1 00:00:02,034 --> 00:00:03,793 When you're 16 and pregnant life 2 00:00:03,827 --> 00:00:06,344 becomes all about sacrifice. 3 00:00:06,379 --> 00:00:11,068 Sacrificing education, friendships and even your childhood. 4 00:00:11,103 --> 00:00:13,103 This season we follow the ups and downs 5 00:00:13,137 --> 00:00:15,000 of nine pregnant teens. 6 00:00:15,034 --> 00:00:17,310 We attended weddings, witnessed breakups 7 00:00:17,344 --> 00:00:19,862 and watched nine lives transformed 8 00:00:19,896 --> 00:00:22,103 each in nine short months. 9 00:00:22,137 --> 00:00:24,103 Were those sacrifices worth it? 10 00:00:24,137 --> 00:00:26,413 Where do these teen moms stand today? 11 00:00:26,448 --> 00:00:29,172 And who is still standing beside them? 12 00:00:29,206 --> 00:00:30,551 Well you're about to find out. 13 00:00:30,586 --> 00:00:33,689 This is the 16 and Pregnant finale special 14 00:00:33,724 --> 00:00:35,862 "Life After Labor." 15 00:00:35,896 --> 00:00:38,413 ♪♪ 16 00:00:52,586 --> 00:00:56,344 [audience cheer and applaud] 17 00:01:04,310 --> 00:01:05,758 Thank you guys, hi. 18 00:01:05,793 --> 00:01:07,241 I'm Dr. Drew and I'd like to say hello 19 00:01:07,275 --> 00:01:09,655 to our nine moms here, welcome ladies. 20 00:01:09,689 --> 00:01:11,586 They come from across the country 21 00:01:11,620 --> 00:01:13,000 but today they're here together 22 00:01:13,034 --> 00:01:15,482 in one place for the very first time. 23 00:01:15,517 --> 00:01:18,482 We've got Megan, Christinna, 24 00:01:18,517 --> 00:01:21,379 Aubrey, Ashley, 25 00:01:21,413 --> 00:01:26,000 Markai, Kayla, Emily, 26 00:01:26,896 --> 00:01:30,344 Felicia and finally Brooke. 27 00:01:30,379 --> 00:01:32,896 Welcome to the show and welcome you all as well. 28 00:01:32,931 --> 00:01:34,896 Now certain themes kept creeping 29 00:01:34,931 --> 00:01:36,758 into the surface of this season. 30 00:01:36,793 --> 00:01:40,896 For instance, finishing high school, fights with parents, 31 00:01:40,931 --> 00:01:43,896 surprise surprise, money issues, shocking, 32 00:01:43,931 --> 00:01:46,793 and of course drama with the babies' fathers. 33 00:01:46,827 --> 00:01:49,275 Today we'll go deep inside every story 34 00:01:49,310 --> 00:01:52,241 to find out which couples are trying to make it work 35 00:01:52,275 --> 00:01:54,931 and which ones are thinking of going their separate ways. 36 00:01:54,965 --> 00:01:56,862 You might be surprised by what you see. 37 00:01:56,896 --> 00:01:59,103 We'll talk to the main supporters who are here today 38 00:01:59,137 --> 00:02:01,586 and of course we'll get to see the babies as well. 39 00:02:01,620 --> 00:02:04,655 But in case you forgot how they came into this world 40 00:02:04,689 --> 00:02:09,448 here's a quick recap of this seasons 16 and Pregnant. 41 00:02:09,482 --> 00:02:11,137 ♪♪ 42 00:02:11,172 --> 00:02:13,034 [Mom] What are you going to do for homecoming? 43 00:02:13,068 --> 00:02:14,586 I bought a maternity dress already. 44 00:02:14,620 --> 00:02:16,344 [Family] Ah cute, woooo. 45 00:02:16,379 --> 00:02:19,827 I was hoping I was just gonna gain belly 46 00:02:19,862 --> 00:02:22,620 not gain all that. 47 00:02:22,655 --> 00:02:24,137 I had so much planned for myself, 48 00:02:24,172 --> 00:02:25,965 I mean I'm still going to do what I planned. 49 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:28,000 We've had dads pass out. 50 00:02:28,034 --> 00:02:29,172 [Emily] Please don't. 51 00:02:30,103 --> 00:02:31,344 We got him. 52 00:02:31,379 --> 00:02:33,068 Oh my goodness. 53 00:02:33,103 --> 00:02:36,172 I want nothing more than to have her do well. 54 00:02:36,206 --> 00:02:37,724 Statistics are against her. 55 00:02:37,758 --> 00:02:40,034 [Ashley] My aunt and uncle want to adopt the baby. 56 00:02:40,068 --> 00:02:43,034 [Mom] The more time that you spend with the baby 57 00:02:43,068 --> 00:02:44,310 the more you're going to bond. 58 00:02:44,344 --> 00:02:46,310 Let's just get it over with then. 59 00:02:47,482 --> 00:02:49,206 [Mom] I feel we should still have a DNA test, 60 00:02:49,241 --> 00:02:50,517 'cause if it aint yours there's going 61 00:02:50,551 --> 00:02:52,241 to be some rumble in the jungle. 62 00:02:52,275 --> 00:02:54,172 Why are you acting like this Cody? 63 00:02:54,206 --> 00:02:56,344 I'm saying that I need to graduate. 64 00:02:56,379 --> 00:02:59,655 You know I've been emotional all day today 65 00:02:59,689 --> 00:03:01,482 and now you're just making it worse. 66 00:03:01,517 --> 00:03:03,000 Are you-- [Boyfriend] No, 67 00:03:03,034 --> 00:03:04,379 let me the fuck go. 68 00:03:04,413 --> 00:03:06,241 I hate you, oooo I hate you. 69 00:03:06,275 --> 00:03:07,862 [Boyfriend] You've got to stop. 70 00:03:07,896 --> 00:03:09,068 I hate you. 71 00:03:09,103 --> 00:03:10,586 I think that you can have it all. 72 00:03:10,620 --> 00:03:13,068 My life's not going to stop just because I'm having a baby 73 00:03:13,103 --> 00:03:14,862 and everyone seems to think that. 74 00:03:18,448 --> 00:03:19,448 Well there you go. 75 00:03:20,896 --> 00:03:22,413 How's it feel to see all that on television? 76 00:03:22,448 --> 00:03:24,793 [girls laugh] 77 00:03:24,827 --> 00:03:27,482 Okay how does it feel to see that blowup on TV? 78 00:03:27,517 --> 00:03:31,172 I don't know, it's surprising actually to me. 79 00:03:31,206 --> 00:03:33,275 Is it painful or you're embarrassed? 80 00:03:33,310 --> 00:03:34,103 Both. 81 00:03:34,137 --> 00:03:34,965 [Dr. Drew] Both. 82 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:35,896 Yeah. 83 00:03:35,931 --> 00:03:37,310 We'll talk more about that. 84 00:03:37,344 --> 00:03:39,517 All right we'll have a very touching reunion later 85 00:03:39,551 --> 00:03:41,310 between Ashley and her baby Callie 86 00:03:41,344 --> 00:03:42,655 and Callie's adoptive parents 87 00:03:42,689 --> 00:03:45,172 who are family members of Ashley's. 88 00:03:45,206 --> 00:03:48,034 Also I'll be spending quality time with the other moms 89 00:03:48,068 --> 00:03:49,931 as well as the babies' fathers. 90 00:03:49,965 --> 00:03:52,793 Coming up is our first mom of the day, Kayla. 91 00:03:52,827 --> 00:03:54,517 Stay tuned now we'll be right back. 92 00:03:54,551 --> 00:03:56,275 [audience applause] 93 00:03:56,310 --> 00:03:59,620 ♪♪ 94 00:03:59,655 --> 00:04:01,206 [Dr. Drew] Did you ever cheat? 95 00:04:01,241 --> 00:04:06,103 Mmmm, once. 96 00:04:08,379 --> 00:04:09,724 [Dr. Drew] How is it trying to raise a baby 97 00:04:09,758 --> 00:04:11,586 without a dad around? 98 00:04:11,620 --> 00:04:12,758 It just sucks. 99 00:04:14,413 --> 00:04:16,965 [Dr. Drew] It sucks doing it alone? 100 00:04:17,000 --> 00:04:17,827 Yeah. 101 00:04:19,517 --> 00:04:21,896 You know I've been staying by myself since I was 15, 102 00:04:21,931 --> 00:04:23,241 I decided to do my own life 103 00:04:23,275 --> 00:04:25,275 so that's what I'm doing, you know. 104 00:04:27,655 --> 00:04:29,068 It's just not easy. 105 00:04:29,103 --> 00:04:30,620 [Dr. Drew] What's the matter with you being close? 106 00:04:32,068 --> 00:04:33,275 I'm scared I might get hurt again. 107 00:04:33,310 --> 00:04:34,793 Right. 108 00:04:34,827 --> 00:04:37,931 I've been hurt too many times from Guy, I don't want 109 00:04:37,965 --> 00:04:39,448 to take that anymore. 110 00:04:39,482 --> 00:04:40,689 [Dr. Drew] I know. 111 00:04:40,724 --> 00:04:42,517 Can't look at any woman anymore. 112 00:04:42,551 --> 00:04:43,793 [guys laugh] 113 00:04:43,827 --> 00:04:46,034 Oh no, you can look just don't touch. 114 00:04:46,068 --> 00:04:47,689 [guys laugh] 115 00:04:47,724 --> 00:04:49,310 When was the last time you saw Callie? 116 00:04:49,344 --> 00:04:50,689 Two months. 117 00:04:50,724 --> 00:04:52,172 Lets bring them out right now. 118 00:04:52,206 --> 00:05:00,517 [audience applause] 119 00:05:00,551 --> 00:05:03,172 [audience applause] 120 00:05:03,206 --> 00:05:07,000 [audience applause] 121 00:05:07,034 --> 00:05:08,827 Welcome back to Life After Labor, 122 00:05:08,862 --> 00:05:10,793 the 16 and Pregnant finale special. 123 00:05:10,827 --> 00:05:12,344 I'm Dr. Drew. 124 00:05:12,379 --> 00:05:16,517 Now, the fact is that one out of every six girls in America 125 00:05:16,551 --> 00:05:19,655 will become a teen mom, amazing. 126 00:05:19,689 --> 00:05:21,379 One of these teen moms is with us today. 127 00:05:21,413 --> 00:05:22,965 Kayla, how are you? 128 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:24,172 Good. 129 00:05:24,206 --> 00:05:25,758 Are you surprised that so many young people 130 00:05:25,793 --> 00:05:27,034 end up in your position? 131 00:05:27,068 --> 00:05:28,758 Yeah, sort of. It's surprising? 132 00:05:28,793 --> 00:05:30,310 You didn't expect to be here? 133 00:05:30,344 --> 00:05:33,586 No, I was one of those that thought it would never be me. 134 00:05:33,620 --> 00:05:34,896 Never be me. 135 00:05:34,931 --> 00:05:37,068 Well before we dive into more questions, 136 00:05:37,103 --> 00:05:38,482 here is Kayla's story. 137 00:05:40,586 --> 00:05:44,000 I reckon you're excited about having a little boy. 138 00:05:44,034 --> 00:05:45,689 I'm really thrilled that I have my boy. 139 00:05:45,724 --> 00:05:47,172 What are your plans? 140 00:05:47,206 --> 00:05:49,620 Because I feel real strong about not moving in together 141 00:05:49,655 --> 00:05:51,275 until you're married. 142 00:05:51,310 --> 00:05:53,000 Kayla, will you marry me? 143 00:05:54,137 --> 00:05:55,000 Yeah. 144 00:05:56,172 --> 00:05:58,793 Okay, we're going to the hospital now. 145 00:05:58,827 --> 00:06:01,379 ♪♪ 146 00:06:05,448 --> 00:06:07,931 [baby crying] 147 00:06:07,965 --> 00:06:11,551 I just don't feel like anybody's good enough to watch him. 148 00:06:11,586 --> 00:06:13,655 I wanna move in this house really soon. 149 00:06:13,689 --> 00:06:15,448 This is a big decision. 150 00:06:15,482 --> 00:06:17,689 I mean we've got a lot to think about. 151 00:06:17,724 --> 00:06:21,482 It's like a big step that we're not ready for yet. 152 00:06:21,517 --> 00:06:23,000 I wanna be your husband 153 00:06:23,034 --> 00:06:25,344 and I want to provide for you and Ryland. 154 00:06:25,379 --> 00:06:26,551 I don't wanna be getting married. 155 00:06:26,586 --> 00:06:28,965 I've had to grow up so fast. 156 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:31,241 And you've got to do all these things you wanted to do, 157 00:06:31,275 --> 00:06:34,275 I didn't and I'm still a teenager. 158 00:06:39,793 --> 00:06:41,344 Okay Kayla, let's get right to it. 159 00:06:41,379 --> 00:06:43,310 What's the relationship status with JR? 160 00:06:44,172 --> 00:06:46,344 We're still engaged. 161 00:06:46,379 --> 00:06:47,655 What's holding you back? 162 00:06:47,689 --> 00:06:50,137 We both have jealousy issues 163 00:06:50,172 --> 00:06:53,551 and like he looked at a couple other girls' pictures 164 00:06:53,586 --> 00:06:57,206 on the internet, and then he went and lied to me about it. 165 00:06:57,241 --> 00:06:59,586 And I was like, "If you're gonna lie to me 166 00:06:59,620 --> 00:07:00,862 "about the small stuff, 167 00:07:00,896 --> 00:07:02,344 "then you're not gonna tell me the truth 168 00:07:02,379 --> 00:07:03,862 "about the big stuff." 169 00:07:03,896 --> 00:07:05,689 Were you searching around on his phone or something 170 00:07:05,724 --> 00:07:07,206 or his computer history? 171 00:07:07,241 --> 00:07:09,965 I was on his phone and I don't know how to work it. 172 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:11,655 So I was typing in something 173 00:07:11,689 --> 00:07:14,034 and then the girl's name popped up. 174 00:07:14,068 --> 00:07:16,000 Then I started snooping. 175 00:07:17,000 --> 00:07:18,172 And this is the reason 176 00:07:18,206 --> 00:07:19,689 or is it the fact that you're having difficulty 177 00:07:19,724 --> 00:07:20,517 leaving home? 178 00:07:20,551 --> 00:07:22,379 I make sure both. 179 00:07:22,413 --> 00:07:24,137 Like I realized that, 180 00:07:24,172 --> 00:07:28,172 I mean I took mine and my mom's relationship for granted 181 00:07:28,206 --> 00:07:32,172 and now, being pregnant, me and her got a lot closer 182 00:07:32,206 --> 00:07:35,034 and I just want more of that time. 183 00:07:35,068 --> 00:07:36,827 She's a special person, 184 00:07:36,862 --> 00:07:40,000 I don't know how I would've got through this without her. 185 00:07:41,586 --> 00:07:43,517 Oh. 186 00:07:43,551 --> 00:07:45,206 Oh. 187 00:07:45,241 --> 00:07:46,068 It's not easy. 188 00:07:48,137 --> 00:07:50,310 All right, let's bring JR out shall we? 189 00:07:50,344 --> 00:07:53,344 [audience applause] 190 00:07:56,586 --> 00:07:57,827 How are you sir, welcome. 191 00:07:57,862 --> 00:07:59,034 Fine, thank you. 192 00:07:59,068 --> 00:08:00,655 Did you know that it's because of mom 193 00:08:00,689 --> 00:08:02,758 that caused her to push back the wedding a little bit? 194 00:08:02,793 --> 00:08:04,241 Yeah, I think in a way, 195 00:08:04,275 --> 00:08:05,793 it's probably a good thing that we're pushing back. 196 00:08:05,827 --> 00:08:08,068 You know, not just because of her mom 197 00:08:08,103 --> 00:08:10,172 but I want us to have enough money 198 00:08:10,206 --> 00:08:12,275 to be a stable family too 199 00:08:12,310 --> 00:08:13,931 when we do move out. 200 00:08:13,965 --> 00:08:16,551 Her mom warned you about sneaking into her room at night. 201 00:08:16,586 --> 00:08:19,310 [giggles] 202 00:08:19,344 --> 00:08:20,448 Is he still doing it? 203 00:08:21,586 --> 00:08:23,172 Yeah. 204 00:08:23,206 --> 00:08:24,551 [laughter] 205 00:08:24,586 --> 00:08:25,965 What do you use for birth control now? 206 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:28,310 I have the IUD. 207 00:08:28,344 --> 00:08:29,551 IUD. 208 00:08:29,586 --> 00:08:31,827 Before I got pregnant, I was on the pills. 209 00:08:31,862 --> 00:08:34,034 But I couldn't remember to take them daily. 