mind waiting...
836 00:53:56,267 00:54:00,636 except for, you know... hypothermia. except for, you know... hypothermia.
837 00:54:00,671 00:54:04,306 I had a thought... for warmth... I had a thought... for warmth...
838 00:54:04,375 00:54:12,948 [music] [music]
839 00:54:12,984 00:54:18,687 Your skin is cold. Your skin is cold.
840 00:54:18,723 00:54:22,391 Wow.... Wow....
841 00:54:22,426 00:54:25,394 Someone really did raise you right. Someone really did raise you right.
842 00:54:25,429 00:54:27,796 John [voice over] >> Everything was so easy with Sharon. John [voice over] >> Everything was so easy with Sharon.
843 00:54:27,832 00:54:30,399 I'd never even lived with a girl-friend before. I'd never even lived with a girl-friend before.
844 00:54:30,434 00:54:33,335 And within two short years we were married. And within two short years we were married.
845 00:54:33,371 00:54:35,804 Sharon >> Sentimental value? John >> That's right. Sharon >> Sentimental value? John >> That's right.
846 00:54:35,840 00:54:38,774 This belonged to my Aunt Sylvia. This belonged to my Aunt Sylvia.
847 00:54:38,809 00:54:40,276 She would write to her husband Albert using this She would write to her husband Albert using this
848 00:54:40,311 00:54:42,111 table to lean on when he was away at war. table to lean on when he was away at war.
849 00:54:42,146 00:54:45,547 She used a coffee table? John >> She was very short. She used a coffee table? John >> She was very short.
850 00:54:45,616 00:54:47,449 Sharon >> Whatever! John >> True story. Sharon >> Whatever! John >> True story.
851 00:54:47,485 00:54:49,952 Sharon >> Whatever. We should be respectful. Sharon >> Whatever. We should be respectful.
852 00:54:49,987 00:54:51,920 My Aunt Sylvia willed me this table. My Aunt Sylvia willed me this table.
853 00:54:51,956 00:54:53,956 Without heirlooms, what are we? Without heirlooms, what are we?
854 00:54:53,991 00:54:56,091 Without our family, our history, what are we? Without our family, our history, what are we?
855 00:54:56,127 00:54:57,893 Sharon >> I don't know. Sane? [phone rings] Sharon >> I don't know. Sane? [phone rings]
856 00:54:57,928 00:55:01,230 Sharon >> Ow... Sharon >> Ow...
857 00:55:01,265 00:55:04,800 [footsteps] [footsteps]
858 00:55:04,835 00:55:06,568 Hello? Hello?
859 00:55:06,604 00:55:08,270 Mary >> She wants to stand with Dad and do what Mom Mary >> She wants to stand with Dad and do what Mom
860 00:55:08,306 00:55:11,173 would have done. I mean, John, I love Caryl would have done. I mean, John, I love Caryl
861 00:55:11,208 00:55:13,542 like a sister, but she's not my mother. like a sister, but she's not my mother.
862 00:55:13,577 00:55:15,477 John >> She's just excited about your wedding. John >> She's just excited about your wedding.
863 00:55:15,513 00:55:17,546 We all are. I know. We all are. I know.
864 00:55:17,581 00:55:19,748 It's just... I don't know how to tell her. It's just... I don't know how to tell her.
865 00:55:19,784 00:55:22,451 I mean she's like a saint, and I don't know how to say no I mean she's like a saint, and I don't know how to say no
866 00:55:22,486 00:55:25,521 to a saint... John >> Do you want me to help? to a saint... John >> Do you want me to help?
867 00:55:25,556 00:55:28,057 It's Mary. I'll talk to her. It's Mary. I'll talk to her.
868 00:55:28,092 00:55:29,892 Listen, Sharon's here. She wants to talk to you. Listen, Sharon's here. She wants to talk to you.
869 00:55:29,927 00:55:32,061 Hold on. Hold on.
870 00:55:32,096 00:55:34,063 Hey, honey. Hey, honey.
871 00:55:34,098 00:55:39,501 When do I get to see that dress I keep hearing about? When do I get to see that dress I keep hearing about?
872 00:55:39,537 00:55:41,270 Hey, hey, don't worry. Hey, hey, don't worry.
873 00:55:41,305 00:55:43,539 I'm going to be there to make sure everything is as you wish. I'm going to be there to make sure everything is as you wish.
874 00:55:43,574 00:55:45,040 Capisci? Capisci?
875 00:55:45,076 00:55:47,443 Well, did you like what she did for our wedding? Well, did you like what she did for our wedding?
876 00:55:47,478 00:55:49,678 Yeah, because I thought it was sweet and we Yeah, because I thought it was sweet and we
877 00:55:49,714 00:55:51,580 really wanted her to. really wanted her to.
878 00:55:51,615 00:55:53,982 John [voice over] >> She was good at these family things John [voice over] >> She was good at these family things
879 00:55:54,018 00:55:56,118 Better than me. And at this point Better than me. And at this point
880 00:55:56,153 00:55:59,955 I was still deferring. I was still deferring.
881 00:55:59,990 00:56:01,790 Sharon >> Yes, the presentation is on Wednesday, but Sharon >> Yes, the presentation is on Wednesday, but
882 00:56:01,826 00:56:03,892 I'd rather not leave the mock-ups 'cause we haven't I'd rather not leave the mock-ups 'cause we haven't
883 00:56:03,928 00:56:06,895 got them all trademarked. got them all trademarked.
884 00:56:06,931 00:56:09,231 No, no, no, you'll see them. I just mean, for us to No, no, no, you'll see them. I just mean, for us to
885 00:56:09,266 00:56:12,735 leave them is going to be a really big problem. leave them is going to be a really big problem.
886 00:56:12,770 00:56:15,704 [slurp] Crap. No. [slurp] Crap. No.
887 00:56:15,740 00:56:17,172 Yeah, Wednesday... can you hold on...? Yeah, Wednesday... can you hold on...?
888 00:56:17,208 00:56:20,008 No? No?
889 00:56:20,044 00:56:22,678 Yeah, it's on Wednesday. Can I, um..... Yeah, it's on Wednesday. Can I, um.....
890 00:56:22,747 00:56:25,948 Can I call you back? [clunk] Can I call you back? [clunk]
891 00:56:25,983 00:56:29,385 [footsteps] [footsteps]
892 00:56:35,426 00:56:51,874 [music] [music]
893 00:57:27,144 00:57:29,344 Dr. Kalter >> Let's not get ahead of ourselves. Dr. Kalter >> Let's not get ahead of ourselves.
894 00:57:29,380 00:57:31,280 I'm going to give you the name of our oncologist, I'm going to give you the name of our oncologist,
895 00:57:31,315 00:57:35,551 and we'll make an appointment for Tuesday. and we'll make an appointment for Tuesday.
896 00:57:35,586 00:57:39,054 I think you'll find our outcome shouldn't make you too nervous. I think you'll find our outcome shouldn't make you too nervous.