210 00:08:34,068 --> 00:08:35,586 I'd go days without taking them. 211 00:08:35,620 --> 00:08:37,827 So I figured, you know, this is the best way 212 00:08:37,862 --> 00:08:40,551 and it'd give us a little time period 213 00:08:40,586 --> 00:08:42,448 before we have another baby. 214 00:08:42,482 --> 00:08:43,689 [Dr. Drew] Yes. 215 00:08:43,724 --> 00:08:45,172 Yeah. 216 00:08:45,206 --> 00:08:47,448 [Dr. Drew] Is there a plan to have another baby? 217 00:08:47,482 --> 00:08:48,275 JR? 218 00:08:50,379 --> 00:08:52,931 I want it in the future some time. 219 00:08:52,965 --> 00:08:54,206 It's hard to afford the one we got. 220 00:08:54,241 --> 00:08:56,103 So we definitely can't afford another. 221 00:08:56,137 --> 00:08:58,172 Yeah, it gets a lot worse with two. 222 00:08:59,241 --> 00:09:01,517 Do you resent JR at all, 223 00:09:01,551 --> 00:09:04,344 having now lost really your teenage years? 224 00:09:04,379 --> 00:09:05,931 Sometimes, because you know, 225 00:09:05,965 --> 00:09:07,620 he got to have his senior year 226 00:09:07,655 --> 00:09:10,931 and I've missed out on a lot of my senior year. 227 00:09:10,965 --> 00:09:13,103 And it makes me mad at him because 228 00:09:13,137 --> 00:09:16,551 I guess he doesn't really understand where I'm coming from. 229 00:09:16,586 --> 00:09:21,206 And if I want like just to take a minute away or something-- 230 00:09:21,241 --> 00:09:23,310 [Dr. Drew] And JR doesn't approve of that? 231 00:09:23,344 --> 00:09:24,551 Not all the time. 232 00:09:24,586 --> 00:09:26,551 Is that back to the trust issues again? 233 00:09:26,586 --> 00:09:28,586 Yeah, I guess, you can call it that. 234 00:09:28,620 --> 00:09:30,965 So you guys both have jealousy issues. 235 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:34,517 I mean that's what causes most the arguments and stuff. 236 00:09:34,551 --> 00:09:37,137 JR, do you feel like your relationship would be different 237 00:09:37,172 --> 00:09:40,206 if there wasn't Ryland around? 238 00:09:40,241 --> 00:09:41,931 No. 239 00:09:41,965 --> 00:09:43,103 [Dr. Drew] It'd be the same? 240 00:09:43,137 --> 00:09:44,241 You'd still be asking her to marry you? 241 00:09:44,275 --> 00:09:45,172 Yeah. 242 00:09:45,206 --> 00:09:46,379 Do you tell her that? 243 00:09:46,413 --> 00:09:47,758 Does he tell you that enough? 244 00:09:47,793 --> 00:09:49,206 Not enough. 245 00:09:49,241 --> 00:09:50,827 [Dr. Drew] Tell her right now. 246 00:09:50,862 --> 00:09:51,793 I love you. 247 00:09:53,137 --> 00:09:55,034 And I always wanna be with you. 248 00:09:55,068 --> 00:09:59,551 I never wanna lose you or Ryland ever. 249 00:09:59,586 --> 00:10:01,206 I want to grow old with you. 250 00:10:03,068 --> 00:10:05,931 And us watch Ryland grow up together, 251 00:10:05,965 --> 00:10:08,689 send him off to college and watch him get married 252 00:10:08,724 --> 00:10:11,206 and us become grandparents together. 253 00:10:11,241 --> 00:10:12,344 Way on down the road. 254 00:10:12,379 --> 00:10:13,206 Yeah. 255 00:10:14,482 --> 00:10:16,068 Not as young as we was. 256 00:10:16,103 --> 00:10:16,965 Yeah. 257 00:10:18,379 --> 00:10:21,241 When you tell me how much you love me, it means a lot 258 00:10:21,275 --> 00:10:23,413 and it's something I need to hear often 259 00:10:23,448 --> 00:10:24,724 even when we fight. 260 00:10:25,931 --> 00:10:28,000 I just need to know that you still care. 261 00:10:29,931 --> 00:10:32,172 [laughter] 262 00:10:35,379 --> 00:10:37,344 Let's make something clear here. 263 00:10:37,379 --> 00:10:42,275 You two are extraordinarily unusual as teen parents 264 00:10:42,310 --> 00:10:46,862 because you both have two supportive parents, 265 00:10:46,896 --> 00:10:48,482 you have one another, 266 00:10:48,517 --> 00:10:51,931 you have determination to finish your education, 267 00:10:51,965 --> 00:10:53,275 you have a job 268 00:10:53,310 --> 00:10:56,793 and in spite of it being an optimal circumstance, 269 00:10:56,827 --> 00:10:58,275 it's still hard. 270 00:10:58,310 --> 00:10:59,517 It is. 271 00:10:59,551 --> 00:11:00,793 [Dr. Drew] Right? It's very hard. 272 00:11:00,827 --> 00:11:02,241 Well thank you guys for being here. 273 00:11:02,275 --> 00:11:03,655 It's an inspiring story 274 00:11:03,689 --> 00:11:07,896 and in a moment, we will return with Christina and Izea. 275 00:11:07,931 --> 00:11:11,137 Now it sometimes seem like Izea cared more for his car 276 00:11:11,172 --> 00:11:13,241 than he did for his baby's mom. 277 00:11:13,275 --> 00:11:15,758 We will get his priorities straight right after the break 278 00:11:15,793 --> 00:11:16,827 so do not go away. 279 00:11:16,862 --> 00:11:25,413 [audience applause] 280 00:11:25,448 --> 00:11:27,931 [audience applause] 281 00:11:27,965 --> 00:11:31,000 [audience clapping] 282 00:11:31,034 --> 00:11:32,241 And we are back. 283 00:11:32,275 --> 00:11:33,586 I'm Dr. Drew and this is the 284 00:11:33,620 --> 00:11:35,689 "16 and Pregnant" Finale Special. 285 00:11:35,724 --> 00:11:38,724 Today, I'm talking with nine extraordinary young women, 286 00:11:38,758 --> 00:11:41,931 each of whom had their lives turned upside down 287 00:11:41,965 --> 00:11:44,413 after taking a pregnancy test. 288 00:11:44,448 --> 00:11:45,965 I'm here now with Christinna. 289 00:11:46,000 --> 00:11:50,000 Let's take a look back at her story on "16 and Pregnant". 290 00:11:50,034 --> 00:11:51,482 ♪♪ 291 00:11:51,517 --> 00:11:53,034 Still don't like Isiah's grandma. 292 00:11:53,068 --> 00:11:55,551 Then she's like, "It's not his baby, we will get it tested." 293 00:11:55,586 --> 00:11:57,758 Nowadays, people don't, because you're pregnant, 294 00:11:57,793 --> 00:11:58,896 they don't run around getting married. 295 00:11:58,931 --> 00:12:00,551 You got a scholarship to college. 296 00:12:00,586 --> 00:12:02,034 You didn't have to be here. 297 00:12:02,068 --> 00:12:05,275 And not only are you here, you brought something with you. 298 00:12:05,310 --> 00:12:06,517 [loud clap] 299 00:12:06,551 --> 00:12:08,793 Your baby should be your number one priority 300 00:12:08,827 --> 00:12:10,241 and she's not. 301 00:12:10,275 --> 00:12:11,931 Isiah has three hundred dollars left from his check 302 00:12:11,965 --> 00:12:13,413 and he wants to spend that. 303 00:12:13,448 --> 00:12:14,931 I told you I was gonna get me two fifteens, man. 304 00:12:14,965 --> 00:12:16,896 Like, if I wasn't pregnant I would've just been like 305 00:12:16,931 --> 00:12:18,827 "Adios, bye I'll see you later." 306 00:12:18,862 --> 00:12:19,655 [Woman] Go, go, go, go, go, go. 307 00:12:19,689 --> 00:12:20,862 She's here. 308 00:12:20,896 --> 00:12:22,000 Say "Hi", mom. 309 00:12:23,068 --> 00:12:24,896 [baby crying] 310 00:12:24,931 --> 00:12:26,137 [Man] You like being a mom now? 311 00:12:26,172 --> 00:12:27,896 I don't like it or dislike it 312 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:30,793 Everybody has a purpose in life. 313 00:12:30,827 --> 00:12:32,827 I didn't think my purpose was to take care of a baby 314 00:12:32,862 --> 00:12:34,034 before I had her. 315 00:12:34,068 --> 00:12:35,793 If I walk away, then what was the hell 316 00:12:35,827 --> 00:12:37,275 my purpose was giving up my scholarship 317 00:12:37,310 --> 00:12:38,931 if I'm just gon' walk away that easy? 318 00:12:38,965 --> 00:12:41,103 I feel we should still should have a DNA test. 319 00:12:41,137 --> 00:12:42,379 I don't see the point in it. 320 00:12:42,413 --> 00:12:43,344 Why not? 321 00:12:43,379 --> 00:12:44,551 I know whose baby it is 322 00:12:44,586 --> 00:12:46,827 and that's all that's important to me. 323 00:12:46,862 --> 00:12:47,931 Bought it. 324 00:12:47,965 --> 00:12:49,586 Granny knows things. 325 00:12:49,620 --> 00:12:50,724 Granny knows 326 00:12:50,758 --> 00:12:53,551 ♪♪ 327 00:12:55,275 --> 00:12:58,103 [door slamming] 328 00:12:58,137 --> 00:13:01,000 Whoa, that is intense. 329 00:13:01,034 --> 00:13:03,689 So, did you use that DNA paternity test? 330 00:13:03,724 --> 00:13:04,931 I got fed up with it, 331 00:13:04,965 --> 00:13:07,000 so I went and I got it from Isiah's mom's house 332 00:13:07,034 --> 00:13:08,482 and I swabbed all our mouths, 333 00:13:08,517 --> 00:13:11,275 and nobody wanted to send it off and pay the money for it. 334 00:13:11,310 --> 00:13:15,034 How does it feel that she's so rough on you about that? 335 00:13:15,068 --> 00:13:17,586 It's very frustrating. 336 00:13:17,620 --> 00:13:20,172 I try to be respectful because that's my husband 337 00:13:20,206 --> 00:13:24,137 and my daughter's grandmother and great grandmother but- 338 00:13:24,172 --> 00:13:25,965 Was there a specific issue? 339 00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:28,310 They blame me for the fact that he didn't 340 00:13:28,344 --> 00:13:31,172 go off to play college and they resent me for that 341 00:13:31,206 --> 00:13:32,344 and won't let it go. 342 00:13:33,758 --> 00:13:35,206 Isiah's grandma and mom had beaten you up pretty good 343 00:13:35,241 --> 00:13:37,000 about the football scholarship. 344 00:13:37,034 --> 00:13:38,482 Mhm. 345 00:13:38,517 --> 00:13:41,172 Why didn't you try to get the scholarship to stick? 346 00:13:41,206 --> 00:13:42,896 Try to work it out? 347 00:13:42,931 --> 00:13:44,931 Well, the problem was, 348 00:13:44,965 --> 00:13:47,586 that college is a private Baptist school 349 00:13:47,620 --> 00:13:51,827 and they don't have any married student housing at all 350 00:13:51,862 --> 00:13:53,758 and it's very expensive. 351 00:13:53,793 --> 00:13:55,965 And so, like, I just couldn't afford to go there. 352 00:13:56,000 --> 00:13:58,103 So if he would of went I would've either stayed in Alabama 353 00:13:58,137 --> 00:13:59,379 or went back to New York. 354 00:13:59,413 --> 00:14:00,931 So did you ever go to the school and say 355 00:14:00,965 --> 00:14:03,103 "Hey, we've got the situation, can you help us with this? 356 00:14:03,137 --> 00:14:04,586 What are our options?" 357 00:14:04,620 --> 00:14:07,034 Yeah, they told him to get a copy of his transcript 358 00:14:07,068 --> 00:14:10,000 whenever he got his final grades for the semester. 359 00:14:10,034 --> 00:14:11,413 So he got those transcripts together. 360 00:14:11,448 --> 00:14:12,241 No. 361 00:14:12,275 --> 00:14:13,137 He just never did it? 362 00:14:13,172 --> 00:14:14,000 Yeah. 363 00:14:15,034 --> 00:14:16,206 Don't know. 364 00:14:16,241 --> 00:14:18,137 I gotta hear from him when he gets out here. 365 00:14:18,172 --> 00:14:19,896 I guess so. 366 00:14:19,931 --> 00:14:21,724 How's relationship with Isiah now? 367 00:14:22,724 --> 00:14:24,172 It's okay. 368 00:14:24,206 --> 00:14:25,275 Are there issues? 369 00:14:25,310 --> 00:14:27,310 Yeah, there's a lot of 'em 370 00:14:27,344 --> 00:14:28,862 Alright, lets get him out here 371 00:14:28,896 --> 00:14:30,206 and talk about these things, okay? 372 00:14:30,241 --> 00:14:31,241 Isiah, come on out. 373 00:14:32,482 --> 00:14:35,482 [audience clapping] 374 00:14:37,034 --> 00:14:37,896 How are you, sir? 375 00:14:37,931 --> 00:14:38,724 I'm good. 376 00:14:38,758 --> 00:14:39,965 How ya doing. 377 00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:41,379 So she was saying there's some issues. 378 00:14:41,413 --> 00:14:42,655 What's she talking about? 379 00:14:42,689 --> 00:14:45,758 I'd say there were past issues. 380 00:14:45,793 --> 00:14:48,068 Like, present day, I don't say there's any issues. 381 00:14:48,103 --> 00:14:49,827 That's from my stand point though. 382 00:14:51,034 --> 00:14:52,275 And from your stand point? 383 00:14:52,310 --> 00:14:55,137 I say the two main problems would be, 384 00:14:55,172 --> 00:14:57,689 not necessarily cheating, but mingling- 385 00:14:57,724 --> 00:14:58,517 [Dr. Drew] Mingling? 386 00:14:58,551 --> 00:14:59,344 Texting 387 00:14:59,379 --> 00:15:00,724 Did you ever cheat? 388 00:15:00,758 --> 00:15:01,586 Mmm. 389 00:15:04,551 --> 00:15:05,724 Once. 390 00:15:08,103 --> 00:15:10,241 Not since we've been married though. 391 00:15:10,275 --> 00:15:11,241 Okay. 392 00:15:11,275 --> 00:15:12,655 So once you've made a commitment 393 00:15:12,689 --> 00:15:14,448 in front of God and everybody you live up to it? 394 00:15:14,482 --> 00:15:18,000 No, I found out he cheated on me after we got married. 395 00:15:19,344 --> 00:15:23,482 And, I think that's something you should tell somebody 396 00:15:23,517 --> 00:15:25,137 before you marry them. 397 00:15:25,172 --> 00:15:26,137 How'd you find out? 398 00:15:26,172 --> 00:15:27,655 He was texting the girl again 399 00:15:27,689 --> 00:15:30,206 and I saw text messages in Isiah's phone. 400 00:15:30,241 --> 00:15:31,620 And you couldn't figure it out? 401 00:15:31,655 --> 00:15:33,241 Oh, I texted her. 402 00:15:33,275 --> 00:15:34,379 I hope she told you. 403 00:15:36,034 --> 00:15:37,413 I think Christinna's living in the house 404 00:15:37,448 --> 00:15:40,620 where she doesn't feel very supported by your kin. 405 00:15:40,655 --> 00:15:41,482 Yeah. 406 00:15:42,931 --> 00:15:45,482 My kin, them some tough people to get along with. 407 00:15:45,517 --> 00:15:47,965 How do you feel about this issue with the paternity test? 408 00:15:48,000 --> 00:15:49,931 My grandma, I don't know, 409 00:15:49,965 --> 00:15:51,724 I let her think whatever she wants to. 410 00:15:51,758 --> 00:15:53,137 [audience laughing] 411 00:15:53,172 --> 00:15:54,275 Did you ever question? 412 00:15:54,310 --> 00:15:55,793 The paternity. 413 00:15:55,827 --> 00:15:57,827 I would say I did, when she was first born though. 414 00:15:59,137 --> 00:16:00,448 Just what I would always think, 415 00:16:00,482 --> 00:16:01,862 like, "Wow she doesn't really look like me." 416 00:16:01,896 --> 00:16:04,000 but now, like, months went by, 417 00:16:04,034 --> 00:16:08,000 like, wow she really looks close to just like me now. 418 00:16:09,448 --> 00:16:12,068 Let me ask something, just why not go back after 419 00:16:12,103 --> 00:16:14,103 the scholarships? 420 00:16:14,137 --> 00:16:15,724 I'm at a two-year college right now 421 00:16:15,758 --> 00:16:18,000 so that gives us time for our baby to get older, 422 00:16:18,034 --> 00:16:19,586 us to get our associate's and- 423 00:16:19,620 --> 00:16:20,517 [Dr. Drew] You got some work in the meantime. 424 00:16:20,551 --> 00:16:21,862 figure out a better plan. 425 00:16:22,862 --> 00:16:24,172 How did you get pregnant? 426 00:16:25,655 --> 00:16:27,620 Didn't you say you didn't use any birth control or- 427 00:16:27,655 --> 00:16:28,758 Nothing. 428 00:16:28,793 --> 00:16:29,896 Isiah, you just- 429 00:16:29,931 --> 00:16:30,758 Nah. 430 00:16:32,137 --> 00:16:35,620 I don't know, me, high school, I was the invincible kid. 431 00:16:35,655 --> 00:16:38,448 I was the football star, the track star, the base- 432 00:16:38,482 --> 00:16:40,206 everybody liked me. 433 00:16:40,241 --> 00:16:41,724 Had just signed my scholarship, 434 00:16:41,758 --> 00:16:43,827 I didn't think I could go wrong with anything. 435 00:16:45,000 --> 00:16:46,310 What about now, what are you doing? 436 00:16:46,344 --> 00:16:47,137 Nothing. 437 00:16:47,172 --> 00:16:48,517 No contraceptives? 438 00:16:48,551 --> 00:16:49,551 Huh? 439 00:16:49,586 --> 00:16:52,103 [audience laughing] 440 00:16:52,137 --> 00:16:54,620 Well, you're keeping up with the stats that way. 441 00:16:54,655 --> 00:16:57,137 About one in fourteen moms get pregnant again 442 00:16:57,172 --> 00:16:58,413 within two years. 443 00:16:58,448 --> 00:17:00,206 So, do you want a second baby? 444 00:17:00,241 --> 00:17:01,724 Not now. 445 00:17:01,758 --> 00:17:02,827 Isiah, put a condom on, you know. 446 00:17:02,862 --> 00:17:04,172 I know. 447 00:17:04,206 --> 00:17:05,413 [audience laughing] 448 00:17:05,448 --> 00:17:06,620 I'll go buy you some when they do the break, 449 00:17:06,655 --> 00:17:07,655 I swear to God. 450 00:17:07,689 --> 00:17:09,620 [audience laughing] 451 00:17:09,655 --> 00:17:12,862 The problem though is, If you have a second child 452 00:17:12,896 --> 00:17:15,068 you're just gonna be scrambling financially from then on. 453 00:17:15,103 --> 00:17:16,241 Yeah 454 00:17:16,275 --> 00:17:17,172 But imagine if another child comes along, 455 00:17:17,206 --> 00:17:18,793 what that's gonna do to Destiny. 456 00:17:19,655 --> 00:17:20,482 It's not fair. 457 00:17:21,448 --> 00:17:22,344 No 458 00:17:22,379 --> 00:17:24,620 Okay, so contraception, yeah? 459 00:17:24,655 --> 00:17:26,965 Yeah. [laughs] 460 00:17:27,000 --> 00:17:29,241 Isiah, Christinna, thank you for sharing with us today. 461 00:17:29,275 --> 00:17:31,896 Now, bottom line, If you're not using protection 462 00:17:31,931 --> 00:17:33,482 you can get pregnant. 463 00:17:33,517 --> 00:17:37,586 To learn more head over to 16andpregnant.mtv.com. 464 00:17:37,620 --> 00:17:38,862 We're gonna take a quick break 465 00:17:38,896 --> 00:17:40,620 and then I'll bring out Brooke and Cody. 466 00:17:40,655 --> 00:17:43,000 Question here is, has car racing taken a back seat 467 00:17:43,034 --> 00:17:44,896 to motherhood or vice versa? 468 00:17:44,931 --> 00:17:46,206 Find out when we return. 469 00:17:46,241 --> 00:17:58,000 [audience clapping] ♪♪ 470 00:17:58,034 --> 00:18:01,068 [audience clapping] ♪♪ 471 00:18:01,689 --> 00:18:03,137 Welcome back to the show. 472 00:18:03,172 --> 00:18:07,172 I am Dr. Drew and this the 16 and Pregnant Finale Special. 473 00:18:07,206 --> 00:18:09,068 Today's show is all about the teen mothers 474 00:18:09,103 --> 00:18:11,275 but we'll make some room for the guys as well 475 00:18:11,310 --> 00:18:13,724 because we're gonna be chatting with all the dads together 476 00:18:13,758 --> 00:18:15,827 on this stage, so stay tuned for that. 477 00:18:15,862 --> 00:18:17,241 I'm looking forward to that one. 478 00:18:17,275 --> 00:18:18,758 Right now I'm joined by Brooke 479 00:18:18,793 --> 00:18:20,655 and her baby's father, Cody. 480 00:18:20,689 --> 00:18:21,482 Guys, how are ya? 481 00:18:21,517 --> 00:18:22,724 Good. Good. 482 00:18:22,758 --> 00:18:24,310 Now, you come from a family where 483 00:18:24,344 --> 00:18:27,103 teen pregnancy has not been that unusual. 484 00:18:27,137 --> 00:18:28,413 Not really. 485 00:18:28,448 --> 00:18:29,931 And you were gonna break that cycle. 486 00:18:29,965 --> 00:18:31,620 Yeah, I thought I was. 487 00:18:31,655 --> 00:18:32,896 Supposed to. 488 00:18:32,931 --> 00:18:33,931 Okay, we'll talk more about that 489 00:18:33,965 --> 00:18:35,241 but first, let's take a look back 490 00:18:35,275 --> 00:18:38,206 at how Brooke handled being 16 and pregnant. 491 00:18:39,517 --> 00:18:40,896 [Woman] Did you take one? 492 00:18:40,931 --> 00:18:41,827 Three. 493 00:18:41,862 --> 00:18:43,241 [Woman] Third time's a charm. 494 00:18:43,275 --> 00:18:46,724 No, all three of 'em said the same thing. 495 00:18:46,758 --> 00:18:48,931 Why do y'all wanna get married right now? 496 00:18:48,965 --> 00:18:51,206 'Cause I don't wanna be fat at my wedding. 497 00:18:51,241 --> 00:18:52,689 [Officiant] Do you, Brooke, solemnly agree 498 00:18:52,724 --> 00:18:55,275 to receive this man as your lawful wedded husband? 499 00:18:55,310 --> 00:18:56,517 I do. 500 00:18:56,551 --> 00:18:57,655 [Officiant] You may kiss the bride. 501 00:18:59,758 --> 00:19:00,862 [Brooke] I love you. 502 00:19:00,896 --> 00:19:02,310 I love you too. 503 00:19:03,724 --> 00:19:05,034 Go daddy, go daddy, go daddy, go! 504 00:19:05,068 --> 00:19:06,482 And y'all have to pay for daycare, 505 00:19:06,517 --> 00:19:07,724 me and dad can't help you. 506 00:19:07,758 --> 00:19:09,517 We know, we have to pay for daycare. 507 00:19:10,896 --> 00:19:12,586 One, two, three... 508 00:19:12,620 --> 00:19:14,310 Come on sweetie, push! Four, five. 509 00:19:14,344 --> 00:19:15,793 Come on, he's a long guy! 510 00:19:15,827 --> 00:19:16,793 Look at him! 511 00:19:19,517 --> 00:19:20,965 The house needs to be cleaned 512 00:19:21,000 --> 00:19:22,448 and it's not happening. 513 00:19:22,482 --> 00:19:24,586 You guys gotta pick up your slack, period. 514 00:19:24,620 --> 00:19:26,137 We aren't putting anything aside for 515 00:19:26,172 --> 00:19:30,137 paying back mom and dad or the house or anything. 516 00:19:30,172 --> 00:19:31,827 So are we gonna change that now? 517 00:19:35,241 --> 00:19:37,103 Oh goodness is right. 518 00:19:37,137 --> 00:19:38,758 Oh goodness. 519 00:19:38,793 --> 00:19:40,310 You're a junior in high school, is that right? 520 00:19:40,344 --> 00:19:41,586 [Brooke] Mmhm. 521 00:19:41,620 --> 00:19:43,068 [Dr. Drew] Well that must have been tough. 522 00:19:43,103 --> 00:19:45,724 I had a lot of support from my friends and family 523 00:19:45,758 --> 00:19:50,034 so it wasn't as tough as it is for most people. 524 00:19:50,068 --> 00:19:51,482 [Dr. Drew] Also you had a supportive partner. 525 00:19:51,517 --> 00:19:52,931 [Brooke] Yes. 526 00:19:52,965 --> 00:19:54,344 Cody, you tried on a pregnancy suit at one point, 527 00:19:54,379 --> 00:19:56,137 how'd that feel? 528 00:19:56,172 --> 00:19:59,068 Like, my back's killing me, my legs are killing me. 529 00:19:59,103 --> 00:20:01,827 So then I had the bright idea of 530 00:20:01,862 --> 00:20:04,310 going out in public with it on 531 00:20:04,344 --> 00:20:07,655 and the looks I got there was like 532 00:20:07,689 --> 00:20:08,517 what is he doing? 533 00:20:09,689 --> 00:20:14,241 But, I mean it's, it's more understanding now 534 00:20:14,275 --> 00:20:16,034 to know what she went through 535 00:20:16,068 --> 00:20:20,068 and I think that should be something every guy tries on. 536 00:20:20,103 --> 00:20:21,379 Brooke, is it emotional to see 537 00:20:21,413 --> 00:20:22,965 all of the other moms' stories too? 538 00:20:23,000 --> 00:20:25,034 Yeah, 'cause it's sad when they don't have 539 00:20:25,068 --> 00:20:27,275 the support that they need to get through it. 540 00:20:28,448 --> 00:20:30,448 There's no way I could do it without him 541 00:20:30,482 --> 00:20:33,655 or my parents or his grandparents or his parents. 542 00:20:35,206 --> 00:20:37,724 My understanding is that you're pretty connected to Brody, 543 00:20:37,758 --> 00:20:39,344 you're with him all the time. 544 00:20:39,379 --> 00:20:40,965 You went to prom? 545 00:20:41,000 --> 00:20:44,103 That was the first time I left him. 546 00:20:44,137 --> 00:20:49,137 It was sad but it was good for me to start to know that 547 00:20:50,310 --> 00:20:51,448 I have to leave him every once in a while. 548 00:20:51,482 --> 00:20:52,896 And you're starting to get used to 549 00:20:52,931 --> 00:20:54,896 handing him over to people? 550 00:20:54,931 --> 00:20:56,137 I didn't think it would be this hard 551 00:20:56,172 --> 00:20:58,724 to leave him every once in a while. 552 00:20:58,758 --> 00:21:00,034 I mean, did you decide, 553 00:21:00,068 --> 00:21:01,517 oh, I'll just keep going to school? 554 00:21:01,551 --> 00:21:02,724 I think that's what you said even in your segment 555 00:21:02,758 --> 00:21:04,000 was just, I'll go to school, I'll get a job, 556 00:21:04,034 --> 00:21:05,517 I'll do all these things. 557 00:21:05,551 --> 00:21:08,206 And I'm going to school and I start my job in the summer. 558 00:21:08,241 --> 00:21:11,793 But it's gonna be hard, it's gonna be really hard. 559 00:21:12,965 --> 00:21:14,896 You come from a long heritage of 560 00:21:14,931 --> 00:21:17,310 women that got married young and teen moms. 561 00:21:17,344 --> 00:21:21,344 For Brody, do you expect he'll be a teen dad? 562 00:21:21,379 --> 00:21:24,517 I hope not, I'm gonna teach him what I can, but. 563 00:21:24,551 --> 00:21:26,034 Did your mom talk to you about those things? 564 00:21:26,068 --> 00:21:27,172 Yeah. 565 00:21:27,206 --> 00:21:30,000 I didn't listen. [laughs] 566 00:21:30,034 --> 00:21:31,896 How tough for mom, she's trying to tell you all this stuff 567 00:21:31,931 --> 00:21:33,344 and what, you run out of the room? 568 00:21:33,379 --> 00:21:35,379 It's awkward to me, I don't know why, it just is. 569 00:21:35,413 --> 00:21:36,655 It's a difficult topic. 570 00:21:36,689 --> 00:21:37,655 Yeah. 571 00:21:37,689 --> 00:21:38,862 Well guys, thanks for joining 572 00:21:38,896 --> 00:21:40,241 and thanks for sharing the story. 573 00:21:40,275 --> 00:21:41,068 Thank you. 574 00:21:41,103 --> 00:21:42,689 Our next mom is Megan, 575 00:21:42,724 --> 00:21:44,034 here is what she went through 576 00:21:44,068 --> 00:21:45,620 this season on 16 and Pregnant. 577 00:21:48,241 --> 00:21:49,068 Yeah, I'm not ready. 578 00:21:50,206 --> 00:21:51,103 You will be. 579 00:21:51,137 --> 00:21:52,655 It's heartbreaking. 580 00:21:52,689 --> 00:21:54,620 You know, you guys can't be kids anymore. 581 00:21:54,655 --> 00:21:56,034 You and this stupid game. 582 00:21:56,068 --> 00:21:57,517 [Nathan] I have nothing better to do. 583 00:21:57,551 --> 00:21:59,068 It's not gonna be easy to take care of a baby 584 00:21:59,103 --> 00:22:01,206 with a controller in your hand. 585 00:22:01,241 --> 00:22:02,482 I think once the baby comes 586 00:22:02,517 --> 00:22:03,655 and things start getting rough, 587 00:22:03,689 --> 00:22:04,931 Nathan's gonna split. 588 00:22:04,965 --> 00:22:07,241 So you realize if we weren't having a baby, 589 00:22:07,275 --> 00:22:08,586 I wouldn't be here, right? 590 00:22:10,034 --> 00:22:11,241 You're doing amazing, baby, look at that. 591 00:22:11,275 --> 00:22:13,655 Meghan, you were right, he's perfect. 592 00:22:13,689 --> 00:22:15,068 [Woman] Good job, Megan! 593 00:22:15,103 --> 00:22:19,586 I realize that I was stupid, I'm sorry. 594 00:22:19,620 --> 00:22:21,344 [Meghan] It's okay. 595 00:22:22,551 --> 00:22:23,655 [Meghan] 'Kay. 596 00:22:23,689 --> 00:22:24,965 Now that we're parents, we kinda need to 597 00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:27,310 change our priorities a little bit more. 598 00:22:27,344 --> 00:22:29,241 What the hell do you want me to do? 599 00:22:29,275 --> 00:22:31,206 [Megan] You need to lay off the video games 600 00:22:31,241 --> 00:22:32,551 and change more diapers. 601 00:22:32,586 --> 00:22:34,241 Your living off my dad's paycheck 602 00:22:34,275 --> 00:22:35,896 doesn't really thrill me. 603 00:22:35,931 --> 00:22:38,448 You can stop glaring at me at any point in time. 604 00:22:38,482 --> 00:22:40,517 I would like if you got a job. 605 00:22:40,551 --> 00:22:41,965 I can go to Texas and work. 606 00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:43,482 I don't want you to go to Texas. 607 00:22:43,517 --> 00:22:46,310 It's kinda hard to begin our life without any money. 608 00:22:50,068 --> 00:22:51,620 Very stressful, right? 609 00:22:52,758 --> 00:22:57,034 80% of teen moms' baby daddies take off. 610 00:22:57,068 --> 00:22:58,448 Where's Nathan? 611 00:22:58,482 --> 00:22:59,965 He's at home. 612 00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:01,586 Why isn't he here? 613 00:23:01,620 --> 00:23:06,275 'Cause we've been having problems and stuff, so. 614 00:23:06,310 --> 00:23:07,758 He should be here supporting you, right? 615 00:23:07,793 --> 00:23:08,620 Yeah. 616 00:23:09,586 --> 00:23:10,724 You live with your mom now? 617 00:23:10,758 --> 00:23:11,931 Mmhm. 618 00:23:11,965 --> 00:23:14,000 And he was living with your mom too, right? 619 00:23:14,034 --> 00:23:14,965 Where's he living now? 620 00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:16,103 His grandma's. 621 00:23:16,137 --> 00:23:17,724 [Dr. Drew] So he's taken off? 622 00:23:17,758 --> 00:23:18,827 Yeah. 623 00:23:18,862 --> 00:23:20,413 Tell us what's going on. 624 00:23:20,448 --> 00:23:24,655 Well, we were engaged but he said, 625 00:23:24,689 --> 00:23:27,620 last week he said he didn't know what he wanted 626 00:23:27,655 --> 00:23:31,448 so we kind of broke up, I think, 627 00:23:31,482 --> 00:23:33,103 we haven't made it like official though, 628 00:23:33,137 --> 00:23:34,793 and he moved out, 629 00:23:34,827 --> 00:23:38,344 but he still comes by like every day to see the baby. 630 00:23:38,379 --> 00:23:41,034 Did you expect the baby to kinda keep him in the game? 631 00:23:41,931 --> 00:23:43,379 Kind of. 632 00:23:43,413 --> 00:23:46,310 Yeah, eight out of 10 times it makes 'em split. 633 00:23:46,344 --> 00:23:48,172 [laughs] 634 00:23:48,206 --> 00:23:50,482 I bet a lot of people complain about Nathan. 635 00:23:50,517 --> 00:23:52,000 Yeah. 636 00:23:52,034 --> 00:23:53,758 And I bet you have to come to his defense a lot. 637 00:23:55,827 --> 00:23:58,068 Why do you think that is? 638 00:23:59,586 --> 00:24:01,482 Because I don't want it to be true. 639 00:24:02,793 --> 00:24:05,103 I think that's very honest. 