897 00:57:39,089 00:57:42,758 Early is best, so I want you to take a deep breath, Early is best, so I want you to take a deep breath,
898 00:57:42,793 00:57:45,260 and I'm going to walk with you down the hall to Radiology and I'm going to walk with you down the hall to Radiology
899 00:57:45,296 00:57:48,497 so we can begin to think about other options. so we can begin to think about other options.
900 00:57:48,532 00:57:52,501 [music] [music]
901 00:57:52,536 00:57:54,736 I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
902 00:57:54,772 00:57:59,441 [music] [music]
903 00:57:59,477 00:58:01,376 Hold me... Hold me...
904 00:58:01,412 00:58:07,783 [rustle of bedclothes] [rustle of bedclothes]
905 00:58:10,988 00:58:21,730 [music] [music]
906 00:58:21,765 00:58:27,669 I'm scared... I'm scared...
907 00:58:27,705 00:58:32,908 I'm here. I'm here.
908 00:58:33,010 00:58:35,077 Promise? Promise?
909 00:58:35,112 00:58:45,821 [music] [music]
910 00:58:45,856 00:58:47,823 Dr. Warner >> After the mastectomy. Dr. Warner >> After the mastectomy.
911 00:58:47,858 00:58:50,158 We wouldn't know before then. We wouldn't know before then.
912 00:58:50,194 00:58:51,660 What's the percentage? What's the percentage?
913 00:58:51,695 00:58:53,428 It's low. Approximately 50 percent of It's low. Approximately 50 percent of
914 00:58:53,464 00:58:57,866 patients younger than 35 may be capable of pregnancy. patients younger than 35 may be capable of pregnancy.
915 00:58:57,902 00:58:59,935 Well, I'm 32. Well, I'm 32.
916 00:58:59,970 00:59:03,805 During therapy most women stop having a menstrual cycle. During therapy most women stop having a menstrual cycle.
917 00:59:03,841 00:59:05,974 There are fertility drugs. There are fertility drugs.
918 00:59:06,010 00:59:08,777 Some doctors have started using injections of a drug Some doctors have started using injections of a drug
919 00:59:08,812 00:59:11,680 called triptorelin in order to temporarily shut down called triptorelin in order to temporarily shut down
920 00:59:11,715 00:59:14,816 the ovaries. But, you're moving from the ovaries. But, you're moving from
921 00:59:14,852 00:59:18,020 a large cocktail of medication for chemo a large cocktail of medication for chemo
922 00:59:18,055 00:59:20,455 to more medication for fertility. to more medication for fertility.
923 00:59:20,491 00:59:25,460 More medications means more possibilities More medications means more possibilities
924 00:59:25,496 00:59:28,630 We certainly can integrate the fertility medication We certainly can integrate the fertility medication
925 00:59:28,666 00:59:33,035 into the chemo-therapy. This is your decision. into the chemo-therapy. This is your decision.
926 00:59:33,070 00:59:35,003 Right. Right.
927 00:59:35,039 00:59:37,339 Well, what do you recommend? Well, what do you recommend?
928 00:59:37,374 00:59:41,743 Start IVF before chemo begins. Start IVF before chemo begins.
929 00:59:41,779 00:59:44,513 This involves collecting your eggs and combining them This involves collecting your eggs and combining them
930 00:59:44,548 00:59:47,516 with your husband's sperm to create embryos. with your husband's sperm to create embryos.
931 00:59:47,551 00:59:50,786 The embryos are then frozen and implanted once The embryos are then frozen and implanted once
932 00:59:50,821 00:59:55,757 you've completed treatment. you've completed treatment.
933 00:59:55,793 00:59:59,161 When can we start? When can we start?
934 01:00:02,299 01:00:04,099 [footsteps] [footsteps]
935 01:00:04,134 01:00:06,101 [clatter of tray] [clatter of tray]
936 01:00:06,136 01:00:08,537 John >> Are you sure you're ready for this? John >> Are you sure you're ready for this?
937 01:00:08,572 01:00:10,339 I'm going to do the chemo, right? I'm going to do the chemo, right?
938 01:00:10,374 01:00:12,007 So... So...
939 01:00:12,042 01:00:15,110 let's do it. let's do it.
940 01:00:15,145 01:00:21,116 [music] [music]
941 01:00:21,151 01:00:22,784 Sweetheart? A little help? Sweetheart? A little help?
942 01:00:22,820 01:00:27,222 [music] [music]
943 01:00:27,257 01:00:29,324 Ready, honey? Ready, honey?
944 01:00:29,360 01:00:33,862 [buzzzzzzz.....] [buzzzzzzz.....]
945 01:00:33,897 01:00:50,646 [music] [music]
946 01:00:50,681 01:00:53,949 [crinkle of plastic] [crinkle of plastic]
947 01:01:01,692 01:01:03,392 [Caryl's laughter] [Caryl's laughter]
948 01:01:03,427 01:01:04,660 Caryl >> You... John >> Glad you're here. Caryl >> You... John >> Glad you're here.
949 01:01:04,695 01:01:06,595 Caryl >> Good to see you. John >> Good to see you, too. Caryl >> Good to see you. John >> Good to see you, too.
950 01:01:06,630 01:01:10,932 Caryl >> Look at your new hair. Or no hair. Caryl >> Look at your new hair. Or no hair.
951 01:01:10,968 01:01:13,735 Sharon >> Hi. Look how beautiful you look. Sharon >> Hi. Look how beautiful you look.
952 01:01:13,771 01:01:16,538 Sharon >> Yes, now we're twins. [laughter] Sharon >> Yes, now we're twins. [laughter]
953 01:01:16,573 01:01:20,509 Caryl >> Oh...good to see you. Caryl >> Oh...good to see you.
954 01:01:20,544 01:01:26,048 [traffic] [traffic]
955 01:01:26,083 01:01:29,351 Oh, this one is incredible. Oh, this one is incredible.
956 01:01:29,386 01:01:31,186 Seriously. I never thought about getting Seriously. I never thought about getting
957 01:01:31,221 01:01:33,455 something like this before, but with the implants... something like this before, but with the implants...
958 01:01:33,490 01:01:35,390 The reconstruction? 'Implants' sounds The reconstruction? 'Implants' sounds
959 01:01:35,426 01:01:37,659 a little less... Historical? a little less... Historical?
960 01:01:37,695 01:01:41,263 Yeah. Do you want to feel them? Yeah. Do you want to feel them?
961 01:01:41,298 01:01:44,466 Really? Yeah. Really? Yeah.
962 01:01:44,501 01:01:46,068 Wow. Yeah. You see what Wow. Yeah. You see what
963 01:01:46,103 01:01:48,236 I'm saying? Yeah, they feel... I'm saying? Yeah, they feel...
964 01:01:48,272 01:01:51,506 They're not bad, am I right? They're not bad, am I right?
965 01:01:51,542 01:01:54,376 Maybe even a little firmer than they were before. Maybe even a little firmer than they were before.
966 01:01:54,411 01:01:57,913 Hi. See, I Hi. See, I
967 01:01:57,948 01:02:01,049 This with a matching thong would look beautiful. This with a matching thong would look beautiful.
968 01:02:01,085 01:02:05,954 Make John a happy man. Make John a happy man.
969 01:02:05,989 01:02:08,790 Or you could look for... I like blue too. Or you could look for... I like blue too.
970 01:02:08,826 01:02:11,159 It's the underwire. What size do you want to be? It's the underwire. What size do you want to be?
971 01:02:11,195 01:02:14,429 [footsteps] [footsteps]
972 01:02:14,465 01:02:26,808 [music] [music]
973 01:02:26,844 01:02:28,577 You're not going anywhere, are you? You're not going anywhere, are you?
974 01:02:28,612 01:02:30,579 No. No.
975 01:02:30,614 01:02:46,728 [music] [music]
976 01:03:26,036 01:03:32,541 [footsteps] [footsteps]
977 01:03:32,576 01:03:35,610 John. John.
978 01:03:35,646 01:03:51,693 [music] [music]
979 01:03:57,100 01:04:00,802 What time is it? Morning? What time is it? Morning?
980 01:04:00,838 01:04:02,971 Night. Night.
981 01:04:03,006 01:04:05,073 How are you feeling, sweetie? How are you feeling, sweetie?
982 01:04:05,108 01:04:10,679 Night? Where'd the day go? Night? Where'd the day go?
983 01:04:10,714 01:04:15,183 Do you need anything? Do you need anything?
984 01:04:15,219 01:04:17,452 Just this. Just this.
985 01:04:25,729 01:04:33,034 [whispers] >> I love you. I love you. I love you. [whispers] >> I love you. I love you. I love you.
986 01:04:33,070 01:04:49,117 [music] [music]
987 01:04:59,329 01:05:01,730 I can do that... I can do that...
988 01:05:01,765 01:05:07,202 [music] [music]
989 01:05:07,237 01:05:09,371 John... John...
990 01:05:09,406 01:05:11,706 Yeah, sweetie. Yeah, sweetie.
991 01:05:11,742 01:05:18,747 I want you to see. I want you to see.
992 01:05:18,782 01:05:21,816 I don't need to. I don't need to.
993 01:05:21,852 01:05:24,085 I need you to see. I need you to see.
994 01:05:38,068 01:05:42,304 You look more beautiful to me now than ever. You look more beautiful to me now than ever.
995 01:05:42,339 01:05:55,050 [music] [music]
996 01:05:55,085 01:05:57,285 Thank you. Thank you.
997 01:05:57,321 01:05:59,821 [music] [music]
998 01:05:59,856 01:06:02,857 Dr. Warner >> Hi. Hi. Dr. Warner >> Hi. Hi.
999 01:06:02,926 01:06:04,859 Everything went fine... very well, in fact. Everything went fine... very well, in fact.
1000 01:06:04,895 01:06:08,830 Oh, that's good to hear. John >> Did they get it all? Oh, that's good to hear. John >> Did they get it all?
1001 01:06:08,865 01:06:12,767 Yeah, that's how it looks. Yeah, that's how it looks.
1002 01:06:12,803 01:06:15,270 So, just out of curiosity when can we resume So, just out of curiosity when can we resume
1003 01:06:15,305 01:06:19,374 our lovemaking? When did you stop? our lovemaking? When did you stop?
1004 01:06:19,409 01:06:22,110 That depends on your energy level, a few days That depends on your energy level, a few days
1005 01:06:22,145 01:06:24,746 you should be fine. I'll check in later. you should be fine. I'll check in later.
1006 01:06:24,781 01:06:26,781 Just buzz if you need anything, yes? Just buzz if you need anything, yes?
1007 01:06:26,817 01:06:28,683 Sharon >> Yes. Thank you. Sharon >> Yes. Thank you.
1008 01:06:28,719 01:06:30,485 [laughter] [laughter]
1009 01:06:30,520 01:06:33,722 Mary >> Mary >>
1010 01:06:33,757 01:06:36,191 Hi. Hi.
1011 01:06:39,229 01:06:42,097 I'm sorry...it's just a little bit familiar... I'm sorry...it's just a little bit familiar...
1012 01:06:42,132 01:06:45,934 I know. I know.
1013 01:06:45,969 01:06:48,269 Thanks you guys for coming. Thanks you guys for coming.
1014 01:06:48,305 01:06:50,138 You're welcome. You're welcome.
1015 01:06:50,173 01:06:59,381 [footsteps] [footsteps]
1016 01:06:59,416 01:07:01,282 Caryl >> John? Caryl >> John?
1017 01:07:01,318 01:07:03,385 How's the patient? How's the patient?
1018 01:07:03,420 01:07:09,057 [soft footsteps] [soft footsteps]
1019 01:07:09,092 01:07:10,859 Visiting hours were over an hour ago. Visiting hours were over an hour ago.
1020 01:07:10,894 01:07:12,260 No, I know. Sharon left a note and No, I know. Sharon left a note and
1021 01:07:12,295 01:07:14,729 said that I was welcome. said that I was welcome.
1022 01:07:14,765 01:07:17,298 It's great that you're here. Really. It's great that you're here. Really.
1023 01:07:17,334 01:07:19,434 That you've been here, with Sharon, the house... That you've been here, with Sharon, the house...
1024 01:07:20,370 01:07:22,003 but you can go back to Connecticut now. but you can go back to Connecticut now.
1025 01:07:22,039 01:07:23,838 I've got it covered. No, I want to stay. I've got it covered. No, I want to stay.
1026 01:07:23,874 01:07:26,775 I know how to do this, John. I kn I know how to do this, John. I kn
1027 01:07:26,810 01:07:28,076 We both do. We both do.
1028 01:07:28,111 01:07:31,446 She can lean on me. No. She can lean on me. No.
1029 01:07:31,481 01:07:33,848 I just meant, she has me. I just meant, she has me.
1030 01:07:33,884 01:07:35,984 I know that, it's just that there are certain things... I know that, it's just that there are certain things...
1031 01:07:36,019 01:07:37,852 Don't you think I can handle this by now? Don't you think I can handle this by now?
1032 01:07:37,888 01:07:41,456 This is my wife. This is family. This is my wife. This is family.
1033 01:07:41,491 01:07:46,361 [footsteps] [footsteps]
1034 01:07:46,396 01:07:49,030 I didn't mean that... I didn't mean that...
1035 01:07:49,066 01:07:50,665 Sorry. Sorry.
1036 01:07:50,700 01:07:53,468 Stay... please. Stay... please.
1037 01:07:53,503 01:07:55,370 Truthfully? Truthfully?
1038 01:07:55,405 01:07:58,740 I want you to stay. I want you to stay.
1039 01:07:58,775 01:08:02,811 But stay for me. But stay for me.