640 00:24:06,379 --> 00:24:08,965 What is it you don't want to be true? 641 00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:12,275 Like, him not wanting to be around. 642 00:24:12,310 --> 00:24:13,586 How is it trying to raise a baby 643 00:24:13,620 --> 00:24:15,137 without a dad around? 644 00:24:15,172 --> 00:24:19,862 I've basically been doing all of it since he was born, so. 645 00:24:19,896 --> 00:24:21,068 [Dr. Drew] It's the same? 646 00:24:24,517 --> 00:24:25,931 It just sucks. 647 00:24:27,586 --> 00:24:29,517 It sucks being, doing it alone? 648 00:24:36,103 --> 00:24:37,206 But you have your mom. 649 00:24:43,034 --> 00:24:45,862 I am so sorry he's letting you down like this, 650 00:24:45,896 --> 00:24:47,034 you don't deserve that. 651 00:24:50,137 --> 00:24:52,068 Is there something particularly difficult now 652 00:24:52,103 --> 00:24:54,206 about the caretaking alone? 653 00:24:54,241 --> 00:24:57,137 Yeah, just like, not having him there 654 00:24:57,172 --> 00:24:58,689 to just even like talk to me 655 00:24:58,724 --> 00:25:01,068 while I'm having problems with Blake, and. 656 00:25:01,103 --> 00:25:03,034 So just the supportive presence? 657 00:25:03,068 --> 00:25:06,448 I'm still a little unclear, so things are going along okay, 658 00:25:06,482 --> 00:25:08,000 a little too much video games, 659 00:25:08,034 --> 00:25:10,482 and then he just leaves? 660 00:25:10,517 --> 00:25:11,310 Yeah. 661 00:25:11,344 --> 00:25:12,137 No warning? 662 00:25:12,172 --> 00:25:13,344 Mm-mm. 663 00:25:13,379 --> 00:25:15,482 Like we didn't even have a fight or anything. 664 00:25:15,517 --> 00:25:18,448 He just said he didn't think he wanted to get married 665 00:25:18,482 --> 00:25:21,000 and he didn't know whether he wanted to be with me. 666 00:25:22,206 --> 00:25:23,551 You got a little explaining to do, 667 00:25:23,586 --> 00:25:25,655 I mean, right? 668 00:25:25,689 --> 00:25:26,517 Yeah. 669 00:25:29,482 --> 00:25:32,413 All right Megan, well thank you for coming today, 670 00:25:32,448 --> 00:25:33,655 I appreciate you sharing. 671 00:25:35,206 --> 00:25:36,034 Yeah. 672 00:25:37,137 --> 00:25:39,068 The emotional reunion, don't forget, 673 00:25:39,103 --> 00:25:41,482 between Ashley and baby Callie 674 00:25:41,517 --> 00:25:44,724 and Callie's adoptive parents is still on the way, 675 00:25:44,758 --> 00:25:47,862 and up next is Felicia. 676 00:25:47,896 --> 00:25:51,413 Her mom and her baby's father didn't always see eye to eye 677 00:25:51,448 --> 00:25:53,103 and they're both here. 678 00:25:53,137 --> 00:25:56,103 So we'll see where things stand with them after the break, 679 00:25:56,137 --> 00:25:57,620 do not move. 680 00:25:57,655 --> 00:26:06,137 [audience applauds] 681 00:26:06,172 --> 00:26:08,551 [audience applauds] 682 00:26:08,586 --> 00:26:11,586 [audience applause] 683 00:26:12,793 --> 00:26:15,034 Welcome back to life after labor. 684 00:26:15,068 --> 00:26:17,551 I'm Doctor Drew and here's a disturbing fact. 685 00:26:17,586 --> 00:26:21,413 Less than 2%, that's 2%, of teen mothers 686 00:26:21,448 --> 00:26:24,103 graduate from college by the age of 30. 687 00:26:24,137 --> 00:26:27,068 One teen mom who hopes to beat those odds is Felicia. 688 00:26:27,103 --> 00:26:28,482 Hi Felicia. 689 00:26:28,517 --> 00:26:31,068 Your mom was always on you about graduating. 690 00:26:31,103 --> 00:26:32,034 Did you do it? 691 00:26:32,068 --> 00:26:33,620 I went to night school, 692 00:26:33,655 --> 00:26:35,827 so I got a lot of classes done faster. 693 00:26:35,862 --> 00:26:40,551 So I'm graduating a year earlier than I was supposed to be. 694 00:26:40,586 --> 00:26:42,655 All righty, well here is Felicia's journey 695 00:26:42,689 --> 00:26:43,758 on 16 and Pregnant. 696 00:26:45,620 --> 00:26:47,724 I just handed the pregnancy test to her. 697 00:26:47,758 --> 00:26:49,172 She's like, "So you're not pregnant?" 698 00:26:49,206 --> 00:26:52,793 I was like, "No mom, it says I'm pregnant." 699 00:26:52,827 --> 00:26:54,689 [Alex] Do you remember when we first met? 700 00:26:54,724 --> 00:26:55,965 Yeah, do you? 701 00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:57,206 You used to be such a little goody goody girl. 702 00:26:57,241 --> 00:26:58,655 You have to graduate. 703 00:26:58,689 --> 00:27:00,310 You were the only one who promised me 704 00:27:00,344 --> 00:27:01,655 that you was going to graduate. 705 00:27:01,689 --> 00:27:03,206 That's always been my goal. 706 00:27:03,241 --> 00:27:05,724 Alex, he tells me, I'm coming home early. 707 00:27:05,758 --> 00:27:07,965 He doesn't get home til like 2:30 in the morning. 708 00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:09,413 Yeah that's messed up. 709 00:27:09,448 --> 00:27:11,034 So after she's born are you still gonna be going out? 710 00:27:11,068 --> 00:27:12,689 I can't really answer that. 711 00:27:12,724 --> 00:27:14,862 It's just not the same anymore. 712 00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:18,000 [Female] Good job. 713 00:27:19,551 --> 00:27:20,965 Oh Felicia. 714 00:27:25,965 --> 00:27:27,551 [Operator] Your call has been forwarded 715 00:27:27,586 --> 00:27:28,827 to an automatic voice. 716 00:27:28,862 --> 00:27:30,896 He needs to hurry up and come home. 717 00:27:30,931 --> 00:27:33,448 I just wish I should have waited just a little more. 718 00:27:33,482 --> 00:27:35,413 You're not happy are you? 719 00:27:35,448 --> 00:27:36,620 No. 720 00:27:36,655 --> 00:27:38,586 Now that I have Genesis, I could care less 721 00:27:38,620 --> 00:27:40,862 if you're with me, but this is your daughter. 722 00:27:40,896 --> 00:27:43,448 I could care less if I'm with you too, honestly. 723 00:27:47,724 --> 00:27:49,172 Uh-oh. 724 00:27:49,206 --> 00:27:51,965 I haven't even spoken to you yet and you're already crying. 725 00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:54,413 What are you crying about? 726 00:27:54,448 --> 00:27:56,379 I don't know, it's just hard watching that. 727 00:27:56,413 --> 00:27:57,310 [Dr. Drew] Yeah. 728 00:27:57,344 --> 00:27:58,931 Just the things he said, 729 00:27:58,965 --> 00:28:01,034 how he could care less if he was with me. 730 00:28:02,241 --> 00:28:03,931 Did you at one time imagine the baby 731 00:28:03,965 --> 00:28:06,724 was gonna solve these relationship problems? 732 00:28:06,758 --> 00:28:08,827 I thought maybe we would come closer. 733 00:28:08,862 --> 00:28:10,965 That isn't usually what happens. 734 00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:12,724 You still have friends? 735 00:28:12,758 --> 00:28:16,034 I wouldn't say I have true friends. 736 00:28:16,068 --> 00:28:17,482 [Dr. Drew] Why's that? 737 00:28:19,137 --> 00:28:21,448 I lost a lot when I got pregnant. 738 00:28:23,620 --> 00:28:25,758 [Dr. Drew] They just fell by the wayside? 739 00:28:25,793 --> 00:28:28,551 I just didn't really have any support from my friends. 740 00:28:28,586 --> 00:28:29,827 Were they just not supportive the way 741 00:28:29,862 --> 00:28:31,482 you needed them to be supportive? 742 00:28:35,931 --> 00:28:38,034 I know your mom's got a lot to say, 743 00:28:38,068 --> 00:28:39,482 and it seems like she's been a very 744 00:28:39,517 --> 00:28:41,413 supportive parent throughout your pregnancy, 745 00:28:41,448 --> 00:28:43,586 even though it's freaked her out a bit. 746 00:28:43,620 --> 00:28:46,000 And then seems like Alex is stepping it up a bit, 747 00:28:46,034 --> 00:28:47,000 he is not? 748 00:28:47,034 --> 00:28:48,172 Mm. 749 00:28:48,206 --> 00:28:49,482 Although he said some horrible things. 750 00:28:49,517 --> 00:28:50,413 [Felicia] Yeah. 751 00:28:50,448 --> 00:28:51,965 Let's get them both out here 752 00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:53,448 and discuss this a little further, okay? 753 00:28:53,482 --> 00:28:55,103 Alex and Reina, come on out. 754 00:28:55,137 --> 00:28:58,137 [audience applause] 755 00:28:59,379 --> 00:29:00,586 Mom, how are you? 756 00:29:00,620 --> 00:29:02,172 Good. 757 00:29:02,206 --> 00:29:03,482 What are you thinking? 758 00:29:03,517 --> 00:29:06,931 I think she really disappointed me. 759 00:29:06,965 --> 00:29:08,482 How old were you when you got pregnant? 760 00:29:08,517 --> 00:29:09,931 I was 16. 761 00:29:09,965 --> 00:29:11,482 Was your mom mad? 762 00:29:11,517 --> 00:29:12,758 No, she threw me out. 763 00:29:12,793 --> 00:29:13,896 She said, "Get outta here." 764 00:29:13,931 --> 00:29:15,000 [Dr. Drew] She was really mad? 765 00:29:15,034 --> 00:29:16,482 Yeah she was mad. 766 00:29:16,517 --> 00:29:17,275 [Dr. Drew] Same anger you have. 767 00:29:17,310 --> 00:29:18,517 Same, yeah. 768 00:29:18,551 --> 00:29:20,482 How does it feel to hear that you 769 00:29:20,517 --> 00:29:22,586 disappointed your mom so much? 770 00:29:22,620 --> 00:29:24,206 I didn't wanna disappoint you. 771 00:29:34,586 --> 00:29:35,689 Alex, what are you feeling? 772 00:29:35,724 --> 00:29:37,000 I don't know. 773 00:29:39,793 --> 00:29:41,896 Mom and Felicia, would you switch positions 774 00:29:41,931 --> 00:29:42,931 for a second, please? 775 00:29:44,689 --> 00:29:48,137 I'm doing that because I want Alex next to Felicia. 776 00:29:48,172 --> 00:29:51,103 What's the status of your relationship right now? 777 00:29:51,137 --> 00:29:52,034 Just together. 778 00:29:52,068 --> 00:29:53,379 [Dr. Drew] Just together. 779 00:29:53,413 --> 00:29:54,965 Is there any talk about marriage? 780 00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:59,000 Uh yeah, but I don't wanna get married. 781 00:29:59,034 --> 00:30:01,206 I don't really wanna get married right now. 782 00:30:01,241 --> 00:30:02,413 [Dr. Drew] How come? 783 00:30:02,448 --> 00:30:04,068 [Felicia] I wanna see how it goes. 784 00:30:04,103 --> 00:30:06,275 I mean we have some issues right now, so. 785 00:30:07,482 --> 00:30:09,413 What does he need to do to get to the point 786 00:30:09,448 --> 00:30:11,275 where you would trust him as a husband? 787 00:30:14,310 --> 00:30:16,931 Show me that he cares more about me. 788 00:30:16,965 --> 00:30:18,137 I do show you that I care. 789 00:30:18,172 --> 00:30:20,551 Every morning I go to work, come back, 790 00:30:20,586 --> 00:30:23,586 you know, I'm taking care of you and Genesis. 791 00:30:23,620 --> 00:30:25,103 You can't say that I didn't. 792 00:30:25,137 --> 00:30:26,655 I started taking care of you even 793 00:30:26,689 --> 00:30:28,310 way before you had Genesis. 794 00:30:28,344 --> 00:30:30,068 You came from a broken family too. 795 00:30:30,103 --> 00:30:32,310 Yes, my momma raised me by herself. 796 00:30:32,344 --> 00:30:35,586 I mean I've been through so much since I was little. 797 00:30:35,620 --> 00:30:36,586 I didn't have a dad. 798 00:30:36,620 --> 00:30:37,413 He don't have a father. 799 00:30:37,448 --> 00:30:38,931 He don't have no dad. 800 00:30:38,965 --> 00:30:40,896 My dad didn't show me any love. 801 00:30:43,689 --> 00:30:44,827 It's hard. 802 00:30:44,862 --> 00:30:46,655 How does it feel when it's not enough? 803 00:30:50,862 --> 00:30:52,241 It's just not easy. 804 00:30:52,275 --> 00:30:53,068 Yeah. 805 00:30:55,724 --> 00:30:58,586 Do you understand what he's saying? 806 00:31:01,517 --> 00:31:03,034 You got a mom that you can go to, 807 00:31:03,068 --> 00:31:04,172 I don't got nobody. 808 00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:08,724 And you got your step-dad. 809 00:31:08,758 --> 00:31:11,758 You know I've been standing by myself since I was 15. 810 00:31:11,793 --> 00:31:14,827 I decided to do my own life so that's what I'm doing. 811 00:31:14,862 --> 00:31:15,689 You know? 812 00:31:19,862 --> 00:31:22,482 I'm just looking at you guys on the couch here, 813 00:31:22,517 --> 00:31:24,620 you need to join forces. 814 00:31:24,655 --> 00:31:25,551 You know what I'm saying? 815 00:31:25,586 --> 00:31:26,862 I mean you need to be a unit, 816 00:31:26,896 --> 00:31:28,758 you need to support each other. 817 00:31:28,793 --> 00:31:30,379 Who's gonna make the first move? 818 00:31:32,068 --> 00:31:34,034 That's right. [laughing] 819 00:31:34,068 --> 00:31:35,172 That's right. 820 00:31:35,206 --> 00:31:37,103 What's the living situation now? 821 00:31:37,137 --> 00:31:39,310 We still live with my mom, 822 00:31:39,344 --> 00:31:41,758 but we're planning to move out in a little bit, 823 00:31:41,793 --> 00:31:43,241 'cause my mom's moving. 824 00:31:43,275 --> 00:31:44,724 Where you going? 825 00:31:44,758 --> 00:31:46,724 Oh I'm renting my house so they can move 826 00:31:46,758 --> 00:31:48,068 and they have their own life. 827 00:31:48,103 --> 00:31:49,655 Okay but you'll still be in the... 828 00:31:49,689 --> 00:31:52,068 Yeah we're going to be closer, you know, 829 00:31:52,103 --> 00:31:53,931 the baby, I'm not leaving the baby, 830 00:31:53,965 --> 00:31:56,931 no way, it's a beautiful baby and I like the baby. 831 00:31:58,206 --> 00:31:59,275 The baby is mine. 832 00:32:00,551 --> 00:32:01,724 All right. 833 00:32:01,758 --> 00:32:04,103 Felicia, Alex, Reina, thank you for 834 00:32:04,137 --> 00:32:06,034 sharing with us and joining us. 835 00:32:06,068 --> 00:32:06,896 I appreciate it. 836 00:32:07,896 --> 00:32:09,448 Markai is up next. 837 00:32:09,482 --> 00:32:12,379 Now in her episode, Markai couldn't get past the fact 838 00:32:12,413 --> 00:32:14,689 that James once cheated on her. 839 00:32:14,724 --> 00:32:17,448 So is she ready to forgive and forget? 840 00:32:17,482 --> 00:32:19,241 I will ask her that in just a moment. 841 00:32:19,275 --> 00:32:20,620 Don't go away. 842 00:32:20,655 --> 00:32:23,482 [audience applause] 843 00:32:23,517 --> 00:32:29,275 ♪♪ 844 00:32:36,689 --> 00:32:38,413 We're back with more Life After Labor, 845 00:32:38,448 --> 00:32:40,862 this is the 16 and Pregnant finale special 846 00:32:40,896 --> 00:32:43,000 hosted by myself, Dr Drew. 847 00:32:43,034 --> 00:32:45,758 I'm here with Markai and her boyfriend James. 848 00:32:45,793 --> 00:32:48,689 Here's what Markai went through on 16 and Pregnant. 849 00:32:49,862 --> 00:32:51,068 ♪♪ 850 00:32:51,103 --> 00:32:52,620 I just want her to have a good life. 851 00:32:52,655 --> 00:32:54,862 She can know that her parents are always gonna be there. 852 00:32:54,896 --> 00:32:55,931 Both parents. 853 00:32:55,965 --> 00:32:56,896 You're right. 854 00:32:56,931 --> 00:32:58,000 Think when I looked at you, 855 00:32:58,034 --> 00:32:59,379 or felt you move in my stomach, 856 00:32:59,413 --> 00:33:02,586 it was, I want her to be pregnant at 16. 857 00:33:02,620 --> 00:33:05,034 That was not my dream for my child. 858 00:33:05,068 --> 00:33:06,965 [Nurse] Push, push, push, push. 859 00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:07,793 [Second Nurse] Push! 860 00:33:07,827 --> 00:33:08,620 Push, don't give up. 861 00:33:08,655 --> 00:33:10,620 [baby crying] 862 00:33:10,655 --> 00:33:11,896 [Markai] I don't trust him. 863 00:33:11,931 --> 00:33:13,379 I don't even have that [beep] number! 864 00:33:13,413 --> 00:33:15,482 I didn't even, my own MySpace, okay. 865 00:33:15,517 --> 00:33:17,034 So what? 866 00:33:17,068 --> 00:33:18,034 So that means you still wanted to chill with her. 867 00:33:18,068 --> 00:33:19,344 What happened? 868 00:33:19,379 --> 00:33:21,379 Girl, she ended up coming to [beep] school. 869 00:33:21,413 --> 00:33:23,482 [Friend] Who came up to school? 870 00:33:23,517 --> 00:33:24,655 The girl. 871 00:33:24,689 --> 00:33:26,172 [Friend] He cheated on her with. 872 00:33:26,206 --> 00:33:27,344 You can't park right there! 873 00:33:27,379 --> 00:33:29,206 Oh my God, we'll die! 874 00:33:30,379 --> 00:33:31,448 So you're gonna be like this? 875 00:33:31,482 --> 00:33:32,448 Are you freaking serious? 876 00:33:32,482 --> 00:33:33,827 You don't know who did this! 877 00:33:33,862 --> 00:33:35,034 It's you! 878 00:33:35,068 --> 00:33:36,000 Two weeks into our relationship! 879 00:33:36,034 --> 00:33:37,310 It doesn't [beep] matter! 880 00:33:37,344 --> 00:33:38,689 You the one who did this [beep]! 881 00:33:38,724 --> 00:33:40,103 You wanted to fight me for custody, 882 00:33:40,137 --> 00:33:41,586 don't ever come see my child. 883 00:33:43,034 --> 00:33:44,724 I love you so much and I'm scared that she's just gonna 884 00:33:44,758 --> 00:33:46,724 come back and she's gonna take you. 885 00:33:46,758 --> 00:33:49,517 ♪♪ 886 00:33:49,551 --> 00:33:50,965 Wow. 887 00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:52,551 What do you think watching that? 888 00:33:52,586 --> 00:33:54,000 It hurts seeing it 889 00:33:54,965 --> 00:33:56,413 because I know how I felt. 890 00:33:58,482 --> 00:34:02,000 I was obsessed with her being with him. 891 00:34:02,034 --> 00:34:04,344 Just picturing them in my head, 892 00:34:04,379 --> 00:34:06,896 does he kiss her the way that he kisses me? 893 00:34:06,931 --> 00:34:09,103 Does he touch her the way he touches me? 894 00:34:09,137 --> 00:34:10,724 Does he say he loves her as much 895 00:34:10,758 --> 00:34:12,655 as he says that he loves me? 896 00:34:12,689 --> 00:34:14,655 No girl's gonna give it up unless they have play. 897 00:34:14,689 --> 00:34:16,551 They're not just gonna just sit up there and just be like, 898 00:34:16,586 --> 00:34:19,068 I'm gonna be the other woman to him, 899 00:34:19,103 --> 00:34:20,241 unless the guy has a part in it. 900 00:34:20,275 --> 00:34:21,620 Do you think James did that? 901 00:34:21,655 --> 00:34:22,758 [laughs] Yeah. 902 00:34:22,793 --> 00:34:24,413 You think he did that? 903 00:34:24,448 --> 00:34:26,586 All right, James, hear from you. 904 00:34:26,620 --> 00:34:28,758 Man, it ain't even like that, man. 905 00:34:28,793 --> 00:34:33,206 I told her a thousand times, it ain't even like that. 906 00:34:33,241 --> 00:34:35,000 I'm sorry and I love you. 907 00:34:35,034 --> 00:34:36,344 You're the only one for me. 908 00:34:37,896 --> 00:34:38,793 And you know that. 909 00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:41,793 [Dr. Drew] Markai, what does hanging on 910 00:34:41,827 --> 00:34:43,413 to those resentments do for you? 911 00:34:45,137 --> 00:34:46,344 Nothing. 912 00:34:46,379 --> 00:34:48,000 What's the matter with you being close? 913 00:34:49,206 --> 00:34:50,724 Scared I might get hurt again. 914 00:34:50,758 --> 00:34:52,724 Right, right. 915 00:34:52,758 --> 00:34:54,862 I've been hurt too many times from guys, 916 00:34:54,896 --> 00:34:56,827 I don't wanna take that anymore. 917 00:34:56,862 --> 00:34:59,000 [Dr. Drew] I know, James knows too, yeah? 918 00:35:00,137 --> 00:35:01,724 I'm with you today. 919 00:35:01,758 --> 00:35:04,413 And like I told her, I'm not gonna stay with you 920 00:35:04,448 --> 00:35:07,206 because of a child, I didn't fall in love with you 921 00:35:07,241 --> 00:35:08,482 because you was pregnant, 922 00:35:10,103 --> 00:35:12,034 I fell in love with you for you. 923 00:35:12,068 --> 00:35:14,241 Do you want Zakariya to not have a dad? 924 00:35:15,172 --> 00:35:16,068 All right. 925 00:35:16,103 --> 00:35:17,172 Can you let it go for her? 926 00:35:18,965 --> 00:35:20,241 Mm, now try. 927 00:35:21,482 --> 00:35:22,310 I love you. 928 00:35:23,344 --> 00:35:24,137 [Dr. Drew] There we go. 929 00:35:24,172 --> 00:35:25,000 Point blank, period. 930 00:35:26,724 --> 00:35:29,551 [Markai sniffing] 931 00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:32,448 Can I get an I love you back or something, I mean? 932 00:35:32,482 --> 00:35:34,000 [all laughing] 933 00:35:34,034 --> 00:35:35,275 I do love you. 934 00:35:36,482 --> 00:35:37,689 [Dr. Drew] Did that help? 935 00:35:37,724 --> 00:35:38,896 Yeah. Little bit. 936 00:35:38,931 --> 00:35:41,275 How are we preventing another pregnancy? 937 00:35:42,517 --> 00:35:43,655 Depo shot. [laughs] 938 00:35:43,689 --> 00:35:44,896 [Dr. Drew] Oh, depo? 939 00:35:44,931 --> 00:35:46,206 Yeah. That work okay for you? 940 00:35:46,241 --> 00:35:47,724 I'm good with it. 941 00:35:47,758 --> 00:35:48,551 You good with it? 942 00:35:48,586 --> 00:35:49,413 It ain't bothering me. 943 00:35:49,448 --> 00:35:51,034 [all laughing] 944 00:35:51,068 --> 00:35:52,275 Are your friends still hanging out in your life 945 00:35:52,310 --> 00:35:54,344 or they gone? 946 00:35:54,379 --> 00:35:56,379 They text every now and then but-- 947 00:35:56,413 --> 00:35:58,103 [Dr. Drew] What happens to them? 948 00:35:59,068 --> 00:36:00,620 I mean, when you have a child, 949 00:36:00,655 --> 00:36:02,793 you can't do what you used to. 950 00:36:02,827 --> 00:36:04,137 They couldn't relate to your life? 951 00:36:04,172 --> 00:36:04,931 Or is it-- 952 00:36:04,965 --> 00:36:05,724 Not at all. 953 00:36:05,758 --> 00:36:07,241 They can't relate. 954 00:36:07,275 --> 00:36:08,758 But then by the same token, you needed something different 955 00:36:08,793 --> 00:36:11,241 from friends, too, than they had to offer. 956 00:36:11,275 --> 00:36:12,517 Yeah. 957 00:36:12,551 --> 00:36:15,655 Okay, I wanna talk about the aggression 958 00:36:15,689 --> 00:36:17,310 that bubbles up between you two. 959 00:36:17,344 --> 00:36:18,655 Is that still going on? 960 00:36:18,689 --> 00:36:19,482 Yep. [laughs] 961 00:36:19,517 --> 00:36:20,413 It is? 962 00:36:20,448 --> 00:36:21,965 We still get aggressive. 963 00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:24,551 I mean, that's just how we communicate with each other. 964 00:36:24,586 --> 00:36:26,034 No. 965 00:36:26,068 --> 00:36:27,275 I mean, I'm not saying it's the right thing to do, 966 00:36:27,310 --> 00:36:28,482 I'm just saying it's how we communicate, 967 00:36:28,517 --> 00:36:29,896 that's our way, that's our relationship. 968 00:36:29,931 --> 00:36:32,034 You can't just go, "Oh, that's just us," 969 00:36:32,068 --> 00:36:33,896 that's not good, that's not okay. 970 00:36:33,931 --> 00:36:35,379 Does it get bad? 971 00:36:35,413 --> 00:36:37,310 I'm not gonna lie, I get aggressive, I want to fight. 972 00:36:37,344 --> 00:36:39,551 We need to get you some help for that. 973 00:36:39,586 --> 00:36:41,034 That's called domestic violence. 974 00:36:41,068 --> 00:36:43,000 And that's a common thing and it has a treatment 975 00:36:43,034 --> 00:36:44,517 and you can be helped. 976 00:36:44,551 --> 00:36:46,758 You must've seen that sometime growing up, too. 977 00:36:46,793 --> 00:36:48,344 That's where kids get that. 978 00:36:48,379 --> 00:36:49,482 Yeah. 979 00:36:49,517 --> 00:36:50,724 That must've been awful. 980 00:36:50,758 --> 00:36:52,896 I don't wanna fight, I don't wanna punch 981 00:36:52,931 --> 00:36:55,482 and I hate every time I do put my hands on him, 982 00:36:55,517 --> 00:36:56,655 I do feel bad. 983 00:36:56,689 --> 00:36:58,689 You become the abuser at that point. 984 00:36:58,724 --> 00:37:01,172 It's not okay to be abusive, okay? 985 00:37:01,206 --> 00:37:04,275 But it happens understandably and with certain histories 986 00:37:04,310 --> 00:37:06,241 and circumstances and then there are things we can do 987 00:37:06,275 --> 00:37:07,827 to make sure it doesn't happen. 988 00:37:07,862 --> 00:37:09,310 Thank God you wanna do something about it 989 00:37:09,344 --> 00:37:11,689 and that you've got this guy hanging in with you. 990 00:37:11,724 --> 00:37:12,862 We actually have some information out there 991 00:37:12,896 --> 00:37:14,103 for people that might wanna learn more 992 00:37:14,137 --> 00:37:15,379 about domestic violence. 993 00:37:15,413 --> 00:37:18,103 Go to the website loveisrespect.org, 994 00:37:18,137 --> 00:37:20,896 that's loveisrespect.org. 995 00:37:22,586 --> 00:37:24,172 It's a website you guys might wanna check out. 996 00:37:24,206 --> 00:37:25,620 [both laughing] 997 00:37:25,655 --> 00:37:26,620 It's such a common thing, it is a common thing 998 00:37:26,655 --> 00:37:29,000 and the sad thing in my life is 999 00:37:29,034 --> 00:37:30,551 that people don't do something about it. 1000 00:37:30,586 --> 00:37:32,482 When they do, I consider it a triumph. 1001 00:37:33,827 --> 00:37:36,551 James, Markai, thank you for sharing, okay. 1002 00:37:37,724 --> 00:37:40,241 Up next, we've got Aubrey and Brandon. 1003 00:37:40,275 --> 00:37:42,655 Brandon wanted Aubrey to stay at home with the baby 1004 00:37:42,689 --> 00:37:44,724 but Aubrey had other plans. 1005 00:37:44,758 --> 00:37:46,413 So what's Aubrey doing today? 1006 00:37:46,448 --> 00:37:48,137 You stay tuned, we're gonna find out. 1007 00:37:48,172 --> 00:37:57,310 [audience applauding] ♪♪ 1008 00:37:57,344 --> 00:37:59,862 [audience applauding] ♪♪ 1009 00:37:59,896 --> 00:38:03,034 [audience applauding] 1010 00:38:05,379 --> 00:38:07,620 We are back in the 16 and Pregnant finale special, 1011 00:38:07,655 --> 00:38:09,172 I am your host Dr. Drew. 1012 00:38:09,206 --> 00:38:12,034 And it is a fact that less than half of teen mothers 1013 00:38:12,068 --> 00:38:14,068 graduate from high school. 1014 00:38:14,103 --> 00:38:17,448 One teen mom who is determined to get her GED is Aubrey. 1015 00:38:17,482 --> 00:38:20,206 I'm here with Aubrey and her baby's father Brandon. 1016 00:38:20,241 --> 00:38:21,103 How are you guys? 1017 00:38:21,137 --> 00:38:21,931 Good. 1018 00:38:21,965 --> 00:38:23,413 Good. 1019 00:38:23,448 --> 00:38:24,103 What's the status of your relationship right now? 1020 00:38:24,137 --> 00:38:24,827 We're married. 1021 00:38:24,862 --> 00:38:25,586 And stable? 1022 00:38:25,620 --> 00:38:27,068 Yes. Yes. 1023 00:38:27,103 --> 00:38:28,482 And is the stress of the baby affected your relationship? 1024 00:38:28,517 --> 00:38:30,034 It's tough. 1025 00:38:30,068 --> 00:38:33,206 We had to kind of redo our whole relationship you know 1026 00:38:33,241 --> 00:38:35,275 based around something completely different. 1027 00:38:35,310 --> 00:38:36,758 We will talk more about that, 1028 00:38:36,793 --> 00:38:38,586 but first, let's take a look back at Aubrey's journey 1029 00:38:38,620 --> 00:38:40,034 being 16 and pregnant. 1030 00:38:42,620 --> 00:38:44,068 [Woman] Do you have a plan? 1031 00:38:44,103 --> 00:38:46,241 Yeah, it's gonna be hard but I have to go to school. 1032 00:38:46,275 --> 00:38:48,034 What are those shoes for, Brey? 1033 00:38:48,068 --> 00:38:49,931 [Aubrey] The wedding. 1034 00:38:49,965 --> 00:38:52,551 I now pronounce you man and wife. 1035 00:38:52,586 --> 00:38:53,931 You may kiss the bride. 1036 00:38:53,965 --> 00:38:55,206 You don't have a place to live. 1037 00:38:55,241 --> 00:38:56,448 You don't have a job. 1038 00:38:56,482 --> 00:38:57,793 You guys gonna have to get something going, 1039 00:38:57,827 --> 00:38:58,896 those diapers aren't cheap. 1040 00:38:58,931 --> 00:39:00,206 Don't be so mean. 1041 00:39:00,241 --> 00:39:02,896 I would make enough to take care of both of us. 1042 00:39:02,931 --> 00:39:06,379 I'm not going to be just like a typical housewife. 1043 00:39:06,413 --> 00:39:07,448 Well you're better at cooking, 1044 00:39:07,482 --> 00:39:08,965 you're more efficient at cleaning. 1045 00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:10,413 I'm really excited to get my GED 1046 00:39:10,448 --> 00:39:12,034 so that I can go to college. 1047 00:39:12,068 --> 00:39:14,413 Unfortunately you fail the math test. 1048 00:39:14,448 --> 00:39:16,793 I'm so depressed sometimes like... 1049 00:39:16,827 --> 00:39:17,586 Quit whining. 1050 00:39:18,862 --> 00:39:21,068 This is the first time I brought it up to you, 1051 00:39:21,103 --> 00:39:23,068 this is the first time I've like... 1052 00:39:23,103 --> 00:39:24,620 Well don't bring it up again. 1053 00:39:25,724 --> 00:39:27,827 Here he comes. Here he comes. 1054 00:39:31,965 --> 00:39:33,103 There you go. 1055 00:39:33,137 --> 00:39:34,448 How much money have you kids saved? 1056 00:39:34,482 --> 00:39:37,034 I have 99 cents in my savings account. 1057 00:39:37,068 --> 00:39:38,724 This is a complete kit 1058 00:39:38,758 --> 00:39:40,931 of everything you need to get started in prospecting. 1059 00:39:40,965 --> 00:39:42,206 This will make you money. 1060 00:39:43,413 --> 00:39:44,793 You know I thought we would definitely 1061 00:39:44,827 --> 00:39:46,793 be out of mema's house by now. 1062 00:39:46,827 --> 00:39:48,586 Yeah, me too. So I got the job. 1063 00:39:48,620 --> 00:39:50,344 Are you excited? 