1040 01:08:02,846 01:08:05,847 Okay. Okay.
1041 01:08:08,585 01:08:11,119 [music] [music]
1042 01:08:11,154 01:08:13,188 John [voice over] >> I had never gone to chemotherapy John [voice over] >> I had never gone to chemotherapy
1043 01:08:13,223 01:08:16,024 with my mother. Mary had, and Caryl. with my mother. Mary had, and Caryl.
1044 01:08:16,059 01:08:18,126 This was my first time. This was my first time.
1045 01:08:18,161 01:08:29,370 [music] [music]
1046 01:08:29,406 01:08:32,841 Sharon was prescribed a 'day 1' and 'day 15' regimen, Sharon was prescribed a 'day 1' and 'day 15' regimen,
1047 01:08:32,876 01:08:37,045 a kind of cocktail of several drugs. a kind of cocktail of several drugs.
1048 01:08:37,080 01:08:39,481 The doctor went down a dizzying laundry list of potential The doctor went down a dizzying laundry list of potential
1049 01:08:39,516 01:08:42,350 side-effects, and we listened closely as if side-effects, and we listened closely as if
1050 01:08:42,385 01:08:46,754 they were commandments. Anaemia, nausea, lethargy, they were commandments. Anaemia, nausea, lethargy,
1051 01:08:46,790 01:08:52,127 hair loss, numbness, vomiting, diarrhea, fever, chills, hair loss, numbness, vomiting, diarrhea, fever, chills,
1052 01:08:52,162 01:08:54,629 sore mouth, constipation... sore mouth, constipation...
1053 01:08:54,664 01:09:05,073 [music] [music]
1054 01:09:05,108 01:09:07,642 I once had a crush on Caryl, just around the first time I once had a crush on Caryl, just around the first time
1055 01:09:07,677 01:09:10,612 she came to baby-sit for me and Mary. she came to baby-sit for me and Mary.
1056 01:09:10,647 01:09:14,449 She was the so-called 'cool older sister' who would steal She was the so-called 'cool older sister' who would steal
1057 01:09:14,484 01:09:17,685 a smoke behind the garage, and favored cut-off jeans a smoke behind the garage, and favored cut-off jeans
1058 01:09:17,721 01:09:19,787 and black tee-shirts. and black tee-shirts.
1059 01:09:19,823 01:09:22,991 Her eyes are still the Her eyes are still the
1060 01:09:23,026 01:09:25,727 she looks at you. Those eyes gave Sharon she looks at you. Those eyes gave Sharon
1061 01:09:25,762 01:09:28,029 strength and new hope. strength and new hope.
1062 01:09:28,064 01:09:30,932 They seemed like sisters to me. They seemed like sisters to me.
1063 01:09:30,967 01:09:45,513 [music] [music]
1064 01:09:45,549 01:09:48,683 Mary >> What cha' doing? Dad's gift. Mary >> What cha' doing? Dad's gift.
1065 01:09:48,718 01:09:50,785 You came all the way home to bring Dad a gift? You came all the way home to bring Dad a gift?
1066 01:09:50,820 01:09:52,754 The big 5-0 deserves something. The big 5-0 deserves something.
1067 01:09:52,789 01:09:54,789 John, you were expelled, weren't you? John, you were expelled, weren't you?
1068 01:09:54,824 01:09:57,192 Know what? Just mind your own business, okay? Know what? Just mind your own business, okay?
1069 01:09:57,227 01:09:59,827 It's a surprise. It's a surprise.
1070 01:09:59,863 01:10:02,163 Looks expensive. Looks expensive.
1071 01:10:02,199 01:10:03,932 [laughter] [laughter]
1072 01:10:03,967 01:10:07,268 Anne >> Is that John's car? Anne >> Is that John's car?
1073 01:10:07,304 01:10:09,737 John >> Hey. Hey. John >> Hey. Hey.
1074 01:10:09,773 01:10:12,774 Come here. Mary >> Mom, John was expelled. Come here. Mary >> Mom, John was expelled.
1075 01:10:12,809 01:10:14,976 What? Pay no attention to her. What? Pay no attention to her.
1076 01:10:15,011 01:10:16,611 I knew I wouldn't be around for Dad's birthday 'cause of I knew I wouldn't be around for Dad's birthday 'cause of
1077 01:10:16,646 01:10:18,880 finals week, so I wanted to surprise everyone. finals week, so I wanted to surprise everyone.
1078 01:10:18,915 01:10:21,583 Your father's just going to love that you did this. Your father's just going to love that you did this.
1079 01:10:21,618 01:10:23,751 He's not going to be home until about 7:30. He's not going to be home until about 7:30.
1080 01:10:23,787 01:10:25,753 Mary >> Uh-uh, he never is. 'Cause he's coming Mary >> Uh-uh, he never is. 'Cause he's coming
1081 01:10:25,789 01:10:27,522 home to you. Anne >> Hey. Take it easy. home to you. Anne >> Hey. Take it easy.
1082 01:10:27,557 01:10:29,157 Ow. Ow.
1083 01:10:29,192 01:10:35,163 [crunch, crunch...] [crunch, crunch...]
1084 01:10:35,198 01:10:39,834 [footsteps] [footsteps]
1085 01:10:39,869 01:10:41,736 Bill >> Thanks for the wine. Bill >> Thanks for the wine.
1086 01:10:41,771 01:10:43,705 Dad, you got a minute? Dad, you got a minute?
1087 01:10:43,740 01:10:46,007 Yeah. Yeah.
1088 01:10:55,218 01:10:58,152 Susie's three weeks late. Susie's three weeks late.
1089 01:10:58,188 01:11:01,155 She's afraid to say anything to her folks. She's afraid to say anything to her folks.
1090 01:11:01,191 01:11:04,425 Her old man's nuts, believe me. Her old man's nuts, believe me.
1091 01:11:04,461 01:11:08,496 He'd crucify her. He'd crucify her.
1092 01:11:08,531 01:11:10,531 Bill >> Well, if Susie were my daughter with this, Bill >> Well, if Susie were my daughter with this,
1093 01:11:10,567 01:11:14,936 I might be nuts too. I might be nuts too.
1094 01:11:14,971 01:11:18,439 I mean, we're kind of at a loss. I mean, we're kind of at a loss.
1095 01:11:18,475 01:11:20,375 We could get married, if you think that... We could get married, if you think that...
1096 01:11:20,410 01:11:22,877 No, no one's getting married here. No, no one's getting married here.
1097 01:11:22,946 01:11:24,612 No? No?
1098 01:11:24,648 01:11:26,281 Mary >> John, Mom said that you should take these. Mary >> John, Mom said that you should take these.
1099 01:11:26,316 01:11:30,351 They're leftovers. John >> Thanks. They're leftovers. John >> Thanks.
1100 01:11:30,387 01:11:37,792 [footsteps] [footsteps]
1101 01:11:37,827 01:11:40,828 You need money. That's why you're here? You need money. That's why you're here?
1102 01:11:40,864 01:11:44,766 I keep going over the options in my head. I keep going over the options in my head.
1103 01:11:44,801 01:11:49,704 I'm not sure, but maybe getting married's not such a bad idea. I'm not sure, but maybe getting married's not such a bad idea.
1104 01:11:49,739 01:11:53,708 I mean... I love her. I mean... I love her.
1105 01:11:53,743 01:11:56,511 Bill >> No. Bill >> No.
1106 01:11:56,546 01:12:00,848 You're young. Things change. You're young. Things change.
1107 01:12:00,884 01:12:04,285 I love your mother and I always will. I love your mother and I always will.
1108 01:12:04,321 01:12:06,087 But what you're talking about...it's not the But what you're talking about...it's not the
1109 01:12:06,122 01:12:08,656 right way to start a life. right way to start a life.
1110 01:12:08,692 01:12:11,359 Not by accident. Not by accident.
1111 01:12:11,394 01:12:15,563 You do things because you make a decision. You do things because you make a decision.
1112 01:12:15,598 01:12:21,903 We didn't, your mother and I. We didn't, your mother and I.
1113 01:12:21,938 01:12:24,806 A young man should control his life, A young man should control his life,
1114 01:12:24,841 01:12:27,742 not the other way around. not the other way around.
1115 01:12:27,777 01:12:31,813 And these decisions we make early on... And these decisions we make early on...
1116 01:12:31,848 01:12:35,416 they have a legacy. they have a legacy.
1117 01:12:35,452 01:12:48,262 [footsteps] [footsteps]
1118 01:12:48,298 01:12:50,064 [car door clunks closed] [car door clunks closed]
1119 01:12:50,100 01:12:59,607 [footsteps] [footsteps]
1120 01:12:59,642 01:13:01,776 Hey. Sorry. Hey. Sorry.
1121 01:13:01,811 01:13:04,712 What for? I'm trying to quit. What for? I'm trying to quit.
1122 01:13:04,748 01:13:07,815 It's cool if you want to. Can I get one? It's cool if you want to. Can I get one?
1123 01:13:07,851 01:13:09,917 You want a puff? You want a puff?
1124 01:13:12,989 01:13:15,456 [coughs] [coughs]
1125 01:13:15,492 01:13:17,425 I feel like I'm corrupting you I feel like I'm corrupting you
1126 01:13:17,460 01:13:19,260 I can think of worse things. I can think of worse things.
1127 01:13:19,295 01:13:22,263 Yeah...I just know your Mom hates these things. Yeah...I just know your Mom hates these things.
1128 01:13:27,771 01:13:29,003 [footsteps] [footsteps]
1129 01:13:29,038 01:13:31,038 John [voice over] >> It turns out that Susie wasn't John [voice over] >> It turns out that Susie wasn't
1130 01:13:31,074 01:13:33,107 even pregnant. Sometimes, you're ashamed even pregnant. Sometimes, you're ashamed
1131 01:13:33,143 01:13:36,944 of your innocence. of your innocence.
1132 01:13:36,980 01:13:39,881 Some embryos won't survive the thawing process. Some embryos won't survive the thawing process.
1133 01:13:39,916 01:13:42,183 Those that do will be positioned in the uterus, Those that do will be positioned in the uterus,
1134 01:13:42,218 01:13:44,819 hopefully establishing a pregnancy. hopefully establishing a pregnancy.
1135 01:13:44,854 01:13:47,622 Generally, we try to schedule this procedure for the morning. Generally, we try to schedule this procedure for the morning.
1136 01:13:47,657 01:13:50,458 But the night before is yours. But the night before is yours.
1137 01:13:50,493 01:13:57,498 [sound of jet engine] [sound of jet engine]
1138 01:13:57,534 01:13:59,700 [traffic] [traffic]
1139 01:13:59,736 01:14:02,770 John >> Here, let me get those. Mary >> Thank you. John >> Here, let me get those. Mary >> Thank you.
1140 01:14:02,806 01:14:19,187 [traffic] [traffic]
1141 01:14:19,222 01:14:22,557 Mary >> How was the traffic? Madness as usual Mary >> How was the traffic? Madness as usual
1142 01:14:22,592 01:14:26,027 Is Chloe okay? Yeah, she's fine. Is Chloe okay? Yeah, she's fine.
1143 01:14:26,062 01:14:27,595 Actually, she's smarter than me. Actually, she's smarter than me.
1144 01:14:27,630 01:14:30,164 It's becoming a problem. It's becoming a problem.
1145 01:14:30,200 01:14:32,133 But I think that Patrick actually likes to play But I think that Patrick actually likes to play
1146 01:14:32,168 01:14:34,869 full time Daddy and Mommy for a few days, so... full time Daddy and Mommy for a few days, so...
1147 01:14:34,904 01:14:40,842 [car motor] [car motor]
1148 01:14:40,877 01:14:45,546 They found cancer cells in my left breast. They found cancer cells in my left breast.
1149 01:14:45,582 01:14:49,784 Oh...Mary... Oh...Mary...
1150 01:14:49,819 01:14:52,854 But they said that a tumor hasn't formed yet. But they said that a tumor hasn't formed yet.
1151 01:14:52,889 01:14:55,823 Thank God. Thank God.
1152 01:14:55,859 01:15:00,228 John, that's not why I'm here. John, that's not why I'm here.
1153 01:15:00,263 01:15:02,263 Are you okay? Are you okay?
1154 01:15:02,298 01:15:07,401 [music] [music]
1155 01:15:07,437 01:15:09,670 I've given it a lot of thought. I've given it a lot of thought.
1156 01:15:09,706 01:15:12,340 Really, it's all I've been thinking about. Really, it's all I've been thinking about.
1157 01:15:12,375 01:15:15,376 How does Patrick feel about it? How does Patrick feel about it?
1158 01:15:15,411 01:15:18,479 Supportive. It was his idea for me to come and see you guys. Supportive. It was his idea for me to come and see you guys.
1159 01:15:18,515 01:15:20,948 For 'input', he said. But I think he just wants me For 'input', he said. But I think he just wants me
1160 01:15:20,984 01:15:23,351 to be close to you for all of this. to be close to you for all of this.
1161 01:15:23,386 01:15:25,520 I'm glad he suggested it. I'm glad he suggested it.
1162 01:15:25,555 01:15:29,824 And even though they didn't find a tumor, And even though they didn't find a tumor,
1163 01:15:29,859 01:15:32,894 it doesn't feel right. it doesn't feel right.
1164 01:15:32,929 01:15:36,030 They don't feel right. They don't feel right.
1165 01:15:36,065 01:15:38,866 I'm doing it next week. I'm doing it next week.
1166 01:15:38,902 01:15:41,002 Both breasts? Both breasts?
1167 01:15:41,037 01:15:43,204 Yeah. My doctor said that he would do it. Yeah. My doctor said that he would do it.