1064 00:39:50,379 --> 00:39:52,413 I'd be so nice to have the extra money. 1065 00:39:55,275 --> 00:39:57,000 So you're out of mema's house yet? 1066 00:39:57,034 --> 00:39:58,448 No. 1067 00:39:58,482 --> 00:39:59,896 And Brandon, you pretty clearly wanted Aubrey 1068 00:39:59,931 --> 00:40:01,137 to be a stay-at-home mom, 1069 00:40:01,172 --> 00:40:03,034 but that doesn't sound like what her plan is. 1070 00:40:03,068 --> 00:40:05,310 Initially, my thought it always goes to daycare, 1071 00:40:05,344 --> 00:40:07,965 because I know childcare is very expensive. 1072 00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:10,655 And would it really be cost-effective to, 1073 00:40:10,689 --> 00:40:13,448 for her to work and then you know her what she make 1074 00:40:13,482 --> 00:40:15,000 might not even be what it's gonna cost 1075 00:40:15,034 --> 00:40:16,551 to have him in daycare. 1076 00:40:17,758 --> 00:40:19,896 What about her being able to feel productive 1077 00:40:19,931 --> 00:40:21,448 and good about her life? 1078 00:40:21,482 --> 00:40:23,551 Well, that's kind of what we came to a compromise on that. 1079 00:40:23,586 --> 00:40:24,827 Good. 1080 00:40:24,862 --> 00:40:26,379 Who was there for Aubrey in the delivery room? 1081 00:40:27,551 --> 00:40:30,310 Actually I just had Brandon in there. 1082 00:40:30,344 --> 00:40:31,620 [Dr. Drew] That was it? 1083 00:40:31,655 --> 00:40:33,068 Your mom didn't want to be there? 1084 00:40:33,103 --> 00:40:35,413 When I was giving birth I didn't want anybody in the room. 1085 00:40:35,448 --> 00:40:37,379 [Dr. Drew] How about your family, did they show up? 1086 00:40:37,413 --> 00:40:39,413 Well, no, not right away, 1087 00:40:39,448 --> 00:40:42,758 just because really the one I'm the closest to is my dad, 1088 00:40:42,793 --> 00:40:43,965 and he just didn't have the finances 1089 00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:45,344 at that point to come down. 1090 00:40:45,379 --> 00:40:46,758 Where's your mom? 1091 00:40:46,793 --> 00:40:47,620 She's away. 1092 00:40:49,068 --> 00:40:50,379 Yeah. 1093 00:40:50,413 --> 00:40:52,862 I've stayed pretty disconnected since she left. 1094 00:40:54,068 --> 00:40:55,551 How old were you when she took off? 1095 00:40:56,517 --> 00:41:00,275 I think like six or seven. 1096 00:41:01,689 --> 00:41:03,241 So you've not really had females in your life? 1097 00:41:03,275 --> 00:41:05,379 Not really any positive ones. 1098 00:41:05,413 --> 00:41:08,620 I've always gotten along better with women than men. 1099 00:41:08,655 --> 00:41:10,413 Have you had girlfriends before Aubrey? 1100 00:41:10,448 --> 00:41:11,689 One. 1101 00:41:11,724 --> 00:41:12,862 [Dr. Drew] Did that end okay? 1102 00:41:12,896 --> 00:41:14,103 No. 1103 00:41:14,137 --> 00:41:16,482 Excuse my language, she's a dumb [beep]. 1104 00:41:16,517 --> 00:41:18,068 Sorry. 1105 00:41:18,103 --> 00:41:20,034 Aubrey, how do you really feel about her? 1106 00:41:20,068 --> 00:41:22,137 [laughs] 1107 00:41:24,379 --> 00:41:26,310 How's the panning for gold going? 1108 00:41:26,344 --> 00:41:28,172 Awesome, we are rich. 1109 00:41:28,206 --> 00:41:31,724 I've got a mansion in the Hamptons, it's great. 1110 00:41:33,620 --> 00:41:36,344 And, what are we doing to prevent another baby? 1111 00:41:36,379 --> 00:41:39,620 Now my understanding is you used to use 1112 00:41:39,655 --> 00:41:41,241 the pull-out method? 1113 00:41:41,275 --> 00:41:43,379 Yes, we did. 1114 00:41:43,413 --> 00:41:44,586 It works terribly. 1115 00:41:44,620 --> 00:41:46,551 [Dr. Drew] Yeah, don't do that. 1116 00:41:46,586 --> 00:41:48,172 What are you doing now? 1117 00:41:48,206 --> 00:41:50,689 I got the non-hormonal IUD. 1118 00:41:50,724 --> 00:41:51,965 Good. 1119 00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:53,586 Did you have any kind of health sex classes 1120 00:41:53,620 --> 00:41:55,137 in your high school, 1121 00:41:55,172 --> 00:41:56,379 health education? We did. 1122 00:41:56,413 --> 00:41:58,448 They went over the thought of you know 1123 00:41:58,482 --> 00:42:00,965 you can get pregnant if you don't use birth control, 1124 00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:03,551 but they didn't go over all my options. 1125 00:42:04,448 --> 00:42:05,586 They didn't talk about 1126 00:42:05,620 --> 00:42:07,103 all the different kinds of contraception. 1127 00:42:07,137 --> 00:42:08,931 If somebody had discussed this with you ahead of time, 1128 00:42:08,965 --> 00:42:11,413 do you think you would have gotten pregnant? 1129 00:42:11,448 --> 00:42:13,724 I probably would have already been on the IUD. 1130 00:42:13,758 --> 00:42:15,965 I probably honestly would have been. 1131 00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:17,482 Thank you, it's an important point to make. 1132 00:42:17,517 --> 00:42:18,862 Thank you for making that, Aubrey. 1133 00:42:18,896 --> 00:42:20,896 For more information on prevention, 1134 00:42:20,931 --> 00:42:24,413 go to 16andPregnant.mtv.com. 1135 00:42:24,448 --> 00:42:25,896 Educate yourself. 1136 00:42:25,931 --> 00:42:27,655 Thank you guys for being here again. 1137 00:42:27,689 --> 00:42:29,827 Let's move right on now to our next mom. 1138 00:42:29,862 --> 00:42:33,068 It's time to revisit Emily's story on 16 and Pregnant. 1139 00:42:35,310 --> 00:42:38,689 I'm living my whole high school life in one year 1140 00:42:38,724 --> 00:42:40,793 and I'm pregnant and having a baby. 1141 00:42:40,827 --> 00:42:42,448 I don't want no baby. 1142 00:42:42,482 --> 00:42:44,620 I mean I do now I guess but. 1143 00:42:44,655 --> 00:42:45,758 Do you feel like you're mature enough 1144 00:42:45,793 --> 00:42:48,000 to have made the decision to have a baby? 1145 00:42:48,034 --> 00:42:48,862 I guess. 1146 00:42:50,275 --> 00:42:53,275 Board of Education states failure due to attendance. 1147 00:42:53,310 --> 00:42:55,241 Little lucky 'cause she's pregnant. 1148 00:42:55,275 --> 00:42:56,931 It really doesn't matter what you think though. 1149 00:42:56,965 --> 00:42:59,034 I can keep her from even marrying you, pal. 1150 00:42:59,068 --> 00:43:01,241 Push, push, push, there you go. 1151 00:43:01,275 --> 00:43:02,275 Oh my god. 1152 00:43:03,862 --> 00:43:05,310 So what's been going on with you and Daniel? 1153 00:43:05,344 --> 00:43:07,758 He feels bad about saying he's gonna like come over 1154 00:43:07,793 --> 00:43:09,413 and then like not coming over. 1155 00:43:09,448 --> 00:43:11,758 You think being this far away is gonna be a big deal? 1156 00:43:11,793 --> 00:43:15,034 Daniel's gonna be missing major things. 1157 00:43:15,068 --> 00:43:17,137 I've drive like almost an hour to come see you. 1158 00:43:17,172 --> 00:43:18,068 If you think that you're not 1159 00:43:18,103 --> 00:43:19,827 going to get along with him now, 1160 00:43:19,862 --> 00:43:22,724 what's gonna change when you move off and live together? 1161 00:43:22,758 --> 00:43:25,448 I don't think we took enough time to look at everything. 1162 00:43:25,482 --> 00:43:28,275 I guess I realized that I have that options. 1163 00:43:28,310 --> 00:43:29,931 I guess that don't include me. 1164 00:43:35,068 --> 00:43:36,000 [Dr. Drew] A lot of your dad in that. 1165 00:43:36,034 --> 00:43:37,448 Yes. 1166 00:43:37,482 --> 00:43:38,655 It's a good thing you've got your dad up there, right? 1167 00:43:38,689 --> 00:43:40,034 Mm-hmm. 1168 00:43:40,068 --> 00:43:42,758 What's the status of relationship with Daniel now? 1169 00:43:42,793 --> 00:43:45,655 I mean everything's gotten a lot better. 1170 00:43:45,689 --> 00:43:46,827 Since what we just saw? 1171 00:43:46,862 --> 00:43:48,034 Yes, yes, definitely. 1172 00:43:48,068 --> 00:43:48,862 You're better. 1173 00:43:48,896 --> 00:43:49,689 Are you engaged? 1174 00:43:49,724 --> 00:43:51,103 Yes. 1175 00:43:51,137 --> 00:43:52,586 Did I see you sort of putting off the marriage is that-- 1176 00:43:52,620 --> 00:43:54,793 Yeah, but we haven't broken up or anything like that. 1177 00:43:54,827 --> 00:43:56,448 It seems like your dad and Daniel 1178 00:43:56,482 --> 00:43:58,241 have come a long way in their relationship. 1179 00:43:58,275 --> 00:43:59,310 How they get along now? 1180 00:43:59,344 --> 00:44:00,655 They get along good. 1181 00:44:00,689 --> 00:44:01,793 So that's improved? 1182 00:44:01,827 --> 00:44:03,275 Yes. Why don't we bring them out 1183 00:44:03,310 --> 00:44:04,172 and see how they're doing right now. 1184 00:44:04,206 --> 00:44:05,862 Alrighty. 1185 00:44:05,896 --> 00:44:09,034 [audience applauding] 1186 00:44:13,310 --> 00:44:14,103 Hi there. 1187 00:44:14,137 --> 00:44:14,965 Gentlemen, welcome. 1188 00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:15,793 How are you guys? 1189 00:44:15,827 --> 00:44:17,206 Fine. 1190 00:44:17,241 --> 00:44:19,551 Stacey, from your standpoint, things better? 1191 00:44:19,586 --> 00:44:21,241 Yes sir, getting a lot better. 1192 00:44:21,275 --> 00:44:23,620 You were very skeptical for a while there. 1193 00:44:23,655 --> 00:44:25,034 Still am. 1194 00:44:25,068 --> 00:44:27,068 Emily was a great student right, a majorette. 1195 00:44:27,103 --> 00:44:27,965 What happened? 1196 00:44:29,103 --> 00:44:30,758 I would like to though that myself. 1197 00:44:30,793 --> 00:44:33,034 Daniel, you smiled when I asked that question. 1198 00:44:33,068 --> 00:44:35,758 Oh I mean I know she was really smart, 1199 00:44:35,793 --> 00:44:36,931 she still is really smart. 1200 00:44:36,965 --> 00:44:40,344 I mean she did really good in school. 1201 00:44:40,379 --> 00:44:42,931 I hate that she had to go to home school 1202 00:44:42,965 --> 00:44:45,655 and not be able to finish out at regular high school. 1203 00:44:45,689 --> 00:44:46,931 Where are you living now? 1204 00:44:46,965 --> 00:44:48,137 At my house. 1205 00:44:48,172 --> 00:44:49,413 How far is that from where Emily is? 1206 00:44:49,448 --> 00:44:50,448 Like 45 miles. 1207 00:44:50,482 --> 00:44:51,586 45 miles. 1208 00:44:51,620 --> 00:44:53,793 And so when do you see them? 1209 00:44:53,827 --> 00:44:55,275 Every day that I don't work. 1210 00:44:55,310 --> 00:44:56,551 Like two or three times a week. 1211 00:44:56,586 --> 00:44:58,034 [Dr. Drew] Two or three times a week. 1212 00:44:58,068 --> 00:44:59,620 But not on the weekend. Is that plan working? 1213 00:44:59,655 --> 00:45:02,068 Yeah, it sucks, but that's what we have to deal with. 1214 00:45:02,103 --> 00:45:04,448 It's just amazes me how 1215 00:45:04,482 --> 00:45:06,620 everything can be tooken so lightly. 1216 00:45:06,655 --> 00:45:08,068 So you think she should marry Daniel? 1217 00:45:08,103 --> 00:45:11,068 I think that it would have been a great you know-- 1218 00:45:11,103 --> 00:45:12,034 Good move? 1219 00:45:12,068 --> 00:45:12,862 Yeah. 1220 00:45:12,896 --> 00:45:14,482 Step up, do it. 1221 00:45:14,517 --> 00:45:16,068 And then you think he'd step up a little further 1222 00:45:16,103 --> 00:45:17,034 if he were the husband. 1223 00:45:17,068 --> 00:45:18,517 He'd have to. 1224 00:45:18,551 --> 00:45:20,413 I don't think it's real until we live together, 1225 00:45:20,448 --> 00:45:23,172 and I think that's what's gonna be the problem, 1226 00:45:23,206 --> 00:45:24,689 is when we finally move in together 1227 00:45:24,724 --> 00:45:26,896 and have to pay our own bills and our insurance-- 1228 00:45:26,931 --> 00:45:29,758 Yeah, that's gonna be a whole different thing. 1229 00:45:29,793 --> 00:45:31,241 Well it breaks my heart for her, 1230 00:45:31,275 --> 00:45:33,275 and every time I talk to her I keep thinking about this is 1231 00:45:33,310 --> 00:45:35,862 you were a talented student, it's obvious. 1232 00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:38,172 That's gonna get sacrificed? 1233 00:45:38,206 --> 00:45:39,620 That's just gonna be out to the vapors. 1234 00:45:39,655 --> 00:45:42,000 I mean there's a lot of things that have been sacrificed. 1235 00:45:42,034 --> 00:45:43,137 Like what else? 1236 00:45:43,172 --> 00:45:45,103 Well, like my school and my friends 1237 00:45:45,137 --> 00:45:47,103 and then I have to move away 1238 00:45:47,137 --> 00:45:49,724 and then college and stuff like that 1239 00:45:49,758 --> 00:45:51,172 and just being able like everybody else 1240 00:45:51,206 --> 00:45:52,931 has said to be normal. 1241 00:45:52,965 --> 00:45:54,034 And pregnancy has taken that away. 1242 00:45:54,068 --> 00:45:55,517 Yes, definitely. 1243 00:45:55,551 --> 00:45:57,793 Did you imagine yourself in this position at this age? 1244 00:45:57,827 --> 00:45:59,068 No. 1245 00:45:59,103 --> 00:46:00,137 No, never. 1246 00:46:01,310 --> 00:46:02,310 Emily, you were living with your mom 1247 00:46:02,344 --> 00:46:03,172 when you got pregnant. 1248 00:46:03,206 --> 00:46:04,724 [Emily] Yes. 1249 00:46:04,758 --> 00:46:06,000 How was your relationship with your mom at that point 1250 00:46:06,034 --> 00:46:07,241 before you got pregnant? 1251 00:46:07,275 --> 00:46:08,586 Before I got pregnant 1252 00:46:08,620 --> 00:46:10,206 it was always a negative relationship. 1253 00:46:10,241 --> 00:46:11,724 What was the matter? 1254 00:46:11,758 --> 00:46:13,620 I mean she just never gave me the freedom that I wanted. 1255 00:46:13,655 --> 00:46:16,793 And then when I started like dating or liking him, 1256 00:46:16,827 --> 00:46:19,379 she just hated him like from the start immediately 1257 00:46:19,413 --> 00:46:23,000 and I liked him so much so I rebelled against her 1258 00:46:23,034 --> 00:46:24,896 and did things and got in trouble for them. 1259 00:46:24,931 --> 00:46:27,034 And what kind of consequences would you get for that? 1260 00:46:27,068 --> 00:46:29,655 I wasn't allowed to like go out places- 1261 00:46:29,689 --> 00:46:30,827 Did you get grounded? 1262 00:46:30,862 --> 00:46:32,448 My life was basically grounded. 