1168 01:15:43,239 01:15:44,972 He said that it's my choice. He said that it's my choice.
1169 01:15:45,008 01:15:47,375 No, they can just remove the cells, a lumpectomy, No, they can just remove the cells, a lumpectomy,
1170 01:15:47,410 01:15:48,843 a partial. a partial.
1171 01:15:48,878 01:15:53,714 I want them both off! I want them both off!
1172 01:15:53,750 01:15:55,983 Sharon, I know that there's something wrong. Sharon, I know that there's something wrong.
1173 01:15:56,019 01:15:58,753 I can feel it. Well, you have to liste I can feel it. Well, you have to liste
1174 01:15:58,788 01:16:00,254 to your body, honey. to your body, honey.
1175 01:16:00,290 01:16:02,356 Really, John, what is the risk? Really, John, what is the risk?
1176 01:16:03,326 01:16:06,093 I get the procedure. I go through chemo. I get the procedure. I go through chemo.
1177 01:16:06,129 01:16:09,096 Soon enough I get a couple Soon enough I get a couple
1178 01:16:09,132 01:16:12,300 The right size, I could quit my job, and become a dancer. The right size, I could quit my job, and become a dancer.
1179 01:16:12,335 01:16:15,536 John >> Look. Double radical mastectomy is still surgery. John >> Look. Double radical mastectomy is still surgery.
1180 01:16:15,572 01:16:19,840 It still has risks. It's not funny. It still has risks. It's not funny.
1181 01:16:19,876 01:16:22,443 I know, John. I know, John.
1182 01:16:22,478 01:16:26,514 And while we're being serious, think about this. And while we're being serious, think about this.
1183 01:16:26,549 01:16:29,784 What if I'm right? What if I'm right?
1184 01:16:29,819 01:16:32,954 I have a daughter, John, and I would give up a lot I have a daughter, John, and I would give up a lot
1185 01:16:32,989 01:16:37,992 more than my breasts to stay around for her. more than my breasts to stay around for her.
1186 01:16:38,027 01:16:41,295 Wouldn't you? Wouldn't you?
1187 01:16:41,331 01:16:45,499 Yeah. In a heartbeat. Yeah. In a heartbeat.
1188 01:16:45,535 01:16:47,501 John [voice over] >> As soon as we knew that Mary was going John [voice over] >> As soon as we knew that Mary was going
1189 01:16:47,537 01:16:51,405 into the hospital, we flew to North Carolina to be with her. into the hospital, we flew to North Carolina to be with her.
1190 01:16:54,644 01:16:57,511 Oh...First thing I'm going to do is take a hot shower. Oh...First thing I'm going to do is take a hot shower.
1191 01:16:57,547 01:16:59,580 Honey, do you mind if I get in there first? Honey, do you mind if I get in there first?
1192 01:16:59,616 01:17:01,315 No. Everything okay? No. Everything okay?
1193 01:17:01,351 01:17:03,751 Yeah, yeah, I just uh... Red eyes always make me Yeah, yeah, I just uh... Red eyes always make me
1194 01:17:03,786 01:17:06,287 feel hung-over, feel hung-over,
1195 01:17:06,322 01:17:18,032 [scuffling of bedclothes] [scuffling of bedclothes]
1196 01:17:18,067 01:17:26,240 [background TV] [background TV]
1197 01:17:26,275 01:17:29,777 [bathroom door clicks open] [bathroom door clicks open]
1198 01:17:29,812 01:17:36,651 [footsteps] [footsteps]
1199 01:17:36,686 01:17:38,052 [kiss] [kiss]
1200 01:17:41,057 01:17:42,823 I'm pregnant. I'm pregnant.
1201 01:17:42,859 01:17:45,326 You're what...? You're what...?
1202 01:17:45,361 01:17:47,161 Mwa, mwa, mwa Mwa, mwa, mwa
1203 01:17:47,196 01:17:51,399 I love you. Mmmmm.... I love you. Mmmmm....
1204 01:17:51,434 01:17:53,534 [music] [music]
1205 01:17:53,569 01:17:55,302 John [voice over] >> I had begun to imagine that John [voice over] >> I had begun to imagine that
1206 01:17:55,338 01:17:57,371 our family had a curse. our family had a curse.
1207 01:17:57,407 01:18:00,341 That there was some tainted gene that followed us around. That there was some tainted gene that followed us around.
1208 01:18:00,376 01:18:04,812 That I would be bad luck to my child, to Sharon. That I would be bad luck to my child, to Sharon.
1209 01:18:04,847 01:18:08,449 And yet, that morning, I felt lucky. And yet, that morning, I felt lucky.
1210 01:18:08,484 01:18:16,323 [music] [music]
1211 01:18:16,359 01:18:18,459 Sharon >> Hey.... Sharon >> Hey....
1212 01:18:18,494 01:18:21,128 How are you holding up? How are you holding up?
1213 01:18:21,164 01:18:27,702 You know how happy she is you guys are here. You know how happy she is you guys are here.
1214 01:18:37,747 01:18:42,083 Weird day, huh? Weird day, huh?
1215 01:18:42,118 01:18:43,851 Did you ever think, when you had a baby, Did you ever think, when you had a baby,
1216 01:18:43,886 01:18:47,354 that you would have to worry about this? that you would have to worry about this?
1217 01:18:47,390 01:18:49,824 About what, honey? About what, honey?
1218 01:18:49,859 01:18:55,429 About the possibility of giving it to your child? About the possibility of giving it to your child?
1219 01:18:55,465 01:18:58,132 Wow. I never told you this before, but I wasn't the Wow. I never told you this before, but I wasn't the
1220 01:18:58,167 01:19:02,670 kind of girl who grew up dreaming about having babies. kind of girl who grew up dreaming about having babies.
1221 01:19:02,705 01:19:06,474 I love being an aunt, and taking care o I love being an aunt, and taking care o
1222 01:19:06,509 01:19:08,509 Truthfully, I played with the dog much more than Truthfully, I played with the dog much more than
1223 01:19:08,544 01:19:11,679 I played with dolls. I played with dolls.
1224 01:19:15,651 01:19:17,618 I carry it with me, you know? I carry it with me, you know?
1225 01:19:17,653 01:19:20,588 We do. We do.
1226 01:19:20,623 01:19:22,757 Maybe it's... Maybe it's...
1227 01:19:22,792 01:19:25,459 Maybe it's part of who I am. Maybe it's part of who I am.
1228 01:19:25,495 01:19:30,030 Maybe it's in my blood. Maybe it's in my blood.
1229 01:19:30,066 01:19:33,567 It wasn't until I met you It wasn't until I met you
1230 01:19:33,603 01:19:36,537 that I thought, that I thought,
1231 01:19:36,572 01:19:40,107 I want to create something, I want to create something,
1232 01:19:40,143 01:19:45,246 someone, that's you and me. someone, that's you and me.
1233 01:19:45,281 01:19:48,382 Us. We did that. Us. We did that.
1234 01:19:48,417 01:19:52,219 Yeah, we did. Yeah, we did.
1235 01:19:52,255 01:19:55,856 I'm so happy for it. I'm so happy for it.
1236 01:19:55,892 01:19:58,225 The rest is... The rest is...
1237 01:19:58,261 01:20:01,328 Yeah...? Yeah...?
1238 01:20:01,364 01:20:04,465 The rest is life. The rest is life.
1239 01:20:09,172 01:20:12,740 Patrick >> There... yeah... Patrick >> There... yeah...
1240 01:20:12,775 01:20:14,742 Hey. Hey.
1241 01:20:14,777 01:20:16,477 Thanks. Thanks.
1242 01:20:16,512 01:20:18,312 They're still in there? They're still in there?
1243 01:20:18,347 01:20:20,915 Yeah, they're um... changing the dressing... Yeah, they're um... changing the dressing...
1244 01:20:20,950 01:20:23,684 or...whatever they do. or...whatever they do.
1245 01:20:23,719 01:20:27,655 You know it feels like she's joined some sort of club now, You know it feels like she's joined some sort of club now,
1246 01:20:27,690 01:20:33,294 with Caryl, your mother, your wife... with Caryl, your mother, your wife...
1247 01:20:33,329 01:20:36,964 even you a little bit. even you a little bit.
1248 01:20:36,999 01:20:38,799 Don't get me wrong, you guys have been great. Don't get me wrong, you guys have been great.
1249 01:20:38,835 01:20:40,835 It's just... It's just...
1250 01:20:40,870 01:20:42,837 You know what the doctor told me You know what the doctor told me
1251 01:20:42,872 01:20:46,106 into surgery? [Chloe's fussing] into surgery? [Chloe's fussing]
1252 01:20:46,142 01:20:52,746 He said, that... ohh....oh... He said, that... ohh....oh...
1253 01:20:52,782 01:20:58,953 He said that cancer doesn't hit people. He said that cancer doesn't hit people.
1254 01:20:58,988 01:21:01,322 It hits families. It hits families.
1255 01:21:01,357 01:21:06,861 So we all got it, right? So we all got it, right?
1256 01:21:06,896 01:21:08,929 I'm just not the kind of guy who's going to shave I'm just not the kind of guy who's going to shave
1257 01:21:08,965 01:21:13,167 his head, you know? his head, you know?
1258 01:21:13,202 01:21:17,638 But, John, I love my wife. But, John, I love my wife.
1259 01:21:17,673 01:21:24,078 Hey... Hey...
1260 01:21:28,584 01:21:30,551 What is it? What is it?
1261 01:21:30,586 01:21:32,853 I was right. I was right.
1262 01:21:32,889 01:21:35,256 About what, Mare? About what, Mare?
1263 01:21:35,291 01:21:37,491 The pathology showed... The pathology showed...
1264 01:21:37,526 01:21:39,627 there was a tumor. there was a tumor.
1265 01:21:39,662 01:21:41,629 Nobody saw it. Nobody saw it.
1266 01:21:41,664 01:21:43,764 Patrick, they got everything... Patrick, they got everything...
1267 01:21:43,799 01:21:46,233 They got everything... They got everything...
1268 01:21:46,269 01:21:51,739 [music] [music]
1269 01:21:51,774 01:21:55,209 I love you. I love you. I love you. I love you.
1270 01:21:55,244 01:22:11,292 [music] [music]
1271 01:22:24,573 01:22:26,440 Sharon >> So, just a few nights? Sharon >> So, just a few nights?
1272 01:22:26,475 01:22:28,442 John >> Yeah, until after her first chemo session. John >> Yeah, until after her first chemo session.
1273 01:22:28,477 01:22:31,345 I'll come home that night. Okay. I'll come home that night. Okay.
1274 01:22:31,380 01:22:33,614 Here you go. What is it? Here you go. What is it?
1275 01:22:33,649 01:22:35,749 Last night's dinner. Leftovers. Last night's dinner. Leftovers.
1276 01:22:35,785 01:22:37,484 What do you want me to do with this? What do you want me to do with this?
1277 01:22:37,520 01:22:39,486 For the plane. I don't want you eating For the plane. I don't want you eating
1278 01:22:39,522 01:22:42,122 that airline stuff. You know, it's two of you now. that airline stuff. You know, it's two of you now.
1279 01:22:42,158 01:22:45,025 You're so sweet. Thank you. You're so sweet. Thank you.
1280 01:22:45,061 01:22:47,962 I got it. I got it.
1281 01:22:47,997 01:22:50,965 Here you go. Here you go.
1282 01:22:52,868 01:22:54,868 I love you. I love you, too. I love you. I love you, too.
1283 01:22:54,904 01:23:04,511 [footsteps] [footsteps]
1284 01:23:04,547 01:23:13,320 [music] [music]
1285 01:23:13,356 01:23:15,522 John [voice over] >> People ask what you find at the end John [voice over] >> People ask what you find at the end
1286 01:23:15,558 01:23:18,859 of a physical crisis. What you learned. of a physical crisis. What you learned.
1287 01:23:18,894 01:23:21,528 Does survival in and of itself provide hope? Does survival in and of itself provide hope?
1288 01:23:21,564 01:23:24,298 Redemption? Even deliverance? Redemption? Even deliverance?
1289 01:23:24,333 01:23:26,900 I think if we're lucky, what we find at the end of a crisis I think if we're lucky, what we find at the end of a crisis
1290 01:23:26,936 01:23:30,004 is each other. As I watched her here, is each other. As I watched her here,
1291 01:23:30,039 01:23:33,974 I couldn't help but wonder what it was like for Mom. I couldn't help but wonder what it was like for Mom.
1292 01:23:34,010 01:23:36,510 How she needed to be strong until the disease took away How she needed to be strong until the disease took away
1293 01:23:36,545 01:23:39,213 her strength. How Mom found in Caryl her strength. How Mom found in Caryl
1294 01:23:39,248 01:23:43,317 an empathetic soul outside our family to be strong. an empathetic soul outside our family to be strong.
1295 01:23:43,352 01:23:45,519 How Caryl needed Mom as any child needs a mother - How Caryl needed Mom as any child needs a mother -
1296 01:23:45,554 01:23:46,587 a loving car a loving car
1297 01:23:46,622 01:23:51,392 a loving caretaker without judgement or resentment. a loving caretaker without judgement or resentment.
1298 01:23:51,427 01:23:53,761 Years later, Caryl told me of the long walks she Years later, Caryl told me of the long walks she
1299 01:23:53,796 01:23:56,096 shared with Mom. How they leaned on each other shared with Mom. How they leaned on each other
1300 01:23:56,132 01:23:58,399 back when they felt only they truly knew the terrain of back when they felt only they truly knew the terrain of
1301 01:23:58,434 01:24:02,136 their illness. their illness.