1263 00:46:32,482 --> 00:46:33,862 And so you got pregnant, how did she take that? 1264 00:46:33,896 --> 00:46:35,551 She was angry obviously, 1265 00:46:35,586 --> 00:46:37,137 and then it was like, well what are you gonna do? 1266 00:46:37,172 --> 00:46:39,000 She didn't have like an initial reaction, 1267 00:46:39,034 --> 00:46:40,896 she just questioned me. 1268 00:46:40,931 --> 00:46:42,310 And you were prepared to be a parent? 1269 00:46:42,344 --> 00:46:43,172 No. 1270 00:46:44,586 --> 00:46:46,137 You prepared to step up to try to be a parent? 1271 00:46:46,172 --> 00:46:47,517 I'll try. 1272 00:46:47,551 --> 00:46:48,344 To try. 1273 00:46:48,379 --> 00:46:49,620 Yeah. 1274 00:46:49,655 --> 00:46:50,620 Is it different than you expected? 1275 00:46:50,655 --> 00:46:51,413 Yeah. 1276 00:46:51,448 --> 00:46:52,689 How? 1277 00:46:52,724 --> 00:46:53,482 I thought I was gonna be a little bit easier, 1278 00:46:53,517 --> 00:46:54,310 but it's not easy. 1279 00:46:55,758 --> 00:46:57,931 And again, sex education classes in high school? 1280 00:46:57,965 --> 00:47:00,551 They promote abstinence and-- 1281 00:47:00,586 --> 00:47:02,758 [Stacey] And him get a condom, I mean. 1282 00:47:02,793 --> 00:47:03,896 They don't even say that. 1283 00:47:03,931 --> 00:47:04,724 They don't? 1284 00:47:04,758 --> 00:47:05,586 [Daniel] No. 1285 00:47:06,862 --> 00:47:08,551 Stacey, what do you think it should include? 1286 00:47:08,586 --> 00:47:10,896 What do you think it should include? 1287 00:47:10,931 --> 00:47:13,137 Oh my god, something to give these young ladies 1288 00:47:13,172 --> 00:47:14,931 an opportunity to make a decision 1289 00:47:14,965 --> 00:47:16,896 when they've god forbid want to have sex, 1290 00:47:16,931 --> 00:47:18,689 but I mean it's happened and obviously. 1291 00:47:18,724 --> 00:47:21,482 I think negotiation skills are what are essential 1292 00:47:21,517 --> 00:47:23,896 and that's usually left out of these education classes, 1293 00:47:23,931 --> 00:47:26,793 is to be able to listen to what you want and negotiate it. 1294 00:47:26,827 --> 00:47:27,655 Yeah. 1295 00:47:29,137 --> 00:47:30,000 It's not easy. 1296 00:47:32,172 --> 00:47:34,034 No, it's definitely put a lot of stress 1297 00:47:34,068 --> 00:47:35,896 on our relationship for sure. 1298 00:47:36,724 --> 00:47:37,551 Yeah. 1299 00:47:40,137 --> 00:47:40,965 You can't take back. 1300 00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:42,000 [Emily] No. 1301 00:47:43,379 --> 00:47:44,655 Well, you guys, thank you for joining us. 1302 00:47:44,689 --> 00:47:45,724 Appreciate it, Stacey. 1303 00:47:45,758 --> 00:47:46,551 Thank you sir. 1304 00:47:46,586 --> 00:47:47,827 Good luck. 1305 00:47:47,862 --> 00:47:49,827 Daniel, keep going man, keep pushing. 1306 00:47:49,862 --> 00:47:51,034 I'll try. 1307 00:47:51,068 --> 00:47:53,206 Next, we're gonna have all the dads out here 1308 00:47:53,241 --> 00:47:54,724 right here on this stage 1309 00:47:54,758 --> 00:47:57,689 to see what they thought when watching their own episodes. 1310 00:47:57,724 --> 00:47:59,965 So stay put, do not go away. 1311 00:48:00,000 --> 00:48:01,379 [audience applauding] 1312 00:48:01,413 --> 00:48:08,344 ♪♪ 1313 00:48:10,551 --> 00:48:13,689 [applauding] 1314 00:48:13,724 --> 00:48:14,931 We're back. 1315 00:48:14,965 --> 00:48:17,586 I'm Dr. Drew, and this is Life after Labor. 1316 00:48:17,620 --> 00:48:20,034 As you know, 16 and Pregnant is all about the moms, 1317 00:48:20,068 --> 00:48:22,310 but their day-in day-out lives are greatly impacted 1318 00:48:22,344 --> 00:48:23,896 by these guys right here, 1319 00:48:23,931 --> 00:48:25,379 the babies' fathers. 1320 00:48:25,413 --> 00:48:28,206 Now I want to hear their side of the story. 1321 00:48:28,241 --> 00:48:30,724 We've got a little bit of a boys club going here. 1322 00:48:30,758 --> 00:48:32,275 Never done this before 1323 00:48:32,310 --> 00:48:35,103 partly because we've never had enough men to do this. 1324 00:48:35,137 --> 00:48:37,724 So, first of all, congratulations, gentlemen, 1325 00:48:37,758 --> 00:48:39,758 for not just being another statistic. 1326 00:48:39,793 --> 00:48:42,137 [applauding] 1327 00:48:43,034 --> 00:48:44,241 Show of hands. 1328 00:48:44,275 --> 00:48:45,689 How many watch your episodes and regret 1329 00:48:45,724 --> 00:48:46,862 something that you did? 1330 00:48:48,068 --> 00:48:50,931 [sighs] Keep thinkin'. 1331 00:48:50,965 --> 00:48:53,413 [chuckles] One by one, the hands go up. 1332 00:48:53,448 --> 00:48:55,379 How many of you think you will be regularly involved 1333 00:48:55,413 --> 00:48:57,931 in your child's life 10 years from now? 1334 00:48:59,172 --> 00:49:00,620 You guys are not the norm. 1335 00:49:00,655 --> 00:49:03,862 You should be the norm, but you're not the norm. 1336 00:49:03,896 --> 00:49:06,000 Anybody have any questions to start out? 1337 00:49:06,034 --> 00:49:08,310 What's been the hardest thing to give up? 1338 00:49:08,344 --> 00:49:10,413 Yeah, I gave up basically my childhood. 1339 00:49:11,827 --> 00:49:13,344 I mean, that's what you do. 1340 00:49:13,379 --> 00:49:15,310 You give everything up. 1341 00:49:15,344 --> 00:49:17,310 You can't look at other women anymore. 1342 00:49:17,344 --> 00:49:18,620 [laughing] 1343 00:49:18,655 --> 00:49:20,551 I don't know, you can look, just don't touch. 1344 00:49:20,586 --> 00:49:22,896 [laughing] 1345 00:49:22,931 --> 00:49:24,379 [Teen Dad] That would not fly with [muffled speaking]. 1346 00:49:24,413 --> 00:49:25,586 You guys the kind of dads you thought you'd be? 1347 00:49:25,620 --> 00:49:27,344 I hope so, I hope so. 1348 00:49:27,379 --> 00:49:28,379 You had something in your mind 1349 00:49:28,413 --> 00:49:30,793 that you wanted to live up to? 1350 00:49:30,827 --> 00:49:32,344 That was always the rock in my life. 1351 00:49:32,379 --> 00:49:33,620 It was always my dad. 1352 00:49:33,655 --> 00:49:35,275 Always, he was always the one I could turn to. 1353 00:49:35,310 --> 00:49:37,482 He was the only one that was supporting me, 1354 00:49:37,517 --> 00:49:41,172 so if I could just be like him or even half as good as him, 1355 00:49:41,206 --> 00:49:42,379 I know I'm doin' a good job. 1356 00:49:42,413 --> 00:49:43,275 Anybody feel like they're doing 1357 00:49:43,310 --> 00:49:44,482 a better job as a dad than... 1358 00:49:44,517 --> 00:49:47,068 Yeah, I feel I'm doin' a lot better job 1359 00:49:47,103 --> 00:49:48,586 than my dad, though. 1360 00:49:48,620 --> 00:49:50,586 I mean, my dad was there for me, 1361 00:49:50,620 --> 00:49:52,413 but he wasn't there to raise me, though. 1362 00:49:52,448 --> 00:49:54,827 I'm goin' to at least try to be there for my daughter, 1363 00:49:54,862 --> 00:49:56,344 a lot more. 1364 00:49:56,379 --> 00:49:57,862 It's important for the girls, the little girls. 1365 00:49:57,896 --> 00:49:58,689 You know that, right? 1366 00:49:58,724 --> 00:49:59,620 Yeah. 1367 00:49:59,655 --> 00:50:00,551 [Dr. Drew] Dads being there 1368 00:50:00,586 --> 00:50:02,896 is a huge deal for young women. 1369 00:50:02,931 --> 00:50:05,068 James, was it me, you, and Alex, 1370 00:50:05,103 --> 00:50:07,034 I think we got the only girls on there. 1371 00:50:07,068 --> 00:50:08,310 They grow up, man, we're goin' to have to hate 1372 00:50:08,344 --> 00:50:10,586 the same dudes we once was, though. 1373 00:50:10,620 --> 00:50:11,862 Hey man, I'm gonna look back like, 1374 00:50:11,896 --> 00:50:14,344 "Man, I was that dude, man, 18 years ago. 1375 00:50:14,379 --> 00:50:15,586 "That was me, man." 1376 00:50:15,620 --> 00:50:17,517 You could talk to those guys now. 1377 00:50:17,551 --> 00:50:18,793 They're out there watchin' this show. 1378 00:50:18,827 --> 00:50:19,724 What do you tell 'em? 1379 00:50:19,758 --> 00:50:21,379 Just kind of like understand 1380 00:50:21,413 --> 00:50:23,931 that your partner needs you. 1381 00:50:23,965 --> 00:50:26,827 There's no way that they can do it on their own 1382 00:50:26,862 --> 00:50:28,965 and be completely successful. 1383 00:50:29,000 --> 00:50:31,000 It'd be so much harder on someone 1384 00:50:31,034 --> 00:50:32,965 if they're by themselves. 1385 00:50:33,000 --> 00:50:35,137 I mean, if you don't stick with them, 1386 00:50:35,172 --> 00:50:37,551 that says something about your character. 1387 00:50:37,586 --> 00:50:38,655 Mm-hmm Well said. 1388 00:50:40,551 --> 00:50:42,620 There's a lot of support out there for teen moms, 1389 00:50:42,655 --> 00:50:44,275 not so much for teen dads, is there? 1390 00:50:44,310 --> 00:50:45,827 Yeah. Mm-hmm. 1391 00:50:45,862 --> 00:50:47,965 I just want to take this second to applaud you guys 1392 00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:50,000 for hanging in and showin' your character 1393 00:50:50,034 --> 00:50:51,344 and being a part of the girls' lives 1394 00:50:51,379 --> 00:50:52,724 and your children's lives. 1395 00:50:52,758 --> 00:50:55,000 It says a lot, so well done on that. 1396 00:50:55,034 --> 00:50:57,413 [applauding] 1397 00:50:59,724 --> 00:51:01,931 How does it feel being able to share with other teen dads? 1398 00:51:01,965 --> 00:51:03,551 'Cause really, there isn't anything like this out there 1399 00:51:03,586 --> 00:51:04,482 where you get together with the guys 1400 00:51:04,517 --> 00:51:05,448 who are in your position. 1401 00:51:05,482 --> 00:51:06,689 How does that feel? 1402 00:51:06,724 --> 00:51:08,206 It makes you feel good 'cause you're 1403 00:51:08,241 --> 00:51:10,620 around positive men. 1404 00:51:10,655 --> 00:51:12,689 It's really like, man, you feel like you hang out 1405 00:51:12,724 --> 00:51:14,793 with these guys, you can't go wrong. 1406 00:51:14,827 --> 00:51:16,758 Just hanging out with these guys for the past couple days, 1407 00:51:16,793 --> 00:51:18,137 it feels like-- 1408 00:51:18,172 --> 00:51:19,172 We understand each other. 1409 00:51:19,206 --> 00:51:20,655 We are on a same level, 1410 00:51:20,689 --> 00:51:22,241 whereas I've grown up with people that I've been 1411 00:51:22,275 --> 00:51:24,655 best friends with forever, and it's like 1412 00:51:24,689 --> 00:51:27,034 we run out of stuff to talk about. 1413 00:51:27,068 --> 00:51:27,965 We never do. 1414 00:51:28,000 --> 00:51:29,379 Good for you guys. 1415 00:51:29,413 --> 00:51:30,862 All right, gentlemen, thank you. 1416 00:51:30,896 --> 00:51:32,724 We're going to take a break, and when we return, 1417 00:51:32,758 --> 00:51:35,206 Ashley, she's here with her mom Debbie 1418 00:51:35,241 --> 00:51:37,896 and baby Callie's adoptive parents, Kenny and Lisa. 1419 00:51:37,931 --> 00:51:40,344 It's the emotional reunion everyone's been waiting for. 1420 00:51:40,379 --> 00:51:41,275 We'll be right back. 1421 00:51:41,310 --> 00:51:42,551 [applauding] 1422 00:51:42,586 --> 00:51:50,551 ♪♪ 1423 00:51:50,586 --> 00:51:56,965 ♪♪ 1424 00:51:57,000 --> 00:51:59,137 Welcome back to the 16 and Pregnant finale special. 1425 00:51:59,172 --> 00:52:01,551 I'm Dr. Drew, and listen to this fact. 1426 00:52:01,586 --> 00:52:05,413 Of the 57% of teen pregnancies that end in a live birth, 1427 00:52:05,448 --> 00:52:09,034 only about 1% results in an adoption. 1428 00:52:09,068 --> 00:52:11,034 Ashley chose adoption for baby Cali, 1429 00:52:11,068 --> 00:52:13,620 and she's here with her mom Debbie today. 1430 00:52:13,655 --> 00:52:14,862 Hey guys. 1431 00:52:14,896 --> 00:52:16,724 So does that piece of data surprise you? 1432 00:52:16,758 --> 00:52:18,896 Only 1% ends up in adoption. 1433 00:52:18,931 --> 00:52:21,344 Yeah, that 1% nothing. 1434 00:52:21,379 --> 00:52:22,689 It's a tiny number. 1435 00:52:22,724 --> 00:52:24,620 Well Ashley's uncle and aunt, 1436 00:52:24,655 --> 00:52:27,172 who we will come to know is Cali's adoptive parents 1437 00:52:27,206 --> 00:52:28,862 are here with us as well. 1438 00:52:28,896 --> 00:52:30,862 We'll bring them out along with baby Cali 1439 00:52:30,896 --> 00:52:34,103 after this recap of Ashley's up and down experience 1440 00:52:34,137 --> 00:52:35,379 being 16 and pregnant. 1441 00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:41,103 Who was the first person to have adoption 1442 00:52:41,137 --> 00:52:42,344 out on the table? 1443 00:52:42,379 --> 00:52:45,103 Both my mom and I, we considered every option. 1444 00:52:45,137 --> 00:52:46,034 Your aunt Lisa called. 1445 00:52:46,068 --> 00:52:47,310 Lisa and Kenny called 1446 00:52:47,344 --> 00:52:49,137 and they wanted me to ask you 1447 00:52:49,172 --> 00:52:51,482 if it was okay if they could adopt your baby. 1448 00:52:51,517 --> 00:52:55,172 Well thank you for doing this and stuff, it's relieving. 1449 00:52:55,206 --> 00:52:56,241 Here we go. 1450 00:52:57,103 --> 00:52:58,206 There she is. 1451 00:53:01,379 --> 00:53:03,379 It's gonna be hard to sign the papers. 1452 00:53:08,655 --> 00:53:10,586 You honestly think you made the wrong choice, 1453 00:53:10,620 --> 00:53:12,034 you know? yes. 1454 00:53:12,068 --> 00:53:13,793 I wish I could go down and get her, 1455 00:53:13,827 --> 00:53:16,517 like, I would seriously drive down there right now. 1456 00:53:16,551 --> 00:53:18,620 I want to do this and I feel like I can do this. 1457 00:53:18,655 --> 00:53:21,172 We just want to see that you're confident. 1458 00:53:21,206 --> 00:53:23,586 I can do this, I'm gonna be the best mom that I can be. 1459 00:53:23,620 --> 00:53:26,068 I've had her for about a month now. 1460 00:53:26,103 --> 00:53:28,034 [baby crying] 1461 00:53:28,068 --> 00:53:30,862 Sometimes I think like I never should've went and got her. 1462 00:53:30,896 --> 00:53:32,172 Lisa. 1463 00:53:32,206 --> 00:53:33,689 [Lisa] Hey Ash. I've been thinking about it, 1464 00:53:33,724 --> 00:53:36,413 and I just think the best thing is not with me. 1465 00:53:37,724 --> 00:53:42,724 ♪ I feel so sick that I can't unmiss being ♪ 1466 00:53:49,068 --> 00:53:50,896 Emotional for both of you guys. 1467 00:53:55,137 --> 00:53:56,896 How do you feel about the decision now? 1468 00:53:58,413 --> 00:53:59,896 It's still ambivalent? 1469 00:54:08,620 --> 00:54:10,344 What's the hardest part? 1470 00:54:10,379 --> 00:54:11,862 Not seeing her everyday. 1471 00:54:11,896 --> 00:54:14,620 Like, when I had her, I was waking up to her every morning. 