1302 01:24:02,171 01:24:06,907 It's as simple as this - Caryl is my sister. It's as simple as this - Caryl is my sister.
1303 01:24:06,942 01:24:09,743 I think Mary needs me now, just as I need you to I think Mary needs me now, just as I need you to
1304 01:24:09,779 01:24:12,579 understand what has changed. understand what has changed.
1305 01:24:12,615 01:24:15,349 I know there is so much of me that is you. I know there is so much of me that is you.
1306 01:24:15,384 01:24:21,288 And I also know now there is much of Mom, of Mary, of Caryl. And I also know now there is much of Mom, of Mary, of Caryl.
1307 01:24:21,323 01:24:23,991 I found myself in your quiet strength. I found myself in your quiet strength.
1308 01:24:24,026 01:24:25,959 I thank you for that. I thank you for that.
1309 01:24:25,995 01:24:28,095 For letting me feel safe enough to search for what is soft. For letting me feel safe enough to search for what is soft.
1310 01:24:28,130 01:24:31,799 In this family, in this extended family, In this family, in this extended family,
1311 01:24:31,834 01:24:33,801 I've taken from everyone. I've taken from everyone.
1312 01:24:33,836 01:24:36,036 And with time, it has gotten me closer to being the man And with time, it has gotten me closer to being the man
1313 01:24:36,072 01:24:38,205 that I most wanted to be. that I most wanted to be.
1314 01:24:38,240 01:24:40,441 The man that I found in the gift of being close The man that I found in the gift of being close
1315 01:24:40,476 01:24:42,409 to these four women. to these four women.
1316 01:24:42,445 01:24:45,179 A man I want you to be proud of. A man I want you to be proud of.
1317 01:24:45,214 01:24:47,981 I hope you like the latest picture of Anna. I hope you like the latest picture of Anna.
1318 01:24:48,017 01:24:51,118 I think she has your eyes. I think she has your eyes.
1319 01:24:51,153 01:25:01,528 [music] [music]
1320 01:25:01,564 01:25:03,297 [kiss] [kiss]
1321 01:25:03,332 01:25:05,332 [phone rings] Sharon >> I have to get it. [phone rings] Sharon >> I have to get it.
1322 01:25:05,367 01:25:08,435 John >> Anna... Sharon >> Ooop... John >> Anna... Sharon >> Ooop...
1323 01:25:08,471 01:25:12,106 Bill >> Good work, come on. John >> You got it? Bill >> Good work, come on. John >> You got it?
1324 01:25:12,141 01:25:14,241 Sharon >> Yeah. Sharon >> Yeah.
1325 01:25:14,276 01:25:17,511 Hello? Hello?
1326 01:25:17,546 01:25:19,413 I've got to go. I've got to go.
1327 01:25:19,448 01:25:21,381 John >> Okay, I'll meet you there in a bit. John >> Okay, I'll meet you there in a bit.
1328 01:25:21,417 01:25:23,584 Sharon >> Bye, bye. Bye. Sharon >> Bye, bye. Bye.
1329 01:25:23,619 01:25:28,288 Go to Grampa, Anna. Go to Grampa. Go to Grampa, Anna. Go to Grampa.
1330 01:25:28,324 01:25:29,823 Come on. Come on, Anna. Come on. Come on, Anna.
1331 01:25:29,859 01:25:31,258 Oh. Oh.
1332 01:25:31,293 01:25:41,502 [Anne's voice singing] "...going to Scarborough Fair? [Anne's voice singing] "...going to Scarborough Fair?
1333 01:25:41,537 01:25:48,909 Parsley, sage, rosemary and thyme..." Parsley, sage, rosemary and thyme..."
1334 01:25:48,944 01:25:50,244 Woman >> Oh, hi there. Hi. Woman >> Oh, hi there. Hi.
1335 01:25:50,279 01:25:52,012 It's good to see you here today. It's good to see you here today.
1336 01:25:52,047 01:25:53,947 There is no place I would rather be. There is no place I would rather be.
1337 01:25:53,983 01:25:56,517 [Anne singing] "Remember me to the one [Anne singing] "Remember me to the one
1338 01:25:56,552 01:25:59,887 who lives there. who lives there.
1339 01:25:59,922 01:26:06,326 He once was a true love of mine..." He once was a true love of mine..."
1340 01:26:06,362 01:26:12,432 [music] [music]
1341 01:26:12,468 01:26:15,702 Caryl >> You know, this belonged to John's mother. Caryl >> You know, this belonged to John's mother.
1342 01:26:15,738 01:26:19,506 And she told me, this ring was for John's daughter. And she told me, this ring was for John's daughter.
1343 01:26:19,542 01:26:21,642 I want you to have it. I want you to have it.
1344 01:26:21,677 01:26:26,113 I know that one day you'll pass it on. I know that one day you'll pass it on.
1345 01:26:26,148 01:26:28,182 How can you say that? How can you say that?
1346 01:26:28,217 01:26:31,318 I feel so selfish when I think about having kids. I feel so selfish when I think about having kids.
1347 01:26:31,353 01:26:34,121 What if I relapse? What if I relapse?
1348 01:26:34,156 01:26:37,124 This family's always found a way. This family's always found a way.
1349 01:26:37,159 01:26:39,226 Always. Always.
1350 01:26:39,261 01:26:41,094 Thank you. Thank you.
1351 01:26:41,130 01:26:43,163 You don't have to say anything. You don't have to say anything.
1352 01:26:43,199 01:26:46,466 I do. You have been absolutely incredible. I do. You have been absolutely incredible.
1353 01:26:46,502 01:26:50,470 Shhhh.... I understand. Shhhh.... I understand.
1354 01:26:50,506 01:26:55,976 I need you to hear my thank you. I need you to hear my thank you.
1355 01:26:56,011 01:26:59,479 You know, it's funny, I always felt that way about Anne. You know, it's funny, I always felt that way about Anne.
1356 01:26:59,515 01:27:02,583 I always wondered, what could I do to repay her, I always wondered, what could I do to repay her,
1357 01:27:02,618 01:27:04,051 you know? you know?
1358 01:27:04,086 01:27:06,119 I mean, how do you begin to say thank you for I mean, how do you begin to say thank you for
1359 01:27:06,155 01:27:09,590 being given a home? being given a home?
1360 01:27:09,625 01:27:13,994 But, do you know what I came up with? But, do you know what I came up with?
1361 01:27:14,029 01:27:21,802 All that we can do, is to do this for someone else. All that we can do, is to do this for someone else.
1362 01:27:21,837 01:27:25,305 And one day you'll be me, and someone else will be you. And one day you'll be me, and someone else will be you.
1363 01:27:25,341 01:27:30,344 And you'll know what to do. And you'll know what to do.
1364 01:27:30,379 01:27:31,945 You all ready to go? You all ready to go?
1365 01:27:31,981 01:27:34,681 Yeah. We are. Yeah. We are.
1366 01:27:34,717 01:27:50,764
1366 01:27:34,717 01:27:50,764