1472 00:54:14,655 --> 00:54:18,137 It was still hard, but I still did it. 1473 00:54:19,482 --> 00:54:21,379 Teen pregnancy changed a lot for you. 1474 00:54:23,965 --> 00:54:26,620 Yeah, I didn't even know what I was getting myself into. 1475 00:54:27,793 --> 00:54:29,206 Did you use contraception? 1476 00:54:29,241 --> 00:54:30,241 No. 1477 00:54:30,275 --> 00:54:32,103 [Dr. Drew] At all? No. 1478 00:54:32,137 --> 00:54:33,620 We talked about it though. 1479 00:54:33,655 --> 00:54:35,551 All the time. Yeah, we talked about it. 1480 00:54:35,586 --> 00:54:36,758 Oh yeah, there's that. 1481 00:54:36,793 --> 00:54:38,620 Yeah, we were very open about it. 1482 00:54:38,655 --> 00:54:40,310 I think I messed up though 1483 00:54:40,344 --> 00:54:43,137 because she did come to me at some point and say, 1484 00:54:43,172 --> 00:54:45,000 "I think I wanna get on the pill." 1485 00:54:45,034 --> 00:54:47,034 And we had a heart to heart and I thought, 1486 00:54:47,068 --> 00:54:49,689 we should wait, it should be special. 1487 00:54:49,724 --> 00:54:51,620 And I thought it was resolved. 1488 00:54:51,655 --> 00:54:52,551 [Dr. Drew] And what happened? 1489 00:54:52,586 --> 00:54:53,758 [Ashley] I didn't wait. 1490 00:54:53,793 --> 00:54:55,793 Did he contemplate staying around as a dad? 1491 00:54:55,827 --> 00:54:57,241 We didn't talk, so I don't know 1492 00:54:57,275 --> 00:54:59,103 if he contemplated or not. 1493 00:54:59,137 --> 00:55:01,724 He dated with my best friend. 1494 00:55:01,758 --> 00:55:02,896 Ex best friend. 1495 00:55:02,931 --> 00:55:03,965 I'm so sorry. 1496 00:55:04,827 --> 00:55:07,344 Debbie, when you took Cali back, 1497 00:55:08,793 --> 00:55:10,137 I noticed you were pretty patient about all that. 1498 00:55:10,172 --> 00:55:12,068 What were you actually feeling? 1499 00:55:12,103 --> 00:55:14,241 I just wanted to support whatever choice she made. 1500 00:55:14,275 --> 00:55:16,068 And how do you feel about the adoption? 1501 00:55:16,103 --> 00:55:17,793 Well I'm happy. 1502 00:55:17,827 --> 00:55:20,896 Like I'm really thankful that they are the ones who did it 1503 00:55:20,931 --> 00:55:23,344 because I don't know if I could've given her to strangers. 1504 00:55:23,379 --> 00:55:25,137 But there's always that what it. 1505 00:55:25,172 --> 00:55:27,413 Just like if I kept her, there's always what if. 1506 00:55:27,448 --> 00:55:29,241 Do you wish you'd stuck with the original agreement 1507 00:55:29,275 --> 00:55:30,586 when you left the hospital? 1508 00:55:30,620 --> 00:55:31,379 You wish you hadn't gone through that month 1509 00:55:31,413 --> 00:55:33,000 you had with Cali? 1510 00:55:33,034 --> 00:55:35,068 I don't know because maybe if I didn't bring her back, 1511 00:55:35,103 --> 00:55:36,586 I would've felt like I never tried. 1512 00:55:36,620 --> 00:55:38,482 You guys thought it would be easier 1513 00:55:38,517 --> 00:55:40,793 having a familial adoption. 1514 00:55:40,827 --> 00:55:41,793 Has it been? 1515 00:55:41,827 --> 00:55:42,965 I think it's been amazing. 1516 00:55:43,000 --> 00:55:44,551 I mean I think it's a wonderful, 1517 00:55:44,586 --> 00:55:46,551 I think it's something wonderful that happened, 1518 00:55:46,586 --> 00:55:48,241 because she gets to be in our lives. 1519 00:55:48,275 --> 00:55:52,103 But because it was family, 1520 00:55:53,448 --> 00:55:56,482 everybody had Ashley's best interest at heart 1521 00:55:56,517 --> 00:55:59,551 and at times we'd forgotten what was best for Cali. 1522 00:55:59,586 --> 00:56:01,068 Trying to make Ashley better, 1523 00:56:01,103 --> 00:56:04,413 letting her come back and trying it out for a while 1524 00:56:04,448 --> 00:56:07,413 and of course my brother and my sister were in pain 1525 00:56:07,448 --> 00:56:08,793 and their family was devastated. 1526 00:56:08,827 --> 00:56:10,275 The fact that there was a lot of pain, 1527 00:56:10,310 --> 00:56:12,103 Cali didn't experience it. 1528 00:56:12,137 --> 00:56:13,551 That's the great news. 1529 00:56:13,586 --> 00:56:15,034 She was taken care of, no matter what. 1530 00:56:15,068 --> 00:56:16,689 You guys sucked up all that pain in the front end 1531 00:56:16,724 --> 00:56:19,103 so she didn't have to experience it later. 1532 00:56:19,137 --> 00:56:20,344 Yeah. 1533 00:56:20,379 --> 00:56:21,241 When was the last time you saw Cali? 1534 00:56:21,275 --> 00:56:23,068 Two months? 1535 00:56:23,103 --> 00:56:26,172 Well, Lisa and Kenny are here with baby Cali, 1536 00:56:26,206 --> 00:56:27,724 and let's bring them out right now. 1537 00:56:27,758 --> 00:56:30,000 [applause] 1538 00:56:32,758 --> 00:56:33,965 [Ashley] She's asleep? 1539 00:56:34,000 --> 00:56:36,275 She was, until everybody clapped. 1540 00:56:36,310 --> 00:56:37,620 [Ashley] Can I hold her? 1541 00:56:46,482 --> 00:56:48,034 How's it going for you guys? 1542 00:56:48,068 --> 00:56:49,241 [Kenny] Good. 1543 00:56:49,275 --> 00:56:50,413 How was that month when she took her back, 1544 00:56:50,448 --> 00:56:51,655 it must have been tough? 1545 00:56:52,793 --> 00:56:55,172 It was tough to watch Ashley hurting. 1546 00:56:55,206 --> 00:56:56,344 You know, how she struggled. 1547 00:56:56,379 --> 00:56:57,620 That was tough. 1548 00:56:58,931 --> 00:57:00,896 This is intense for you. 1549 00:57:00,931 --> 00:57:04,068 It is, it's been a tough few months for all of us. 1550 00:57:04,103 --> 00:57:05,965 I mean, we just didn't realize 1551 00:57:06,000 --> 00:57:08,758 the emotions that we would all experience 1552 00:57:08,793 --> 00:57:10,379 and everything we would go through. 1553 00:57:10,413 --> 00:57:13,344 And the time when she decided to give Cali back to you 1554 00:57:13,379 --> 00:57:14,275 after that month, 1555 00:57:14,310 --> 00:57:16,689 tell me about those few days. 1556 00:57:16,724 --> 00:57:18,586 When Cali went back with Ashley, 1557 00:57:18,620 --> 00:57:21,896 we really felt like Ashley was gonna do this. 1558 00:57:21,931 --> 00:57:25,103 We sent her back with the intentions of 1559 00:57:25,137 --> 00:57:26,724 she was not gonna get back to us. 1560 00:57:26,758 --> 00:57:31,034 And for us and our family, to kind of go on. 1561 00:57:31,068 --> 00:57:32,000 You have to think that way? 1562 00:57:32,034 --> 00:57:33,137 We had to think that way, 1563 00:57:33,172 --> 00:57:34,068 and we couldn't think it was possible 1564 00:57:34,103 --> 00:57:35,103 that she would come back. 1565 00:57:35,137 --> 00:57:36,793 We wanted the best 1566 00:57:36,827 --> 00:57:40,103 and I guess we all just came to the conclusion 1567 00:57:40,137 --> 00:57:41,413 that this was the best. 1568 00:57:41,448 --> 00:57:43,000 I don't know if Debbie, 1569 00:57:43,034 --> 00:57:45,448 if they heard what you said about how you felt about that. 1570 00:57:45,482 --> 00:57:48,206 That you're all awesome and incredible 1571 00:57:48,241 --> 00:57:49,931 and wonderful people. 1572 00:57:52,137 --> 00:57:52,965 Don't cry. 1573 00:57:53,000 --> 00:57:54,482 I'm trying not to. 1574 00:57:54,517 --> 00:57:56,241 They're just amazing. 1575 00:57:56,275 --> 00:57:57,379 [Ashley] They are. 1576 00:57:57,413 --> 00:57:58,793 Everything they've done for us. 1577 00:58:00,655 --> 00:58:03,758 Well hats off to you guys for absorbing all this, 1578 00:58:03,793 --> 00:58:05,655 both these young people's behalf. 1579 00:58:05,689 --> 00:58:08,827 She is very lucky to have all these people in her life, 1580 00:58:08,862 --> 00:58:09,793 is she not? 1581 00:58:09,827 --> 00:58:11,241 Yes, okay. 1582 00:58:11,275 --> 00:58:13,413 We're gonna take one last break, 1583 00:58:13,448 --> 00:58:14,965 then return with all the moms 1584 00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:17,241 who will have the chance to ask questions of each other, 1585 00:58:17,275 --> 00:58:18,448 we'll be right back. 1586 00:58:18,482 --> 00:58:27,000 [audience applause] 1587 00:58:27,034 --> 00:58:29,068 [audience applause] 1588 00:58:29,103 --> 00:58:31,172 To find out what you can do to prevent pregnancy 1589 00:58:31,206 --> 00:58:33,172 go to itsyoursexlife.org 1590 00:58:33,206 --> 00:58:35,000 ♪♪ 1591 00:58:35,034 --> 00:58:38,931 [audience applauding] 1592 00:58:38,965 --> 00:58:41,482 Welcome back to life after labor, I'm Dr. Drew. 1593 00:58:41,517 --> 00:58:42,827 Now, we've spent a lot of time 1594 00:58:42,862 --> 00:58:44,379 talking about prevention today, 1595 00:58:44,413 --> 00:58:47,206 but there is much more for you to learn online. 1596 00:58:47,241 --> 00:58:50,586 So head on over to 16andpregnant.mtv.com 1597 00:58:50,620 --> 00:58:52,896 and get yourself educated. 1598 00:58:52,931 --> 00:58:55,482 I'm joined now by all nine of our teen moms. 1599 00:58:55,517 --> 00:58:57,965 We got to know each of them over the course of the season. 1600 00:58:58,000 --> 00:59:00,137 I've had a chance to talk with them here today. 1601 00:59:00,172 --> 00:59:03,482 Now it's time to let them ask each other questions. 1602 00:59:03,517 --> 00:59:05,206 Kristina, you had a question? 1603 00:59:05,241 --> 00:59:06,931 I have a question for Marquise. 1604 00:59:08,551 --> 00:59:11,482 I wanna know how you got over it when James cheated on you. 1605 00:59:13,000 --> 00:59:17,551 I just realized that I was blaming James now 1606 00:59:17,586 --> 00:59:19,241 for James who was. 1607 00:59:20,413 --> 00:59:22,448 If I'm just gonna keep getting on him 1608 00:59:22,482 --> 00:59:24,413 about something he did back then, 1609 00:59:24,448 --> 00:59:27,206 it's only hurting me, you know what I mean? 1610 00:59:27,241 --> 00:59:29,344 Not hurting nobody but me. 1611 00:59:29,379 --> 00:59:31,034 Aubrey, did you have a question for Ashley? 1612 00:59:31,068 --> 00:59:34,758 I just kinda wanted to let you know 1613 00:59:34,793 --> 00:59:36,724 that we're all here for you. 1614 00:59:36,758 --> 00:59:41,379 And you said in your show that you felt like 1615 00:59:41,413 --> 00:59:44,517 people looked down on you for giving up your baby, 1616 00:59:44,551 --> 00:59:48,241 and I could never look down on you for that, ever. 1617 00:59:48,275 --> 00:59:53,241 You made the strongest decision and I respect it 100%. 1618 00:59:53,896 --> 00:59:55,034 Thank you. 1619 00:59:55,068 --> 00:59:57,275 I have a question for everyone. 1620 00:59:57,310 --> 01:00:00,655 I want to know how long everyone had been 1621 01:00:00,689 --> 01:00:02,275 with their significant other 1622 01:00:02,310 --> 01:00:04,448 before they got pregnant. Mm-mm, you don't wanna ask. 1623 01:00:04,482 --> 01:00:05,413 You don't wanna ask that. 1624 01:00:05,448 --> 01:00:06,896 [girls laughing] 1625 01:00:06,931 --> 01:00:08,103 [Presenter] Anybody who wants to answer that? 1626 01:00:08,137 --> 01:00:09,172 A month. 1627 01:00:09,206 --> 01:00:10,448 A month? A month. 1628 01:00:10,482 --> 01:00:11,827 Same, I was with him for a year and a half. 1629 01:00:11,862 --> 01:00:13,275 Year and a half. Year and a half. 1630 01:00:13,310 --> 01:00:14,448 Year and a half. I think it was eight months, 1631 01:00:14,482 --> 01:00:15,724 I'm not sure. Eight months? 1632 01:00:15,758 --> 01:00:16,965 Year and a half. Year and a half. 1633 01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:18,103 Year and a half. Year and a half. 1634 01:00:18,137 --> 01:00:19,103 I was nine months. Nine months. 1635 01:00:19,137 --> 01:00:20,620 Six months. Six months. 1636 01:00:20,655 --> 01:00:22,724 [girls laughing] 1637 01:00:22,758 --> 01:00:24,068 Am I the only one? 1638 01:00:24,103 --> 01:00:26,551 Ashley, Ashley I just. Ashley? 1639 01:00:26,586 --> 01:00:27,862 Two and a half. 1640 01:00:27,896 --> 01:00:30,206 Two and a half months? 1641 01:00:30,241 --> 01:00:32,310 Months? Enough months? 1642 01:00:32,344 --> 01:00:33,586 Let me ask something. 1643 01:00:33,620 --> 01:00:35,068 Ashley, since you feel I wanna ask, 1644 01:00:35,103 --> 01:00:38,103 did you feel like if you didn't you would lose him? 1645 01:00:38,137 --> 01:00:39,620 Uh-uh. No? Okay. 1646 01:00:39,655 --> 01:00:41,034 I don't know, I don't even know why. 1647 01:00:41,068 --> 01:00:42,379 Oh my god, I don't even know why. 1648 01:00:42,413 --> 01:00:43,862 Like, I think about it and just 1649 01:00:43,896 --> 01:00:45,034 don't even know what I was thinking. 1650 01:00:45,068 --> 01:00:46,000 I do too. 1651 01:00:46,034 --> 01:00:47,172 I've felt like that before. 1652 01:00:47,206 --> 01:00:48,034 [Presenter] If you didn't have sex with him 1653 01:00:48,068 --> 01:00:49,241 you'd lose him? Yeah. 1654 01:00:49,275 --> 01:00:50,517 Yeah, a lot of girls feel that way. 1655 01:00:50,551 --> 01:00:53,517 I had something to say to all of the girls. 1656 01:00:53,551 --> 01:00:55,758 When I thought about coming here 1657 01:00:56,931 --> 01:00:58,965 I thought I was just maybe an awkward person 1658 01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:02,793 and I just didn't fit in, 'cause after I had my baby 1659 01:01:02,827 --> 01:01:05,758 me and my close friends all grew apart. 1660 01:01:05,793 --> 01:01:08,862 I don't have any of my close friends 1661 01:01:10,275 --> 01:01:14,655 to call on anymore when. [sobs] 1662 01:01:14,689 --> 01:01:16,172 [Girl] Don't do it, please do not do it. 1663 01:01:16,206 --> 01:01:18,517 When I need to talk to somebody. 1664 01:01:18,551 --> 01:01:21,206 And when I got here and met all of y'all, 1665 01:01:21,241 --> 01:01:23,965 it's like I was closer to y'all 1666 01:01:24,000 --> 01:01:26,965 than people I've grown up with my whole life. 1667 01:01:27,000 --> 01:01:31,344 [girls laughing and sobbing] Me too. 1668 01:01:31,379 --> 01:01:32,620 Ladies, thank you. 1669 01:01:32,655 --> 01:01:34,068 Thank you very much for sharing, 1670 01:01:34,103 --> 01:01:36,034 thank you for being so supportive of one another. 1671 01:01:36,068 --> 01:01:37,931 Thank you to the dads, thank you to the families, 1672 01:01:37,965 --> 01:01:39,689 thank you all for being here as well. 1673 01:01:39,724 --> 01:01:42,379 To those of you at home, thanks for tuning in this season. 1674 01:01:42,413 --> 01:01:46,344 Now, let's bring out the babies and we'll see you next time. 1675 01:01:46,379 --> 01:01:51,379 ♪♪ [audience applauding]